Cold-hearted mom
By tetris15
@tetris15 (539)
Philippines
January 12, 2013 10:15am CST
I pity one of my colleagues as she confided in me her sentiments that involve her older sister and her mom. I feel that she's stuck in the middle and wants to do more for her sister. She told me that her sister recently was admitted in a hospital and needed help. By the way, her sister was disowned by her mother and was no longer living with them nor is allowed to come or visit their house anymore. I was just assuming that this is because her mother doesn't approve of on her sister's way of life right now being unmarried with 2 kids plus one on the way because her sister is pregnant. But I feel that still it's not her sister's fault that she chose to be with her man to deserve the harsh treatment from their mother. What do you think could be done to make her cold-hearted mom see things differently now?
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7 responses
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
Moms are like that when they are disappointed and have been disobeyed. I think her sister must ask forgiveness to her mother so that they will have both peace. If the mother is still unforgiving then just pray for her that she will realize that she is still her daughter. I think her sister must help her now too. This is some kind of hard situation however a family is a family. Whatever happens she is still a family.
God Bless
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
17 Jan 13
Hi
Tetris, hi Edvc, you are so right Edvc you described very well how mothers can be
. We most try to love them however they are, to honor them and help them, we owe them respect, I`m sure that she`ll move to love her daughters.
Blessings to both of you... dainy
Tetris, hi Edvc, you are so right Edvc you described very well how mothers can be. We most try to love them however they are, to honor them and help them, we owe them respect, I`m sure that she`ll move to love her daughters.
Blessings to both of you... dainy
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
12 Jan 13
Maybe show the the grandkids to your friend's mom. Mostly their heart would melt to see kids and babies, then maybe she'd feel softer for her older daughter and might help little by little. If not, then maybe just wait till when the mother could forgive her older daughter.
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
That was what my colleague tried to do before. She invited her older sister and the kids but still their mother wouldn't approve of it. I wonder how cold and hard as a rock her mother's heart turned out. I just let my colleague know that I'm praying for her and her sister as well. Thanks.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
14 Jan 13
I can understand the mother's position, but older sister is still the mother's child and her children her grandchildren. It seems that the mother's attitude has not changed older sister. Maybe your colleague could suggest to her mother that she consider the sister's living arrangement a common law marriage and reconcile with the sister.
I don't believe in living together before marriage, either, and went through that with our son. Thankfully, there were no children of that union. I held my tongue. The couple recently married, and everyone is happy, except the legally divorced ex-wife..
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
12 Jan 13
I think that the one sister would have to stop having kids while she is unmarried. Obviously that is why the mother is so frustrated that her daughter continues to do those types of things. Hopefully though as the daughters mature and see that they aren't the same then the mother will not be so upset. Hope things start to improve for your colleague.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
12 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i also feel bad for her as she is stuck between the two. i know how it feels like when u are in such a situation. But i think any mother in her place would have done the same thing, no mother would want her daughter to stay with her man and then get pregnant without marriage. At least she should have gotten married to him after the first child then may be the situation would have been under control.
What say?
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
Yeah, I understand. They should have been married. But more problems have come to light and my colleague told me that her sister, who is a few months pregnant, wanted to split up with the father of her child. I was anticipating that this would aggravate the situation more and her mother will be more upset. My heart is for my colleague because she's badly affected and her work is somehow got affected too. I hope and pray that she'll overcome this situation. Anyway, thanks for your comment. Have a good day.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
13 Jan 13
Every family has a skeleton in the cupboard,different family will have different story.
In this case just by your information we can not figure out what happen exactly between the mom and her daughter but I can feel that this mom really be hurted so much because there is no a mother do not like her kids in the world,so why not this daughter just admit her fault?And I think that this mom will forgive her .
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
12 Jan 13
Nothing. You can't change how people are. She apparently disapproves of her daughter...it goes against her beliefs, so she has made her choice. She chooses to not have anything to do with her daughter or grandchildren, and that is her loss. It is what it is.
