Would you still consider it a lie even if you don't say anything?
By Jenith
@Jenith (1381)
Philippines
January 11, 2013 7:08am CST
Being honest is always the best to avoid complications in the future but what if you tend to hide something to your spouse by not saying anything. Would it be a lie?
5 responses
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Jan 13
Hi,
Hiding something that are essential to a relationship is still a lie. If it is a trivial matter, then it can be considered one less thing to fight over with.
For example, you had an affair and you don't say anything about it to your spouse, the act of living together is a big lie, you pretend you have have not done anything in breaking your vows. On the other hand, feeling irritated by the bad habits, being silent about it does not constitute a lie, unless you are asked about it and you don't say real your feelings out loud.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
13 Jan 13
How about me? Am I lying? I didn't say anything to my family because I have inner secret which is bad. For me is good, but for them is bad. I just kept silent.
I don't understand.
Maybe its not a lie. Maybe its a dishonest act. Anyway, what is the meaning of lie? I better check the dictionary. Sorry. I am a little bit confuse, because I have so many secrets and I don't say anything. They didn't know anything about me.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
13 Jan 13
You are correct. It says "false statement" or "false impression". Yeah. Its a lie and so, I am lying too. Ha ha but then, everyone lies because we have all secrets, which no one knows. Ha ha. It says "false impression" to us. Nobody's perfect.
We all lie, because we have all secrets and its like normal in our society except for those husband and wife. If people knew that either one of them have an affair and they didn't say anything to their partner, its a lie.
Ah. Okay. I agree.
I lie to my family and friends because I have a secret, which no one knows. @IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
11 Jan 13
No. For me, it would be a lie if you deny it. Well, you just keeping it as a secret. If she didn't ask anything and you just not saying anything then, it would not be a lie unless she ask you and then, you deny it, well, that is a lie.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
11 Jan 13
Honestly speaking, I hide something from my friends and from my family. Anyway, its my secret. Ha ha and so, I don't consider it lying because they didn't ask my about my secret... but if they ask me what they knew about me and I keep denying it or I keep inventing story then, I consider myself as a lier.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
For friends, its fine to hide something. To keep secret. But in terms of a couple I think it's a big mistake. There must be a transparency in the family or else expect for trouble that might come. There's no need to hide to your spouse if you are true to him/her.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
Of course it is. By being silent, you hide what you should have told your spouse and that's lying.
Though, sometimes we have to be like that, rather than igniting some sparks in him, when you know that it will surely annoy or anger him.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
13 Jan 13
No matter how you look at it. Its a lie but sometimes we do tend to tell white lies to protect people;s feelings.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
White lies on your spouse? If you are afraid that your spouse might be hurt of the information, you can say it later. Just wait for the right time and don't forget it. This may apply to those who are loyal and honest with their love ones coz in the first place, how could you love your spouse if you are hiding something. Remember, big things starts with little ones.
