Returning back to work after maternity leave....so scared!

United States
January 14, 2013 12:20pm CST
I haven't been to work since the begining of August, I went out early due to complications with my pregnancy. I had my beautiful daughter October 6th and I haven't been away from her for more then an hour since. My husband is unemployed so he will be caring for her but I'm scared because he hasn't had a lot of one on one time with her. He has also expressed his concerns but this is all we have and we can't afford childcare.I am the only wage earner so I hsve to go back! Anybody have any ideas on how to make he transition easier on yhe both of us?
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7 responses
• India
15 Jan 13
I think it would be good if you could give session regarding taking care of baby Just give it for a day and on other day let him only try it under your guidance. While resuming work for first few days , just call every hour and get the update
@34momma (13882)
• United States
14 Jan 13
Don't you worry. He like all new parents will just fall into a routine in taking care of a newborn. When you love your child, you just know what to do to ensure the baby is going to be taken cared of to the best of your ability. Don't worry and allow love to kick in and take over
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
14 Jan 13
It is a scary sutitation going back to work after having a baby. However, be grateful you don't have to leave her with a babysitter. You are leaving her with her daddy. I think you need to give him some hours alone with her before you go back to see how comfortable it is or not. Have all the questions he may have answered. Within a week I would think he will have totally bonded with her if he hasn't already. Good luck and God Bless!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Jan 13
I went back to work part time when my oldest child was four months old and then when she was nine months old I went back to work full time. In doing this, I was able to get faith in my boyfriend (now husband) watching over her while I wasn't at home. To me, I felt that breaking it in slowly was something that made things a lot easier for me. That said, it actually should be easier for you than it is for some people because you are not going to be leaving your daughter with a stranger. I found that it was much harder on me when I went from having her father keep her (as I was working a different shift than him) to leaving her with a babysitter because I didn't know the babysitter as well as my husband.
• Valdosta, Georgia
14 Jan 13
I think it will be a great new start and your husband will get a bond with your little one now that you will not be around. I am sure he will be fine and I would give him every number to reach you when your at work just in case he needs something. I think you will adjust again in no time. It might be hard for a little while but I think you will bounce right back into the work force...
@ulan12rc (222)
• Qatar
14 Jan 13
Don't be scared it will be just the same in terms of works but for your baby you should start letting your husband do it one on one while you are there to assist him so when time come for you to go back to work it will be easier for both of you to adjust. I think it is more convenient and comfortable in your part to let him take care of the baby instead of getting a nanny for sure he can manage the situation and will enjoy his time with your baby, it is part of parenthood. Good luck!
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Jan 13
Well the only hopefully thing I can give you is to set a routine both you and your husband know it in and out. This will easy you while he is at home alone with your guys daughter and this way you know what they are most likely doing every day. I know it's different for me because I'm a stay at home mom. But I did have to be away from my daughter for a month before her bother was born this last September. The only thing that kept me some what sane is knowing what she was doing at what time. I had routine for her because she was at the time 17 18 months old. I'm use to being away for my children but not all day. Just for a few hours and it was much easier with my son because he is my second child but it was hard. I cried and I tried to keep my mind busy so I wouldn't miss her as much and I even called to check in with her or family would call us, text us send us picture of her it made it easier.