Situation between 2 friends case-scenario. Read, then Answer questions.

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Sorry if this is too long to read. Overview: There's a situation between two supposed friends who end up not being friends again today and I guess Friend A didn't care anymore for Friend B. I'm not sure but anyways here's the scenario. I'm not involved with their babbles. I am friends with both person. Friend A is Jackie and Friend B is Nicole. Anyways Both Friend A and Friend B were very close at some point before, they had their on and off friendship or argument or babbles and until Nicole (Friend B) couldn't take it anymore and had to find a way to tell Jackie as it is. Nicole is not a person who would just go tell off to Jackie's face about what she feels about her, but she had to find some way to reach out and tell her (jackie) as it is. The first time I remembered is through their text messages, where Nicole had to say it as it is on text message about how she doesn't like being taken advantage of through both Friend A (Jackie) and friend A's boyfriend but mostly just Friend A - jackie and stating reasons why she can't be friends with her. The First time I heard about Jackie and Nicole not being friends was last week or around Jan 4th 2013 and it is both through text messages. Jackie showed me her text messages to and from her and Nicole convo about not being friends. Also when I was hanging out with Jackie and her b/f that night around Jan 4, Nicole also texted me to say hello and also she was asking if I knew about about her and jackie not being friends anymore and I said, oh really, I didn't know that. But I guess surprisingly last thursday Jan 10 2013 Jackie and Nicole kinda made up and be friends, though the friendship is not the same as before. Nicole doesn't want to keep treating jackie out and paying for her or both her and her b/f. I was also in the similar situation like Nicole on keep paying for jackie this and that and going out until I had to find a way to tell Nicole. Nicole also doesn't want to be called on use the endearmeant term "sissy" from Jackie. Before Jackie and Nicole used to call each other "Sissy" but now since the friendship changed, Nicole doesn't feel comfortable being called "sissy" anymore and would prefer that jackie calls her by her real/first name instead. Nicole can sense that Jackie keeps assuming that Nicole would keep treating her out and paying for her and such. Nicole does have a job, but Jackie doesn't. I do understand what Nicole's going through but I also know both sides of the story. Jackie's main reason why she can't stand Nicole is about Nicole's problems on boyfriend and stuff. She also says she has given advice to Nicole many times and that Nicole doesn't listen and whines. She also has said that Nicole's reasons for not wanting to be much friends to Jackie because of Jackie taking advantage of Nicole is not only the real reason. Jackie's reason is that Nicole's now ex b/f told Nicole not to be friends with Jackie and her b/f anymore. But I think it is because Nicole had to vent to someone to share about this problem between her and jackie, so she got her ex's opinion of this situation. As for Friend A - Jackie, you probably can tell she can be a bit immaturish or pouty and can get what she wants in some way...just don't know.. ***Important Part ****** Main Concern below: ****** MAIN POINT/STORY OF What happend today Jan 12, 2013 (Sunday): I just saw something shocked between jackie and nicole today. We (me and jackie and her boyfriend, Jared) had plans to go hangout also attending to go to Church /Mass today. Same time Friend A - Jackie thought of all of us going to chill with Nicole like after we got done with church. But Nicole first had plans with another friend Ashleigh to church and also eat out to lunch. Nicole said she don't mind for us to hangout, but she mentioned that we (mostly jackie) has to pay her own food if we does go out to lunch with them. Jackie can't stand if Nicole would say "you have money?" after Jackie asked about hanging out with them or if we were invited. Then on the way when driving going to church jackie said with Nicole, it's always about money blah blah blah blah. Anyways after Mass/Church was done, we went to Library for awhile to job search. Around 3:10 pm, Nicole met at front parking lot at near the house of Jackie. Jackie kept calling Nicole "sissy" and Nicole doesn't want to be called that anymore. When she told me and Jackie's b/f, jackie's b/f said then tell her in person instead of text messaging her and Nicole said "no" I don't want to.Then we drove to Mc Donald's and Nicole drove us. We were at McDonald's and we ordered food. We were just chilling and eating. Then Jackie can sense something's up. lol..oh and that time, while eating, Nicole and Jackie had their text squabbles. Jackie sat by me, Jared sat by Nicole on the table. Nicole had told Jackie what she feels by text about being called "sissy" and all that nonsense stuff. She also is in the verge of can't stand being around her anymore and had to express it by text message so that jackie can read it but she feels cannot personally tell her. She already know how jackie is and can get offended. After responding each text, jackie shows annoyance and drops phone on table like with an attitude or moody. Nicole was just quiet and then after almost done eating. A shocking thing that happened. Jackie was furious or reacted and flung a cup of water unbeknowingly to Nicole. Nicole was like WTF in her mind and got so annoyed and got up and was about to leave us and get in her car and drove off. It was unexpected for Nicole to get a flick of water cup splashed on her. Then me and jackie's boyfriend were confused and don't really know what was going on. Then Jackie went off to go talk to Nicole and apologized to her but she also said Nicole deserved it. Jared came to talk to Nicole while Jackie was sitting near me. I was asking why Jackie did that. And same time that Nicole really wanted to leave us because of the situation, she couldn't. She did take us back to Jackie's place midpoint because Jackie told jared just to drop here by the gate, so we got out of the car. Nicole was just disappointed and quite. Right before I got out of the restaurant to go to her car, she just talked quietly and said that it was her fault for just telling her by text message and not to her face in person. I did text Nicole and told sorry for things happen and she said it has to be that way. And then she asked if I was shocked about it and I told her yeah. After we got out of Nicole's car, Jackie didn't say good bye and just took off upset or pissed. I was the only one that said by to Nicole and told her sorry about whatever. When we got to talk to Jackie's house. We were in her room, then she vented out and then told me why she did what she did. She said Nicole deserved that water being spilled at her because she can't stand if it was told by text. She said she wants the person or Nicole to tell it to her face instead of text messaging her while they were around. Nicole also did asked me by text personally, what is jackie reacting? Nicole knows telling Jackie off in such a way may offend Jackie, so I dunno. Also Nicole finds it hard to tell off Jackie, so she does agree it has to be the way it happened. My Questions and Statements: What are your thoughts of this? Who do you feel bad on this story? Was it justifiable or right for Friend A Jackie to throw or spill cup of water on Nicole based on their text message or what Nicole had to say to Jackie by text instead of person? Would it be okay if Nicole walked off and drove off given she was already shocked of this unknowingly and that she's upset what jackie did? Jackie's reason of reacting and spilling or throwing a cup of water on Nicole was that Nicole should have told her by person in her face instead of text messaging her. Is that a good reason or justifiable action? After Jackie flung a cup of water on Nicole, does Nicole deserved it? (read based on the situation or in general) If you were Jackie or Nicole (Friend A) or Friend B, what could have been done better? Jackie stated her reason of why Nicole deserved that fling cup of water which was that Nicole should have told her in person as it is instead of text messaging...is that a good reason?? Generally Jackie doesn't care anymore about what she did or about Nicole and she did say Nicole deserved it. I am shocked but I kinda feel sorry for Nicole. Thanks for your input and feedback concerns. -webgirl01