Love Without Trust

I believe that love, trust, and respect go hand in hand, and that a truly harmonious marriage can't exist with all three characteristics from both parties involved. If one of them was lackin, I would not want to be in the marriage.

I think that we can only fully love a person if the trust in 100% as well. If not, then it is either you leave the relationship or suffer in that relationship.

Oh i have been in this situation. I love my ex so much i thought i could forgive what he did to me (ie. cheating). I mean i have forgiven him not being with me because i love him. I have so much hope for our relationship because he is kind, and we get along very well and we lasted almost 4 years! But then all we were able to get through and moved forward with our relationship... but when he cheated.. i thought we can forget everything and move past it... but NO. NEVER gonna happen after all because it only stressed me out thinking where he is, what he is doing, or if he was cheating on me, and so on. it sure was something that you can never really forget. You can forgive but as soon as you never forget or clear your mind about what has happened to your relationship.. it can never be the same.

It's a very difficult situation In my opinion it's not love to have love without trust it's nothing.Real love must be based on trust.

In my opinion it's really impossible to love the other when there is no trust between you. It's really difficult to have. As fas I know trust is the base foundation for love therefore you can stay in a relationship without and trust for a few days or for a couple of months but eventually it fades. Trust is the very base thing that every relation should maintain and should hold it.

I don't think any one will be happy to stay with any person who does not trust him/her even though he/she loves the person. There may be the circumstances where sometime a person may have to stay forcefully

Very good topic! How difficult it is to love a person whom we cannot trust. In many cases ,people would get blinded by their love for a person and would find it difficult to mistrust a person. But, in the unfortunate event of a person not being trustworthy it becomes a difficult thing. It is easy to say that we should love a person in spite of his/her imperfections but trustworthiness is the fundamental characteristic of all. All other flaws can be overlooked but dishonesty, manipulation are basic things that would be unacceptable as far as this element of trust goes. To sum it up, when there is no trust there cannot be total love. There would always be a lurking suspicion within and this is likely to put us on guard. This may not make us hate a person but ease of transaction is likely to be mitigated. Of course each individual would find a way to maintain one's peace and would start drawing limits and lines and still have love for a person though not total uninhibited love.

hello amiga, Speaking from my own experience- it's not possible to live under one roof without trust. My ex-hus cheated me _th times and that's the reason why I lost my trust and call it quits. There is no more reason for me to stay in a relationship without trust- because without trust love also fades away. It is everyone's prerogative if they choose to live and stay in a relationship full of doubts and without peace of mind. But for me....it's a big NO. And I never regretted doing so, my life is at peace now and I happy being single (with my kids) Glad to see you back and have a great day

Hmmm...sounds too personal huh, my dear? Oh well, all I can say is that if your partner really loves you, he'll do anything to make your relationship work out fine and trusting is always part of being in a relationship. Without it, something will not work in good condition...sounds like an appliance...hehehe... no matter what it is, you should always talk things through for you to be able to understand one another... miss you, my friend!

Hi ckyera In LOVE TRUST is the MOST IMPORTANT thing in my view with out it any relation will be broken in to pieces soon or later .It is very hard to convince once we loose the trust ,I won't stay with such relationship because neither i will be happy nor my partner so better to break up.

“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none; be able for thine enemy rather in power than use; and keep thy friend under thine own life's key and be checked for silence." William Shakespeare [i] "Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope; it can outlast anything. Love still stands when all else has fallen.” [/i] Will there be love if there is no trust? no I don't think so. But if the person loves the other one, then it will be endless trust. so there should be no mistrusted partner. If the partner mistrust the other, then there is no love anymore. what is the point of continuing the relationship. http://en.thinkexist.com/reference/love_trust_quotes/

Hi ckyera. How are you doing? It has been a long time. Isnt it ??? Good to see that you still start discussions .. Hehe. Well if it was me with my girlfriend as my partner then I would definitely clear things out. There will be a rough phase but eventually I think I will forgive her. And if it was me who is being mistrusted then I will just talk to her openly and sort things out. The more you hide the more complicated it gets. Have a nice day ... SuperShames

I don't think any relationship can survive without trust. Even an inkling of trust MUST be there. It's the root of respect, if not love- and as long as respect exist and the partners wish to stay together it'll survive and recover, GOD willing. However, I can't say specifically what to do to get another person's trust back. Perhaps, if I knew more about the person then I can give something. But it always depends on the person. Base your actions on how you know the person. It is always hard. Trust is the most priceless things between all people- more precious than diamonds maybe.

Nice discussion you've made Ckyera. I have friends whose I don't trust anymore. There are many times they disappointing me when they didn't pay their promises. It is hard for me to trust them anymore in certain things. I still friends with them, but I don't want to expect more from them.

Hello! I don't think the relationship is still good. Love is alive if there is trust. I can't live with a person I don't trust or who doesn't trust me. I will definitely end it even it's painful. I hav eto accept the fact that my partner is narrow minded and cannot trust me eventhough I have explained evrything already. Trust is one of teh factors that make a rlationship last longer.

Hi ckyera! That's sad to know that your partner doesn't trust you. It must really be difficult to be in your shoes. For me, trust is still one of the needed foundation for a relationship to work better and be successful. Without trust, that would only lead to unsettled arguments that keep piling up. If there's no trust, your partner might keep questioning your intention/s which may lead to heated arguments if one is not satisfied with the answer. It wouldn't be a healthy relationship anymore. As for gaining back trust, I have some friends whom it worked with their partners. They were able to gain back their partners' trust after going through a tough issue in the relationship. However, I have other friends too who tried gaining back their partner's trust but eventually decided to still end up the relationship because it wasn't working. So I guess when you have to gain back you partner's trust, you have to talk to them and make them understand your intention. It takes two to tango in this situation. If your partner is not willing for you to gain back the trust then it wouldn't work out still.

There can not be true love without total trust in my opinion. How on earth can anyone be totally in love with someone if they don't trust them one hundred percent. I know for me if I don't trust you I'm not in love with you. Thankfully I've been in a relationship for the past 24 almost 25 years and we both totally trust each other without a doubt. There is nothing he doesn't tell me and there is nothing I dont' tell him. He actually tells me things I don't even want to know about, that is how much he tells me.

Hello Ckyera, I don't think so, even with friendships that come close after years, it won't last with out some degrees of trust. NO offeense but to those who stay in a relationship with out trust you are the one suffeering in the end and fooling yourself to doomed. because there are people who deserve your love and trust. having trust in a relationship is an ultimate testament that their companionship will last.

Hi ckyera, trust is earned and once tarnished it will leave an imprint or a mark, not for us to be condemned or someone to condemned but the mark will tell us to grow and learn from it. Any relationship is worthless without trust for it is the basic element for a lasting binding. To earned back trust is a long shut and a hard plowing ahead but if a person is determined to win back the person he or she love and worthy of a second chance then it all paveaway for it takes two to tango and tough times never last but true lovers do.

No, not just me but no one would like to continue such a relationship because everyone wants trust which is the foundation of a relationship. One can't live happily in such a relationship.