How to emerge from a Break-up?

The realization that the relationship could no longer continue is something very hard to accept. But that should be the first step. Then I try to spend more time doing something to occupy my mind and not to think about him or be tempted to call his mom and ask how he was. The anger I felt was not because there was something that we argued about. It was the anger of not being at the right time with the right person. Forget? I don't think something great as that relationship can ever be forgotten. But remembering him doesn't create any problems to me now. He will just remain a very special person.

Some people need professional help to cope, yet can't afford the help. Some heal quickly and seek a temporary fill-in (aka: rebound). Some just easily find someone new and create 50+ years together. "Healing" is different for everyone. Just, do not, dwell on the past and don't assume the next person will treat you like all past dates and/or exes. Good Luck. Have a good day.

Emergence from break ups requirs mutual responsibility and understanding. Things that we have to bear in mind that we are human, the super being of the universe and so we cant break others heart. So we have to decide comprehensively whether we'll say 'I love you or not'. Immaturity is never applicable in love or loving. I think loving happens only once in a life. Re-loving is not any loving and quite absurd to me.

Time has a wonderful power of healing. But after an ungly break-up with somebody that you might still love, the time of recovering can be quite long. And you can't just stop living all that time. You can't forget a person who badly hurted you immediatly. Some can never forgive and the most do it after they are already healed. In a lot of cases, after break-up you still can't have an answer to the "Why?" question, one of the most painful one. Why did it happened? Have I done something wrong? I think the best way to sweeten that time is to involve in all sort of things. Maybe things that you wanted to do during the relationship but you didn't had enough time. Trying to meet new people, from both genders, can be interesting. Studying or working is another way to stop thinking, if there are not used as narcotics. But the most important thing, at least for me when I was in situations like this, is to remember that all will pass sometimes. Bright days are just there. And you can also enjoy some single freedom while you fall in love again with somebody else.

All you've given choices above are exactly the ways on how to move on and a little touch from each is better, after such a heartbreaking separation you give yourself time to heal and moment to think about things what went wrong isn't a right decision what if she's/he's the one, if you made a decision you find yourself again you take away the things that make you remember him/her not throw but keep away from your sight(it depends on you) then meet friends, make a new hobby, do things that you haven't done when you were together- explore divert your attention until such time that you totally moved on can meet him/her without feeling of attachments ;) Goodluck!

I broke up with my x 4 years ago, and now I still hate him, can't forgive him, i still seek revenge, what he did to me is something that I could not really imagine, it was something that really hurt me, that time I thought of dying, end up everything, but my hatred in a way helped me to survive, it gives me a different strength, my hatred is telling me to move on and make revenge and don't let those people laughing behind my back, it's telling me not to make those people happy, those people who made my life miserable. I know it is bad, I know it is not healthy, but i think there's no easy way in getting out of such situation, i think there's not a right formula, you can't really tell coz you are not into their situation, we have our own ways of coping our own problems, and me I chose to hate them.

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i have seen how my friends have gone through after break ups. I have seen them getting depressed and going to the extent of harming themselves. But i have always felt that in life there are many testing times that we have to handle properly and have to be strong and firm during such situations. We have to move on and should not let the situation overpower us. What say?

I think it depends on what type of breakup you had. If you both decided to part ways and remain friends, that may be awkward but if you can make it work you need to remember that the person you broke up with is your past and keep it that way..be cordial, but there is no need to fall back into the habit of being around that person. If it was a bad breakup, keep yourself busy. Don't give yourself time to dwell on anger or negative feelings. Take the energy you can use to be spiteful or mean and put it into a hobby. Don't rush into another relationship..If you find yourself lonely, hang out with your friends or go out and make new friends..