His ex-girlfriend is having a party and he isn't invited

It sounds to me like your friend is still interested in his ex. I really hope he can find a way to move on, otherwise he is going to make himself miserable. I think everyone says we will still be friends but that is just a nicer way to end things. Most people don't actually mean that they will really be friends. It is a hard situation. I personally would not want to go anywhere that my ex was, even though my last relationship didn't end on bad terms... It would just be awkward to me. I would have no idea what to say or do, not something I would find enjoyable.

Somethings not right, I guess. She might want to reconcile but do not want to start the topic. She wants attention by trying to act weird.

It sounds to me like he's still holding on to the relationship in secret. No, I wouldn't be disappointed to not be invited to an ex's party. She is his EX and he needs to accept that and go on with his life, no matter how hard it is for him at the moment.

I think that even if he wants to remain friends with his ex, she probably needs time. It is better to keep a distance at first, when I break up I don't want to hang out with my ex-boygfriends at first, because there is more than friendship between us and this way I will never move on. After a long time, when they both have new people in their lives, they might develop a friendship but right now I am sure that your friend still have feelings for her. It is for the best that he won't go, maybe she wants to move on with her life and meet other people. If he is there he is only going to be hurt. Does she asks him to meet when they hang out or he is the one who always invites her?

If they are still friends maybe he should be invited. But maybe her new one will be there, and doesnt want the old one around. never know. Take care there.]

yeah, sometime it's hard to accept the reality right? but he has to understand the situation, he isn't her boyfriend anymore. She has her own life and her rights to invite him or not. so for me just accept the reality.

I can understand her decision of why she didn't invite him to her party. She didn't want the pressure of seeing him there because she just wants to enjoy the time with her friends and not worry about him. The relationship is over and she is just trying to move on with her life. He is lucky she chose to remain friends with him because most couples that break up never stay friends. Just tell your friend to give her the space she needs and she'll come around. Good luck to him

Disappointments are part and parcel of life and one should take them in ones stride. There is no point in moping and thinking about what has gone.Your friend`s ex is a sensible girl and she has done the right thing in not inviting her ex for her birthday bash.Perhaps she is going for a new relationship and feels awkward to invite your friend. Your friend should also understand her feelings and he should forge a new relationship and try to get over the old one.If i were in his place i would not even want to have a friendship with my ex.I would try to put her out of my mind altogether. The world is a very big place and there are many fish in the ocean.

He's disappointed that he can't go to a party for his ex? Really? Your friend seriously needs to move on with his life. Exes are exes for a reason, and exes should not be mistaken for being friends. They aren't. Some people may act friendly toward an ex, but, in most cases, we would just as soon see the person used as a speed bump as we would see the person for coffee.

Your friend must understand that she (his ex) wants to start a new life without him around. It doesn't mean when she said that they can still be friends means- he is open to her life same thing like before. Maybe time will come that she is brave enough (or confident) to face him like an ordinary friend- but not this time (guess she's still mending a broken heart)

Hello Porscospo, maybe she is trying to move on by being happy with her friends and process of living a life with out him. I mean, what's the chance of her feeling happy in the party if your friends is there, maybe she still has feelings for him and she wants it deleted slowly. If he loves her he should let her go and wished her happiness, it won't be easy but if she has decided then just let it be.

Heh, no way would I want to go to my ex's party, and it seems like he wants her back so naturally he'll be disapoointed, and since the ex-girlfriend wants to move on, then why would she want to have him there? I mean wouldn't that send him mixed messages, as she probably gets the idea that he wants her back? Best to stay apart, in my opinion.

I'd be hurt a bit but I can perfectly understand if I wasn't invited. Maybe the other person would really want to move on. So, he just needs to understand that his ex-girlfriend is finding herself to be in another place without him. That should help him realize that although she had agreed to remain friends, but everything won't be the same as he would expect it to be.

If we were still friends, I would get upset. However, maybe she thinks she made a mistake in breaking up with him and feels guilty. Or she just feel awkward around him. Maybe it's not that she doesn't like him, she just doesn't feel comfortable.

I think it's not necessary to be sad,since the relationship is done,i do not understand why they are still keep friendship. if they really love each other when they had relationship,according to my experience,they can not be friend anymore.that so called friendship just an excuse to make each other feel better. So your friend should understand this point and move on earlier. All of her business now is none of your friend's business any more.

I guess if I felt like him then I would be disappointed. You are right though she obviously wants to move on with her life and doesn't want him to be a part of it. She wants to have fun on that day doing whatever that may mean. Perhaps being with someone else and she doesn't want him being there to put a damper on that. I hope that he in time will be able to move on with his life as well even if that means not having her as a friend.

Well, hi there. For me, I think if it is not so long after the break up, I might feel sad about him not inviting me to his birthday party. But in another way, I do feel glad that he didn't invite me either. Well, if he did invite me, I would felt like he might still love me when maybe he really only think that I am only his friends after all. Through that, I might get the wrong idea about the whole thing. And for the not invite part, I am glad that he didn't. At least, I wouldn't feel uncomfortable when I met him. Being speechless and others. And so I was able to think wisely and get to know that I am just simply a friend for him and he wouldn't love me anymore and wouldn't get the wrong idea. So yea, it is a complicated feeling but at least I know something from his reaction and try to move on.

I won't get disappointed. If I was not invited it was good for me. It is not easy to end a relationship and I can't still face him face to face. It takes time to overcome a relationship eventhough you want frienship. Good Day!

Allow me to speak frankly,I think he'd better not go that party even if he is invited.He doesn't leave the past behind at all and he may hope they can start again.So keeping the friendship is just an excuse.He hopes to get more chances to get along with her.But unfortunately,she wants to give it up.He must be disappointed but it is good for him to move on.With the running time,he surely can start renew with another girl.

No, I will not be disappointed. We don't have a relation anymore and being a friend she has no obligations for me to invite whatever affair he want to sponsor. She has all the right to exercise her freedom of who to invite and it all defends on the kind of the program she is trying to persuade and the level of her friends to be invited. Anyone of us has the right to move.