I am not stupid if I do not agree with you. :|
By Nursefrai06
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
Penrith, Australia
January 16, 2013 5:32am CST
I don't like crabs and lobsters. I know that it's a delicacy accross the whole world and I know that I should be really impressed if someone serves it up to me. But I still hate it. I hate it because you have to put so much time and effort just to remove the thumb sized meat it has and I think that everything will be good if they are slathered in melted butter anyway. However, everytime I tell people that I don't like that oversized water-cricket, i am greeted with disdain and the phrase " you don't like lobster?!?" :|
I'd explain myself of course that I don't enjoy cracking exoskeleton to eat a half roll of whatever small flesh that is. They reply "well, you must not have had real lobster!." :|
Why is it that with my refusing to eat such, I am treated as if I'm not merely disagreeing, but, in fact, must be really mistaken or outright wrong? Why is it impossible to have a different point of view? "I just havent had REAL lobster"??? Come on! :|
This even happens with a lot of things like: "you don't like American idol?!?" or "you don't like arrested development?!?" and so much other popular stuff.
Why is it that sometimes when you don't agree with what someone likes, you get shamed for it. :| maybe I am over reacting, but I just don't like it, no. No. :|
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11 responses
@allknowing (137775)
• India
17 Jan 13
If you make a salad out of the crab meat you would be comfortable with it. And may be even a sweet corn and crab soup. Eating a crab is quite cumbersome. I agree with you.
We all ave our likes and dislikes and sizing up people based on what they like or do not like is not right. I do not like caviar and that does not mean I am not sophisticated!
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@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
17 Jan 13
Salad, that's awesome. I've used mylot search box and then there is this salad called kani salad, it's Japanese, but it's worth a try I think. :)
Is there an easier way you know of so that removing crab meat is not so tedious? :)
Haha! I like that! Not sophisticated eh? XD well of course your sophisticated! You talk about soup. :D
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
20 Jan 13
We don't usually have soup unless we're in a restaurant or in a hotel or there is really a special occasion, that goes with soups too. :)
I see, I'll take that tip, that' sounds really helpful thanks. Crab Russian salad sounds good too and different, I bet none of the people here have heard about it and that great, I've looked it up and it looks quite easy to make too, thanks for introducing me to this. This is so awesome. :)
Hah! Yes, I know how it feels, the crabby smell sticks to fingers too, I really don't like thar about seafood, having it as a salad is really convenient, :D
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
17 Jan 13
I have never had this specific problem about lobster but yes I agree with your sentiment of REALLY?!!!
I do not like at all when I receive this same response. It pisses me off in fact. But typically I just try to let it go because I don't want to argue over something so trivial! Their ignorance is not my problem. 
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
17 Jan 13
Like I said they can have their own thoughts. I think you were right to express yourself, even to them if you felt like it. I have not done so myself, to their faces because I guess you can call me a "chicken".
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
17 Jan 13
Ahh... Yes. If I person wants something, it should not make me automatically like that something too because they like it. Well it's okay if you like something but I shouldn't be thought of wrong if I don't like it. Thats true about it so trivial though, haha, I think it would be nice to point out to people that I don't like what they are doing and they should not do that but then it feels like its such a waste of time to do that. Hmm.. And pointing out these stuff to people can result to full blown conflicts, and this topic isn't just worth that.
Sometimes I'd get stuck with "yeah you're right" and shutting up. But meh, sometimes i don't get the best feeling after doing that. XD
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@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
17 Jan 13
No you're not a chicken LOL. :) it just happened that you valued your interpersonal relationship with them than some little petty thought. And that's not a bad thing. :)
Take my mom for example, we have so many different views on many things sometimes she says things that I don't like but I let it pass because I don't want us to not be on good terms just because of some petty statement. Besides, being on good terms with parent's is a sign of maturity and I hate people who are being d-I-c-k's to their parents and It doesn't matter as to what terms they are. :)
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
16 Jan 13
I would probably not even try to justify why I don't like them....you just don't. I grew up on the coast and there is a lot of seafood that I don't like...lobster...I can live easily without, clams...I hate. I get flack about that but oh well...I just don't care for them. American Idol? Ive watched it a handful of times and i really don't care for it. I barely ever watch tv and many find that strange. I don't care and neither should you. Just ignore them.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
16 Jan 13
HAha! Should have thought about that earlier, that could have saved me a lot of trouble, the explaining didn't do any good anyway, it just aggravated the shaming. It would make sense though if you live in the coast and tethered just too much lobster. We have an area for potatoes in our backyard and it been there for a long time and I'd tell you I don't want potatoes cause we have so much of it. XD I guess that worked for American idol too, you've had it too many times and now you don't want it anymore.
Not watching tv is actually a good thing. I've saved a lot of money from not getting anything fom tv shopping network because my job took away a lot of my tv time, I actually feel like a better person cause I don't watch tv anymore. :)
@lampar (7584)
• United States
17 Jan 13
Of course you're not stupid just because you disagree with me or any other people on food, you have your own mind and personal different taste. It is that simple, don't get over reacted by some of these mindless comments, just take them with a grain of salt and don't need to feel bad at all. If you don't like lobsters and crabs, don't eat them and let others have them in the restaurant, let's them have the fun of breaking the shell while you enjoy your food, don't feel bother by them.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
17 Jan 13
I agree with you on it being mindless comments. And yes, I will definitely be enjoying my seafood free food. Thank you very much for your response. :)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
I guess some people are just surprised why other are not liking the same things when there are a lot of people who actually like them. Just don't be bothered that much. We have different preferences. It is normal and that's just it.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
17 Jan 13
You're right! some just do this in a way because they don't agree with the preference but don't mean it in a negative way...
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
17 Jan 13
That's right too I don't think it's their intention to offend anybody, maybe it's just that a lot of people do that reaction because most of them think that it is okay that they do it since a lot of people do it anyway. in a way it isn't their fault, but I would appreciate it if they'd stop doing it now that they know that some people aren't okay with it. Maybe it's their best intention to want others to enjoy what they want too but if they want something they didn't have to question other people as to why they don't like it. anyway, thanks for this response. It makes a lot of sense. ;)
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
16 Jan 13
Right, you are not stupid. I love the taste of lobster and crab, but the amount of meat you get from lobster is ridiculous. I wonder how they get by selling it for so much when there is so little there. It's not a part of our diet, I just know I like the taste of it. I like battered fried crabs too.
Nope, I don't like American Idol (it's so boring for me to sit and watch) and I've never seen Arrested Development. And just because I don't like these tv series doesn't make me stupid either.
We are all different, have different ideas, values, and interests. This is what makes us all unique. Now, having said all of that, there are certain things we know that are right and wrong and we have to conform to for safety reasons. We all have to follow the posted speed limits. It would be stupid to drive 100 miles down the interstate, it's wrong to tell a lie about someone and pinning something on someone that they didn't do. That's stupid. Having an opinion or an idea is not stupid.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
16 Jan 13
Erm... Yep, lobster is all shell and you can't even eat it's head like only a small part of it is edible. An yes I don't get why they're so expensive either.
Bring judged wrong for Not wanting what other people like creates this tyranny of criticism where some things (popular things) are the greatest while the others must only be liked by the stupid. I don't think that we should be criticized by what we like and don't like. Like I don't think I am steadfastly correct in liking things I do but I won't want to point out that you are wrong if you think it's terrible. Preferences are subjective and we have a right to like or not like things in accordance to our preferences.
That's true, the diversity of human interest is what makes us well exciting and i think if everyone liked the same thing, well, why a boring thing it would be. The difference of perspectives brings out the beauty of a picture and we should not be wronged for having seen these perspectives our way. Thanks for this, it surely opened my mind to a lot of things. :)
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
22 Jan 13
Lots of things are considered a delicacy; it doesn't mean you have to eat them. I do like lobster, but eating crab is a lot of work and it's messy too. You are perfectly within your right to discern what you do or do not want to indulge in, and that included music listening and TV watching.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Jan 13
I do not understand why other people make it a big deal either.
I don't like foods that one of my closest friend loves to eat- but thanks they she never asks me why I don't like it, instead she respect my choice and even noted those foods that I do not like to eat.
I don't like watching drama series or the movie Twilight- so what's the big deal (huh)
Some people are too pretentious as if they know everything 
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
16 Jan 13
It's cool that your friend respects you and your choices. I wish more people were like that.. :)
That's true, I think most people also just like what they want because pop culture says so or the majority thinks this is cool. I agree about some of them being really pretentious to pretend that they like something just to fit in. Well, that's not good, cause they're not being themselves, and not being yourself is one of the hardest situations you ca be in.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Jan 13
I understand completely, I don't eat seafood of any kind and people think I am crazy! Or they say the same thing to me well you should try this kind or that kind because you have not had it this way... I do not like seafood, period. Why is that so hard to grasp?? Lol. If I don't like it I don't like it...No one should try to change my mind about it. It is my preference.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
16 Jan 13
I think I should start saying that too "I don't like them. Period." :D maybe it is in their best interests that they'd want me to enjoy the food they like as much as they enjoy it. But nope, it's not gonna help me that way. And I wouldn't want to pretend that I like something just to please them and I'm not wasting my time doing something that I know will not work (me and lobster, not gonna work).
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
16 Jan 13
i'd rather have shrimp, squid and mussels. i don't like the major effort it takes either to get to the meat, even though i agree it's tasty.
i hate it when people expect me to like spicy food. why should i force myself if it gives me a stomachache? 
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
16 Jan 13
Well you really shouldn't force yourself omg!! XD they're not really being nice if they don't consider how things make you feel. Hmm. You have your own preferences, they should respect that.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
16 Jan 13
:O that response is so simple but it really says a lot. Omg! Vernac, I love you! Thank you for this :D I totally agree, it's the differences too that brings out the beauty in things. Nobody is stupid, nothing deserves to be stupid. nothing is truly perfect and truly awful and to be a wise person, you must know how to understand two opposing ideas at the same time. And when you do, that's when the beauty comes out.
