My father-in-law is so annoying!!

Hi Summer, you know what, your father in law sounds somewhat like mine. Although, my father in law doesn't think I'm after their money, he demands a lot from my husband. Even, my husband gets irritated by his own father's inconsiderate attitude, but he's always been a good son. His father would just call at any time of the day, even if he knows my husband is sleeping after work, and if my husband can't answer, he would get upset. He would ask my husband to do some errands for him, even if he knows it would take a lot of time, and its a workday. But, still my husband follows his old man. I think what he said to your mother is very impolite and so unnecessary. But, as long as you love your husband and he loves you as much, then your FIL doesn't have the power to break you down.

I am sorry to see these things happened to you.In my opinion,your father-in-law is born this way.So,he wouldn't change according a disscussion or even some argues.He doesn't love anyone but himself,so even his son,your husband,can't pursuade him as well.The only thing you should do is bear it as much as possible.Everytime you are about to burn out,just think of your husband ,your love. But this is only my point of view!

Unfortunately you cannot change him, he is the way he is and although it might be annoying you have to accept that is the way he is. My father is selfish and incredibly lazy and won't lift a finger to help mum in any way, he spends all his time in front of the television, eating and drinking and doing no exercise, he is 68, actually today he is, but he is soooo set in his ways, it's impossible to change him. You can get upset, annoyed, angry but at the end of the day you are upsetting no one but yourself.

your not the only one who experience a lot of marriages need to settle with their in laws for a long time. even though, they are annoying you need to deal with them and be patience. after, all the family ties would be strong and could not be cut off by being part of their family. for a long time you would get to use to his attitude and if he already cross the boundary. you could tell it to him directly so he could stop or slow down and make him aware that you dislike his attitude.

He seems to be full of himself. Just ignore him because according to our belief here, if you hate or don't like someone and you are pregnant, the child will look like the person you hate.

Simply just ignore him. You can't blame him because he is what he is. There are really people who don't care of the words they have said just to praise themselves. I know a lot of people like that, they are selfish people who don't want to be on the ground. They always feel that they have everything and that the know everything in this world. That they are the best in any field and so on. I feel pity for that that kind of people because when they get old, they are just like a a parrot who just always repeat what he have said.

My father in law passed 2 weeks ago. And he was a lot like yours. Knew everything, was always right, stuck his nose in everyone elses business, etc. He made me nuts. I kept my mouth shut, bit my tongue when I really wanted to let him have it for the sake of everyone elses sanity. The one time I did try to talk to him it got me no where. What I said and what he heard were two different things. Banging my head on a brick wall would have produced the same results. Thing is, there was a great side to him that none of the family knew. That, to me, is the saddest part. Here was this judgemental, prejudiced, hateful person that was not there for his family when they were growing up. To the point that when I looked through all of our photos there isn't a single one of him because he wasn't there. Yet people I barely know tell us of him being there for families in need. It's exasperating. What's more exasperating is everyone still walks on eggshells since he past. Oh, we can't do this because he would have had a fit. Excuse me? You are still going to live your life around someone whom made you nuts? I found out the other day that he left nothing to his daughters in his will. They don't know that yet. One of them I assure you is going to go off on the rest of the family. My husband and I have the family business but we got it years ago and my husband worked for it for over 20 years. Yes, that's a blessing, but it wasn't exactly free, we paid rent, or I should say we covered his alimony and then some. I can't tell you if having had the chance to sit him down and force him to hear the truth would have benefited anyone. We will never know. Deep down I don't think it would have made a difference because it wouldn't have changed whom he was. My point is, you can rant and rave, you can bite your tongue, but you can't make him be someone he isn't. But there may be a side of him you don't know. Just something to keep in mind. Good luck.

Bear with him, since you already what kind of personality he has from the start. As long as he is not hurting anyone physically- just ignore him. Don't listen to him as if he doesn't exist and surely you will get use to his speaking and soon you won't be affected anymore.

I would just do your best to either ignore him or kill him with kindness. Being mean in return to him will get you nowhere and he might enjoy the argument for how he sounds...

Hi I can understand but try to solve the problem with cool attitude. If its not possible to take the leave then tell him the same .Why unnecessary fights? i mean this takes away the peace of all the people in the family especially you and makes disturbed.

Try to ignore him, or tell him in a diplomatic but firm manner that he annoys you, especially if it concerns you personally and your life. I know it's hard when an in-law acts that way, as we can't choose them. I know what you feel, my grandmother was similar, sometimes it was scandalous how she behaved... I really respect my mom for bearing all her stupidity with such poise... only once she became angry and told her her mind, and that was when my grandma was acting rude to me.

Simmer down please,Summer. After all,he is your husband's father and you need to get along with him now and in the future.He is a man with kinda self-contained.So he has the feeling of superiority.Just ignore him as you can,or your anger will encourage him to be more arrogant. Good luck to you.Have a nice day.