dont expect too much so you will not be disaapointed hard enough..

I understand what you feel. I wonder why your husband doesn't want to join the fun. Have you asked your husband if you can go without him? I don't want to miss an occasion with friends and family because it's not everyday that we're given the chance to mingle with them.

Yeah sure, many times at that! I mean when our expectations are not met, it's just so natural to feel that way, it's the initial reaction especially when what happens is the exact opposite of what really want. It's part of life.

Sorry to hear that your husband doesn't want to go. That would be disappointing. I have felt the same way when it comes to gatherings. My husband often says he doesn't want to go. How about if you go by yourself and just let them know he couldn't make it. That's what I often end up having to do. I'm a social person and feel that it is in my best interest to spend time around other people.

Not really disappointed but more that I do not understand why.. my husband says he is not able to introduce me to his friends/clients if we meet them on the street etc. Which means if we are walking outside and he meest someone he will talk to them (for a short time or longer) and he is not introducing me at all. I am just standing there (or by now walk on alone since I know/see the people he meest find it weird/strange he is not introducing me to them or them to me). On the other hand it makes him mad if I would do the same (and it gives him a very bad mood). If it comes to your husbands highschool friends and their trip. Your husband has to decide what he wants, these are his friends before you met them. It's not important if you find his reasons/excuses good enough, what counts is he doesn't like to go. I think there is a very good reason for that.

This is so true, most especially when you are expecting some things from person you are really attached to. I also had some instance that someone promises me on something and I was really overwhelmed that I was waiting for it to come, but at the end, it leaves to nothing. So the lesson learned here, is expect for nothing rather than putting high hopes that leaves you to rejection.

Well, just understand your husband. Maybe he is not comfortable with that idea and he is not in the mood to mingle with his friends together with their families. Just set a bonding time with the two of you with your kids. That's the nature of men, if they do not like , then we should not pursue to encourage them, just respect their decision.

Well, my husband practically disappoints me everytime I tell him that I am meeting with my High School friends. I do not know why he wouldn't allow me to have some time with them. But there is one friend of mine who happens to be his very distant relative that when she comes over to Manila and asks permissions from him if I can join them, he'd readily say yes. So there are times that I have to make my sister as an alibi so i could meet up with friends.

I do get disappointed with my husband too at times. He would usually refuse to go to a family gathering like that on Jan. 1 , when his cousin gave a thanksgiving lunch. But he has a valid reason , he is to report to work. Our daughter didn't want to go also. What my mother-in-law and i did was call his other son and he drove the car for us and we had a wonderful time eating lunch at the said party. We have fun catching up with my husband's relatives stories for each other. I always battle disappointments. If they don't want, then i can go.

Yes, I've disappointed on something before. It was on Christmas day, where I was already plan to do a presentation at my teacher's house. When, I reached there, then I told my teacher, I got a presentation to show you and all my friends there. But, it turned out to be that my teacher already had her presentation to show. After her presentation had finished, she said to them that I had a presentation to show. But, at that time I know it was not enough time to do mine. So, I said next time I'll do the presentation. After all the preparation that I've done, I couldn't manage to do the presentation. I'm kind of down and upset too.

Your title is similar to how i try to look at some things because I don't want to be really disappointed with failure or something. I try to remember not to get my hopes up. I will wish for your husband to do this so you can't be disappointed and also so he can accomplish something...

yes! i had this once. and really hate it. it was my birthday,he was promise me a lovely gift, but until we broke up i'll never receive that give

not really it is from expectation you will be able to dream and be excited. there could be so many reasons of disappointment but not expecting on getting something is not my game. If i dream and I wanted to get something, i expect too much, I visualize it... it could be disappointing in case something happened along the way but hey that's the challenge .. on how to face it.

Sometimes things will happen in a way that we don't want them to. We didn't ask for it to happen that way, they just do. We can't control the world. And sometimes it is normal to feel bad. However it's nit really nice if we always feel bad about things not going our way. So what we can do is to expect less. Lower your expectations to the point that they are already met. That way you won't get frustrated easily no matter what comes to you. :) good luck! Take care. :D

I am sure from time to time we encountered disappointment in our lives, that is why better to not expect much, esp. if you know the person you are expecting it from. For me, I dont expect much anymore from anyone, but I just wait for surprises, more exciting. Although, i said i dont like expecting, still happens from time to time. And speaking of disappointed, I was disappointed last Christmas because I was hoping to get what i wanted but did not, but since i know my partner is not good at that, or not paying attentions on those, I was just happy with what he gave me. Maybe your husband just making excuse because he cant say direct to you that he does not feel like really going, that happens, we dont feel like going out sometimes. So, I will just wait when it is sure and here already!

hi there neelia27, indeed, every expectation leads to disappointments. and this thing happens normally though we are doing our best not to experience it but still situation do exist. asking about me, well, i have faced a lot of disappointments last year. hoping that everything will be taken for granted, since i want all of those disappointments to forgotten as they still bring heartaches to me until now. though days have passes by, but the memories remains. anyway, with your situation, it is just normal for a husband and wife relationship but perhaps, your hubby does not really like to go. or perhaps, try to encourage him to do a family outing instead. . what you think..

Im sorry it can be so upsetting to get our hopes up and then be let down. I have come to the conclusion that I will not expect much of my husband either anymore so I will not be let down so bad with things. I think thats the best thing to do...