Midlife Crisis
By hey_baby
@hey_baby (425)
Philippines
January 13, 2013 6:18am CST
Every now and then I feel depression coming over me, sometimes for no apparent reason. I call it midlife crisis (im turning 39)
Generally im a jolly friendly person with a good sense of humor and i tend to see the lighter side of things.
But during my 'mlc' moment i try hard not to show how i really feel. But there are times when I couldnt and just start crying.
This morning i am down again. Reason is i saw a friends pictures in facebook and realized she is living the life i wanted - her husbands rich, she has nice house, nice car, travels, all the gadgets and designer bags and shoes.
I admit this is jealousy and i get over it.
I know everything i am right now are the product of my decisions, which most of them are wrong. i know i have sinned in the past and i am sorry for the mistakes that i did.
i know i have to be grateful for the mere fact that i am alive and i have people who care for me.
but i also want a better life for me and my family. but thinking of the wrong decisions and the sins i made, i feel i dont have any right to be happy.
so my question is - what is the point of living if you have to deal with the consequences of your actions and can never live the life that you dream of?
thank you in advance for your enlightening answers.
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11 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 13
Yes that is the most easy thing to say it's your midlife crisis. Sorry but I find it a "cheap" excuse. As you already said: you want a better life. That is what is bothering you, you are not able to give yourself a better life. This has nothing to do with a midlife crisis but with the fact you did not work for it. Only if you set goals, if you are willing to work hard for it, to make sacrifices (nothing is for free) you will reach your goal. But also keep in mind there are many different ways to get a better life. What is a good life is personal... it might you already have a good life but you are not able to see it at all. Keep in mind that one day you will get old and will look back at your life... any idea at the moment nobody wants or need you anymore what a good life will be to your opinion at that time? I do believe you make the wrong decisions... life is not about a good job (that will end), a lot of friends (they will leave or die) or a big carreer (that will end), being famous (people will forget you as soon as there is a new hero), it's about developing yourself, knowing yourself, live with yourself, love yourself, accept yourself the way you are, since there is no need always to go for better, more, different.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
This post of yours made me think or evaluate myself rather co's I think I have some... I may call it "the symptoms- of midlife crisis". I'm 35 and two more couple months and I'll be 36. Same as you I'm a light person as well, I easily laugh at funny things or happenings and always see the bright side of life too.
Well, even at times I have my low moments as part of my "mlc", I still have positive hopes and views in life. Whenever I am hit by negative emotions I always pray and come to the Lord for strength and more of it.
I still have "wants" in life, and my insecurity is still killing me but knowing that God is good to me, I am able to live life one day at a time.
I rather suggest that don't compare your life with your friends to avoid depressions and negative emotions. Don't dwell in the past of your life, God has forgiven you about it. Pray and ask God for contentment and strength. Be thankful about the many good things that happen in your life and even the not good things too-at least you learn from them.
Don't stop dreaming... and praying! :) God bless!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
Stop blaming yourself rather start to work things out.
Don't see other people's achievement as your downfall- look at is an inspiration and do your best effort to achieve yours.
I am sure you can make it, slowly and you will be there soon.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
I'm in my 30's also gladly though I don't get everything I ever wanted in life and like you I had my share of wrong decisions but I learned from all the drawbacks of those. Life is what we make of it so I suggest you make peace with your past and learn to forgive yourself. There aren't perfect people, everyone has their share of ups and downs, they just know how to keep going after every stumble and I guess you should refrain from comparing yourself to others because you don't even know half the reality of what it's like to be in their shoes just by looking at their pictures in facebook. The fact that you have a family is enough reason to be happy and to go on living and never stop dreaming for the future. I hope you'll feel better soon.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
13 Jan 13
When you feel depressed, take time to pray. Talk to God, tell him everything what you feel and ask for guidance. Then go out for a walk and breath a fresh air, enjoy your time by watching the nature or strolling down the park. In this way, you can clear your head and think better and feel better eventually. Avoid things that makes you depressed and focus on how to bring happiness to your family even with little things.
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
14 Jan 13
hi, accept yourself the way you are,someone out there finds you a very accomplished person,ofcourse we cant all be rich and have our dream plans but we can make something good of our life.be strong and enjoy your life as it is , living in regret is a recipe for disaster.the sky is the limit go for it, do something exciting to make your memories more pleasurable.
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
13 Jan 13
Honey, I"ve been there...done that. At 65 yrs old I am not where I had thought I would be 40 years ago. I went throught mid life and menopause and they were the worst times in my my life. I thought this was going to be a good year for me but it already started out horrible. All we can do is grin and bare it! HOpe you feel better soon.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
Get over that feeling and learn to love what you have. Never compare your life with others because we were born under different circumstances. Learn to love what you have, it is the best thing you have in this world. I too would sometimes think why some people are getting everything, all the material possessions, all the money, but I try to fight this feeling because I know that I also have my own possessions which others don't have.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
We live by the grace of God. All have fall short of the glory of God and all need a Savior and He is our Lord Jesus Christ. You did ask forgiveness to God and we live by His grace. You have to forget the past and move on or else you won't recover from the wrong decisions in your life. Look forward and always remember that God is merciful and He will bless those who call on Him in truth. Do not live by the past. Let go of them.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
13 Jan 13
Everyone goes through this from time to time. It's when we look back on our life and wish that we did things differently, that we can become depressed. You must make PEACE with the past. Do it quickly so that you can move on in life. I am a Christ Follower, so I believe that God forgives us and remember our sins no more. When I eventually understood that, I could move on with my life, for I am also not perfect. Stop focusing on what you do not have and forget about other people. YOU are important,so start looking at the future with new zeal! Be encouraged my friend.
@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
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13 Jan 13
Move on. Look ahead. Try not to compare yourself from your friends life it will just make you feel bad, I think that's common experience. Instead of thinking regrets what you should have done think of the things what you can still do :) and counts the blessings you have despite of all the mistakes and bad decisions you made in life, were still young.. young at heart ha ha and we have so many things we can do as long as we live, setting limitations to ourselves will hinder us to do so much better things to come in our life. Past can be bitter and sweet but we cannot live forever with our past it's always the present day not tomorrow not yesterday. Cheers!
