Do you love me?
By kenshin2143
@kenshin2143 (1880)
Philippines
January 12, 2013 8:00am CST
This are the words uttered by my friend to her new boyfriend. She accepted the guy just yesterday and was so desperate to test to boy's conviction and asked "Do you really love me?". I told her that, its not appropriate for ask something as heavy as that to a person. Then I asked her, "how about you, do you love him?", then she answered "not so". People really tend to have assurance on certain things but forgets to assess themselves for errors.
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5 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8692)
• Netherlands
12 Jan 13
I do not agree with you it's not appropriate to ask someone if he/she loves you. If you start a relationship it should be clear before you start one! Why exactly she asked her bf if he really loves her only she can know.. and since she is not loving him that much it might be a relief to her as well if he doesn't feel that crazy about her either.
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@sweetloveforeve (13118)
• Portugal
12 Jan 13
ken i think you are right cause sometimes we feel like we need a bf to be happier. we girls are like that sometimes and then end up sad. cause guys dont care for us as much as we care for them. but in your friend's case, you say that she doesnt love her boyfriend right now, so she is with him why? just to have a boyfriend? she should wait for a guy that she loves.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
Ow sorry. I forgot to mention that she was still young and I really find her actions very childish, I am not being judgmental here, I am just narrating things I can observe from her. She did asked the same question from her last boyfriend and broke up with that guy after a week realizing that she just missed the feeling of having a boyfriend. That is why I always told her to stay away from relationship because she is still not in the right age and mind. But she keeps on having one and always ends up having the wrong guy.
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@csabaholcz (843)
• Hungary
12 Jan 13
Wait a minute! Your friend asked a guy if he loves her. But the girl doesn't like they boy. Wow, on Mylot sometimes I see so strange stories. Maybe your friend just needs some attention 
when was the last time when she was in a relationship?
when was the last time when she was in a relationship? @kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
She said "not so", I do not know if that's in a positive or negative way. But if you will ask me, you were right, she just needs attention. Its not really that long since her last relationship, she gets easily jealous when she lovers having a good time.
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@sweetloveforeve (13118)
• Portugal
12 Jan 13
ken, if she said not so is because she doesnt love him. we girls, when love a guy, we are very passionate. we show our feelings very easily. and we say the words i love you often. if she said not so about loving this guy, is because she doesnt love him. she can like him but love she doesnt feel it for sure.
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@maximax8 (31044)
• United Kingdom
12 Jan 13
The answer could be yes then he would expect to hear he loves her. If the answer no could be hurtful for both of them. It is strange that she wants to ask if he loves her yet she is not yet in love with him. I am glad that you explained to her why she shouldn't ask that question. Early in a relationship the couple should tread carefully in their conversation. I think a lady like your friend should avoid asking questions like how serious are you in our relationship. Your friend should relax and let her relationship develop in its own time. In one years time they might become madly in love.
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@sweetloveforeve (13118)
• Portugal
12 Jan 13
ken i think that if your friend doesnt love the guy, why is she with him? just to say that she has a boyfriend? i think you are right when you say, before we ask others we should ask ourselves. i guess he likes her more than what she likes him, cause he was the one proposing. so is because he feels something. but if she doesnt love him, then she shouldnt be with him. being with someone without love will only bring sadness for both of them.
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@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
12 Jan 13
Love needs to be mutual. It is not fair if she asked if he loves her and she doesn't feel love for him. What if he did love her and says so. Yet, she doesn't feel love for him. That is not fair to his heart and feelings.
Perhaps she is a little needy and needs some kind of reassurance. But, if so. She still needs to know that she has to be loving as well.
A true love is when BOTH people really love and care for each other.
