Is it wrong?

I don't think it's wrong to talk about where your lives are now or what may have been. I talk about that with a friend of mine I think it could be possible to be friends, but if you both are married or in relationships I wouldn't spend time alone since there is that chemistry.

I don't think that it's wrong but it should be done with caution so that no one gets hurt. Also if either of you have a significant other, they both should know what's going on so they don't find out another way and ruin the trust you have. But otherwise, be slow cautious and friendly.

Probably not. Sounds like there are some deep down feelings surfacing already. Let them go if you value your present relationship. If you have a husband and children, they do not deserve that. You may have the best intentions, but why tempt fate. Do not put yourself in a situation that will lead you to say "Well, maybe just a quiet drink to talk about old times....." NO NO NO!!!!

I know how you feel, I´m married to, and when some "special" friend come from nowhere cross to my life, I try not to talk over because word push words and then the ghosts come over, and the feelings maybe to. Personally I think it´s no problem, but like I said, watch out, friendship are a thinner line from love and in the other way, hope you understand my view, your discussion brought me to some thoughts.

If you can keep it platonic, no there's nothing wrong, if you don't want to hurt the person you're with don't do ANYTHING behind they're back, i can't stress that enough, and if it gets too much for them, then stop.

I don't think it's wrong to talk about old times, but I would be careful. If your relationship never had any closure, your heart might want to create that closure and that can lead to trouble! Remember that what once was...WAS. You are new people now with new lives - 20 years is a long time! Don't concentrate on what used to be, but create a new friendship based on who you are today. If your spouses are getting upset or jealous, perhaps you are letting off vibes that it's a little more than friendship on your mind? Be careful... :O)

Well, I still keep in touch with my First Ex-Fiance and it has been 23 yrs. since we were Engaged. We are just friends and that is all it could ever be, but my husband has even spoken with him, so everything is fine. Just keep it on a friendship level, and go from there. Nothing can happen unless you choose to let it.

its really up to the both of you two,

I THINK YOU SHOULD REMAIN AS FRNDS IF YOU NOT MARRIED STILL THEN YOU CAN CONTINUE

I don't think it's wrong. If you are both comfortable talking about it then it's fine. I would discuss it with others in your life and see how they feel about it. It is possible for you to remain friends, but it's hard sometimes not to cross the line. You have to be strong.

Yup. I've done it. We don't talk all the time, but when we do, it's great. My husband knows all about him and I was friends with his wife when the two of us were dating. It'll be fine. Don't count him out just because you hold a special place in your heart.

no why should u feel so ?

mybey that is fate,you suggested that both you have your own familys now,so i think you should keep a distance away,though you are in love many yeras ago.thats the only way to make sure both you and your familys live a wonderful lifes.

It is not wrong but you will cross the friend line the more you guys talk the more you start to think about each other and old feelings start to come from no where, and next thing you know your like "how did i get here i gotta go home my husband is probally waiting up"!!! LOL

ok its is very possible, however for the fact that we are human i also understand the plight of your hubby, if you where to be in his shoes how will you take it any answer you give yourself that you should do. thanks

wel im gonna go out of the norm here and shock alot of people LOl but normally this would be ok even if your married in a good strong trusting marriage etc , BUT just as long as BOTH of you ( you and your friend know that what could have been ) is ALL that it was ya kow and normally that is not the case , usually even when ya start to think about that its a warning sign it dont mean ya dont love your spouse and such but like most have said those are just memories and sometimes what you think what could have been is not always what may have turned out to be ya know ;) but as long as you can set some firm boundries with this friend and yourself ( yes i admit with my old guy friends i gotta do it too ;) ) you can make it work since i dont hang with many gals but mostly guys its always an unwritten rule that certain things are never talked about and if any of of have ever dated that certanly isnt spoken of , in fact there is a freind on my my space pg who i dated and almost married and we had ran into eachother a few times before i had gotten a comp and such and then some how one of us had found eachother on myspace i cant remeber wich and he was lookin thru all my pics and stuff since he hadnt seen me since my oldest was 6 months old , and after we caught up and stuff he told me that .. ya know as much as it hurt me to see you go and not marry you im glad that you happy and have somone at home with you all the time cause that somithing i cant give you , yes hes married now but he only sees his wife once a week so havin a family would be hard too , he just summed it up that he wanted to stay in contact with us cause he does know my husband and they are friends and hes glad im happy , and thats all he really wanted for me ........ yea sorry for the long post but to me thats a true friend there :) ok ok im goin now b4 i bog down your topic LOL ~M~

I do think it's possible although I must admit it's probably not too realistic. I guess my best way to answer it would be to tell you to put the shoe on the other foot. It's your husband having contact with an old and very special woman in his life... how would you feel?

Why not? I didnt see any problems with it and maybe both of you have a different lives already.Why live with guilt when you seen him?

I think it is fine as long as those old feelings don't resurface and cause problems in your family. I think it can be hard sometimes to keep old feelings in check, so it may come back to bite you in the butt.

Sometimes love lingers for a very long period of time. They say if you love simething then let it go and if it comes back to you its your and if it doesnt it never was!