A friend, mentor and guide
@allknowing (136512)
India
January 11, 2013 10:49pm CST
We all need someone in our life who we can fall back on whenever the need rises. And that person in my life has been my husband. Initially he would get all worked up and almost blame me for whatever is troubling me but at the end of it all he would pick me up from the mess and sort out matters.
I had my landscaped designing business and one of the builders had given me an assignment. The changes that took place in his organisation led to his cancelling the assignment and he asked me to return the advance that he had paid. I had already done a bit of work. My refusal to return the amount resulted in threats, etc. and that is when my husband sorted it out by taking the advice of his lawyer. Not only did the builder not ask for the advance but even offered to pay me more as by then the cost of material had sky rocketed. I did not do his job, not until he apologised. He did not apologise and there ended the matter.
Do you have such a person too and any memories of anything that you will never forget?
6 responses
@allknowing (136512)
• India
14 Jan 13
Nothing like your own husband being that for you where openness is far easy to display rather than having someone outside the house!
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
13 Jan 13
well, since he is your husband, he should help you and guide you at anyway. Thankfully, you got the advice from the lawyer, and your customer also willing to waive the advance payment that he already paid you. I got a couple of promising order from 2 customers, but at the end, they all didn't work out so good. So, I guess certain factor just won't allow good things to happen to us. Shame to say that, we all work so hard, but we didn't see much good result at the end.
@allknowing (136512)
• India
13 Jan 13
There are ups and downs in one's life and here I did feel it was a victory as my client had to change their course of action.
What I have learnt from my husband is to be independent and learn to take decisions and face opposition without batting an eyelid. I do it now though it did take a while.
@vandana7 (100297)
• India
12 Jan 13
Of late a lot of people. Earlier though, I tended to bottle up a lot, and it used to cause a lot of mental pressure. If I had to pin point any one person, I would say one of the family friends, called Raghava Rao uncle. I have always admired him. He has always been very straight in his dealings, and when he advises he does not think of his gain, nor is he jealous of another person. Usually, I notice that people feel jealous when they see another person come up in life. I have not been like that, but it is my observation that people subconsciously do not like another person climbing the ladder. Some go to the extent of sabotaging. I am glad to say I dont belong to these categories. He is the one who helped me get the will. :)
@allknowing (136512)
• India
12 Jan 13
There is a lot behind that will I know vandana. Something that has given you the much desired peace. From your mumbling here I know you went through hell what with your relatives breathing down your neck and this gentlemen sorted it out for you.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
There will be no other special people for me that I am sure could be all three persons in one. And that would be my parents. I feel that they are the only person that I can trust. And they are the only person that could care, love and understand me as much. Everything that I have in mind, I tell them. And I feel safer that way.
Well, my husband could be somewhere in between. We've had a lot of issues and I do not feel that what my parents have been given me emotionally, spiritually can be equalled by my husband.
@allknowing (136512)
• India
12 Jan 13
I had to face a lot from my siblings only because I being the youngest how dare I achieve so many things in my life and it is my husband that brought out the best in me and help me face the indifference that was meted out to me by my siblings which was not easy to face if not for the support I got from my husband.
I am glad you have someone you can fall back on.
@allknowing (136512)
• India
12 Jan 13
Is he cool headed too Mayla!
Most men do sort out matters but many I have noticed get het up before sorting them out!
Most men do sort out matters but many I have noticed get het up before sorting them out! @itzmealbert34 (33)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
I cherish all the memories with my family and friends. I will never forget them in my entire life. They are with me in good or bad times. I am very grateful to have them.
@allknowing (136512)
• India
12 Jan 13
I hope they have also taught you how to be independent and sort out matters yourself just as my husband did. Sorting out matters ourselves makes us strong. And that is what these mentors normally do. They teach you to be independent.
