Ever heard the expression keep your friends close, your enemies closer?

I have friends, a few good friends, but even so, there are three things that I will never divulge to anyone else: my deepest secrets, my utmost dreams in life, and my marriage's critical details. There's no certainty in this world, and change happens even more so to people. They change, we change, our feelings change. God only knows if me and my close friends will still be friends in the future. And if ever I divulged them any of these, I don't know if they will use it against me or not. I'd rather be safe than sorry.

If someone pretended to be my friend and does something bad to me. I think I will ignore that person and not acknowledge her as a friend. I don't want to look like the bad guy for bad mouthing this person so I will wait until someone asks me what is going on between me and that person, then I will answer. If you can, confront that person and be honest. If not, just let go of such negative feelings, they are not good for your well-being, plus they give you wrinkles, you don't want that, right? I have people I don't like but I don't make them my enemies. Having enemies is not something I want. It's bothersome and a complete waste of energy and time to have revenge on them. Use this feelings to make you a better person. When I have such negative feelings I let them out through battle games, hitting something that won't easily, try martial arts even or write about it.

hi enchantedleppard I do not think I would really stoop to that person's lowness. I would rather be the better person and know that I am doing right. If they really wanted to get close to any of my loved ones that is their business but they will not again use me to do so.However getting vengeance is wrong as two wrongs never make a right.Letit go knowing you are the better person.

Let it go! Due to whatever she did to you she is still controlling you mentally. Do not dwell on it. Say a pray for this person and realize she is not worth wasting your precious time. Anger and vengeance is not good for the soul so you need to go forward and forget about her. You will feel so much better getting this off your shoulder and moving on with life. She is by no means worth it and you know that.

Actually, that was one topic that my friends and I were talking about yesterday via Facebook. Coz there are people who would really pretend to be part of your "circle", but then you know what their purpose really is. They are the silent enemies as we call it. So yes, although we really do not make that person as part of our solid group but she does rub herself in and we all have a very watchful eye over her. She has not done anything wrong with any of us (as of yet), but then we know her intentions.

I've been in a similar situation. My "friend" would always come whining to me when she needed something or no one else would listen. I always just did whatever because she was my friend. Then suddenly she ditches me completely and I'm thinking "She just wanted to be friends because of all that stuff she asked me for." I got so mad and wanted to tell everyone to stay away from her, which I did not do. Eventually, I pretty much got ober it. It still makes me mad now and then, but not as much.

I think this is always the case, for most... i mean it is a bit logical of course for most of us to always be wary and be careful of those whom we can never be friends with. It is like when we say we are with friends we are close with them... but of course with our enemies, we had better get to know them as well because with that, we should be able to always know their next move, and so on.

It is on the wiser part not to treat your enemies with extreme disregard and negligence .Derisive behavior would only lead to more enmity and hatred. While trying to keep them at a distance it is better not to engage further misconceptions and avarice.

Sad indeed. Unfortunately it's difficult to know if that is what is someone is trying to do before it's too late and they do something unforgivable which proves your suspicions. As I get older I'm coming to realise that my intuition is a valuable thing and I should listen when it's trying to tell me something isn't right.

I'm really much a grudge-holding person. It takes a lot for me to become really angry with someone, but I won't forgive and forget it when someone manages to do that. I try to stay calm and collected and ignore my feelings, and I wouldn't exploit these people to the world, just those people who can meet those people who hurt me, but it angers me really bad...

OH, now i see i have idea about the candidates and those who are in Politics. They used to be enemies at the end but they become close at first.and that Idea changed my decision to stay away with my secret enemies but instead to still keep on being with them.and of course less talk than before. It's not for a reason to attack them. but to face them and not fear them.

Maybe because some friends become enemies. I had experience that when one that I considered a friend stab me on my back eventhough I help her. I was so disappointed from then on I hardly trust anyone. It is kind of sad too that there are people like that.

Hi enchantedleppard. What I will advice is to do nothing and to forgive her. I know you might be wondering if I am in right mind. But I just want to ask yourself few questions.. Will exposing her would give you satisfaction? When everyone comes to know about the reality and then treat her badly, will that give you happiness ? I know that you want to make it equal for what she has done to you... But then it is up to you to decide what kind of person are you?? If you go to her and tell her that you are so upset and angry about what she has done and then tell her that I still forgive you but I do not want to see you again so stay away from life. Will it not give you peace of mind? I always believed that a good person should be always be able to forgive others.. Anyways have a nice day !! SuperShames

i feel sorry for you but i feel more sorry for you "old friend" who never consider the real value of your friendship. but i think you should keep your distance until your anger had faded. time will heal and then you will learn to forgive and forget. :)