I keep getting into trouble. This time, it's my fault.
By MissPiggy
@MissPiggy (1748)
Indonesia
January 12, 2013 2:56pm CST
I feel really numb right now. I want to cry but I can't. I just don't know what to do.
I don't know whether I should regret this kind of help or not, but in fact I do. I helped a friend to get a job in my place because she told me that she really needed a job. But now she keeps stabbing me in the back and the only thing that I can do is regretting. Regretting why did I help her back then. This is the same person that I used to feel sorry for because her husband quit the job and she had to support the family by herself. Now I feel like a dumb for shedding the tears for her.
And then another person. I accepted her to work as a tutor in my place and even I suggested her to be hired as a staff to my manager because at least I know she has the capability. Not perfect, but not bad. And now she also keeps stabbing me in the back, collaborating with the friend above.
So many troubles in the office caused by my friend and made ME became the person who must be blamed, she doesn't seem to stop. This is just another occasion where she ignores me at all. I didn't realize what's going on until a friend texting me asking what's going on in the office. I did a research and finally I'm able to draw a conclusion.
This morning I got a chat from my former lecturer asking why I haven't protected my twitter account. I didn't pay any attention until the text message that I got. So this new staff (I suppose) read my twitter account where I spit all of my thoughts. Some of these thoughts were talking about them. So that's why this friend was yapping on Facebook again, cursing me and so on. Well, she didn't mention my name but I know it's me. And the new staff removed me from her friend list.
Well, I don't give a damn about what they have found out. What I regret is that first, why hadn't I followed my instinct to protect my twitter account. Second, I shouldn't have spitted anything anywhere. (I have been warned by my boyfriend about this, but he's late. My words have come out before we're together.)
So...yeah...I just feel really stupid.
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10 responses
@ihateZombie (13)
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14 Jan 13
hy misspiggy, i'am miss you,,hahahaaa
okey, i think this one of the trouble in real world that where you work. not only you, me too. Better if all about the trouble will be back to God.
This a reason about your status bbm yesterday, does't it??
dont worry boy, your not alone. you have family, other friend, boyfriend always loving you and actually a handsome student :D
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@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 13
Hahahahahah! I miss you too!!! 
Yes, you're right, this is what I meant in the messenger the other day. And you're right, I have everybody around, including my handsome student!
Thank you. 
Yes, you're right, this is what I meant in the messenger the other day. And you're right, I have everybody around, including my handsome student!
Thank you. @MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 13
Well, maybe it's also my fault. I have been warned not to share anything about our feelings on social networking because it can be used against us. I thought by moving from Facebook to twitter no one would ever realize it and that I would be free to share everything there. I guess I was wrong. There is no safe place on any kinds of social networking and I finally got my punishment for being so ignorant. 
But I will fix it. No more sharing things on social networking!!! 
Oh, and I have deactivated my Facebook and twitter, at least for a while. Just to be safe.
But I will fix it. No more sharing things on social networking!!! Oh, and I have deactivated my Facebook and twitter, at least for a while. Just to be safe. 
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
12 Jan 13
you should be jumping for joy and let everyone thats your real friends know that its this so called "friend" is the one at a loss
people will soon find someone like that out! 
and realise you not only gave her a break but she knocked you down in return and as the old saying goes "with a friend like that you dont need enemies"!!
people will soon find someone like that out! and realise you not only gave her a break but she knocked you down in return and as the old saying goes "with a friend like that you dont need enemies"!!@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 13
Lol. I think I will start jumping after this. 
My boss has already found out that this friend has a "problem" with her character. He also has become a victim of her yapping on Facebook.
And one more thing that I regret is that I thought she has changed. I have shared almost everything with her back then. 
She used to be my best friend at high school. We had trouble back then so we stopped communicate. But when we met again two years ago, I thought as time went by, we both have grown. But...well, I think I got it wrong.
My boss has already found out that this friend has a "problem" with her character. He also has become a victim of her yapping on Facebook.
And one more thing that I regret is that I thought she has changed. I have shared almost everything with her back then. She used to be my best friend at high school. We had trouble back then so we stopped communicate. But when we met again two years ago, I thought as time went by, we both have grown. But...well, I think I got it wrong. 1 person likes this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jan 13
hi misspiggy I am so glad your boss knows she is a stinker for s
sure. You matured and turned out nicely but she turned out to be two faced and a stinker. lol
lol
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
12 Jan 13
THese people should know ua better than to take her word for anything as you have been there longer they weren t good friends if they now take what she says as the thruth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jut work god and for get the ones talkig about you and me I would jump her about it some friend NOT!!!
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 13
Yes, after I analyzed everything, I came to a conclusion. I have to be one who changes. I won't be mean like them. I am a mature woman who would not go down to the same level as they are. I will keep my head up high as my boss has ever told me one thing: in the end, the one who stands up the last is the one who learns the lesson and wants grow up. And I'll be that person.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
13 Jan 13
Cheer up Miss Piggy. We all say and do things that we wish we had not. I don't think I would feel overly bad about this anyway. It sounds as if they did not appreciate your kindness or friendship. The first one should not have been stabbing you in the back and causing so much trouble with the other one. I would ignore them and just learn from this experience. @MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 13
I must not let myself to be sad. Sad is not good for everything. When we're sad, we can't seem to think. I won't let that to happen. And reading your response also has made me happy. Thanks again.
And reading your response also has made me happy. Thanks again.@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 13
Absolutely!!! Yes! I would do just exactly what you said. This is also my mistake and I have learned the lesson behind all this. I have apologized to the first one, and she has done the same. We decided to start from beginning again but this time I won't be too attached to her. And of course, now I MUST not spit out anything anywhere EVER!!! Thank you!
This is also my mistake and I have learned the lesson behind all this. I have apologized to the first one, and she has done the same. We decided to start from beginning again but this time I won't be too attached to her. And of course, now I MUST not spit out anything anywhere EVER!!! Thank you! @kingparker (9673)
• United States
13 Jan 13
Sometimes, it is good and bad on online social networking websites. They can allow you share everything with friends, some fun time and exciting moment. But it also had done you worst, just like the case above. So, you shouldn't share everything online, and people always snooping around. From what I read on your discussion, you had done nothing wrong. You help out a friend, but at the end, they didn't appreciate your help at all, and instead, they are back stabbing monsters. It is horrible and ironical, isn't it?
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 13
You're so right. I felt really devastated. Well, I apologized to the friend and she had done the same, but from this moment on, I won't get myself to attach too close to her. And about the new staff, I don't know if I can hold the anger, but I feel like I really need to talk to her. If no one dares to confront her, she will never stop.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 13
Yes, I do really want to forget them. If I can. Problem is, they are in same office as I am and I will keep meeting them like everyday.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jan 13
hi MissPighgy please so not blame yourself as its not your fault you did something to help a person you thought was your friend and she turned out not to be.I would fight back against her back stabbing and go to the top with your concerns as back stabbing in many work places is abhorred by the bosses. You probably have a good in with those above you so go to them and share what has gone on between you and his so called friend.
I h ate Facebook and twitter for making it a pl;ce for peole to be spiteful against one other.
Remember that anything you put on the net is out there for the whole world to see and hear.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 13
You are so right and now I got it. My boyfriend has warned me about this and I really got what I deserve: a lesson. Now I just need to calm down and change. I have not spitted anything on Facebook, so I know I can do the same on twitter. Hatred is bad!
And yes, I have talked to my boss about my friend, but turned out the one who is really mean is the new staff. I guess now I have to find the time to discuss this with my boss.
I guess now I have to find the time to discuss this with my boss.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 13
My first advice to you is to print this discussion a several times. Then you will put some copies of it at several places. For example one on your door out, one next to your phone, one on the fridge door, one in you diary, one ... for about some time or in years.
Since this should be your lesson. What is private keeps it private unless you don't care about what you have to say about them. Since I assume it's true what you said on twitter go for it! Do NOT feel ashamed about it and do not let yourself be scold or threatened. Still I think twitter, fb etc should not be used to say these kind of things and it's better to make them private and only add real friends or completely strangers. I also hope you will start taking care of yourself first. Only give if you have plenty yourself. Do not help others to a job, house or money unless you do not or will not need it yourself now or in future. So next time you do feel pity for someone or you do feel the need to help someone (out) read this discussion of your first! Plus ask yourself: would that person do exactly the same for me? Only if you are 200% sure of that you can give that helping hand. BTW it would be good if you started to help others for their help. A good practise to see who is willing to help you out at all. Try it for a few months. For the rest I can only say: ignore what they say, confront them with their behaviour and remember within a few days they find someone else to stab in the back.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 13
Wow! You made my day! That is exactly what I need to read and to keep in mind. The last sentence is the best part and I have to say you are right. If they can't bring me down, I'm sure they will bring someone else down.
And about the confront. I have done to first person, the friend. I finally decided to texted her this morning. I said I apologized if I have hurt her but she has done the same thing to me. This went out well, she texted me back saying that she really did hurt by what I said on twitter and then she apologized to me as well. The new staff, on the other hand, was the one who is truly mean. She not only has influenced my friends to stand up against me, but she also backbit me in front of my former lecturer who has been so close with me for years. And when I wanted to confront her, turned out I found out the she has blocked me from Facebook. But well, she doesn't want to learn the lesson: there are people in her list that are still good to me and will keep reporting to me. I think stupid people never really want to learn, right? And also, I think she has felt some kind of guilt for having busted. I feel sorry for her.
And you are (again) right about the things that we better or not better share on any kinds of social networking. It really is dangerous! Anyway, I have learned my lesson. I probably would not want to learn how to be wise and how to think like a grown up if this all hadn't happened. I have written a new chapter in my book. I can't say I'm proud yet, because I know that this is just the beginning of other lessons.
And about the printing, dang...I think it's a great idea! That also can be my reminder what to share on Facebook and twitter next time! Thank you so much!!!!
@else22 (4317)
• India
13 Jan 13
Almost all of us undergo such bitter experiences.It's a part of our life.I would like to suggest you take them easy.I know it's easier said than done,but I have learned to do so although it took me a long time to adjust myself with a changed scenario.My mother and myself gave the power of attorney to my step brother and he stabbed us in the back.We had to live even without food for many days.Then I struggled hard and had a source of income.My mother is no more,but I will never forget the days.If I go on narrating all the incidents that happed with me,I don't know when I would finish the response.So I would like to conclude the response by telling you what I have learned from all these backstabbings.I have learned to adjust myself,not to expect anything from others and be careful.
Hope,you understand what I want to convey.
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 13
I think I got your point. And you're right. Somehow I'm not angry here. My boss used to ask me to change my stubbornness as I have an important position in the office where I should be the one who solves the problems, and the one who starts it. I found it so hard to do, until this happened. I finally realize that little by little I have changed. I have no more anger in my heart. Indeed I feel disappointed, devastated, and hurt. But I'm not angry. I confronted my friend and someone who become the victim of the new staff's trick to set us against each other and now this new staff blocked me from Facebook because her evil minded heart has revealed. Well, everybody must gain what they deserve, right? And I have learned my lesson. So I have to change. I have to stand up high and grow up. That will help me face everything, right?
And pray, of course. Because God is the best protector ever.
Because God is the best protector ever.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
13 Jan 13
shame on you... Ha ha ha.. sometimes when you try and help someone it back fires on you. Hope it works out there. Take care.
