My Suppose to be best friend
By CarraC
@CarraC (69)
Canada
January 17, 2013 7:05pm CST
So my childhood best friend stopped speaking to me because I did not make her the Godparent to my child. She also had a child 3 years before I had my son, and her mom asked her to have me Godmother the child...It wasn't even in her favor to have me Godmother her child. She has her second child who is one month older than my son and she's mad at me because I didn't give her the role. She never showed interest in my pregnancy. She may say that it's because she was pregnant together with me, but that didn't make me any less interested in hers. She never even visited me when I gave birth (we were still best friends at the time). What would be better than going through this amazing journey with your childhood best friend?? Was I wrong for not letting her Godmother my son? Would you consider her a true friend? If anyone has to me mad, should it be me or her?
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7 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
I don't think that you have any obligations for her to be your child's godmother. It doesn't mean that since you did not consider her to be one, that your friendship should be affected as well. I think that she may have overreacted to the situation. If she considers you as a real friend, why didn't she show up when you were pregnant or even at the hospital when you gave birth?
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
24 Jan 13
No there isn't an obligation there I don't think. If she's trying to make you feel guilty then I'd say that would be my "nail in the coffin" for that friendship...
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
You know what sometimes petty things like that become really big deal with friends, probably it is because we assume that of all people our friends would take us first. I know some friends of mine would be thinking that way too, but since we have too many "godchildren" it seems doesn't matter anymore.
I hope that things would get better with you two. There a saying that goes "discard not an old friend co's the new one cannot equal them." I just suggest that if you want to save the friendship you need to try to understand her or stay away for awhile then comeback when times has heals some misunderstanding.
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@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
19 Jan 13
I think both of you have misunderstood each other. What I know for a best friend is they understand each other. You can talk to her so that everything is clear. Best friend sometimes argue each other. We have to saved those relationship before its too late.
@Pen_Pal777 (245)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
i have a hard time trying to see which comes first among the situations mentioned, but as far as i can see,that's stupid pride that got into your "childhood best friend". maybe she can't take the reality that you considered her as your best friend but you didn't make her godmother to your son, and you have chosen somebody else. imagine a "best childhood friend" was not invited to become a godmother, that must have been embarrassing to her despite the fact that your are not obligated to make her as godmother to your son. but that's it, she got angry or whatever, and your best friend became your enemy instead. it wasn't your fault, but i also understand how she feels.
@CarraC (69)
• Canada
19 Jan 13
I think it has alot to do with pride also.
But look at me, she didn't give me to be the Godmother of her child willingly. It was her mother's idea. I still took the place into her child's life. I love her child like is my own. She always hesitated to let spend time with her child. She would only allow me the child when she needs some free time. I never let that stand in the way
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
18 Jan 13
She doesn't sound like a good friend to me. Sounds like she just wants things her way and not considering you.
You can choice anyone you want to be Godmother to your son. And if you pick someone, then everyone else has to respect that choice. It is not their business to be upset because it is your decision what you want for your children.
She is only thinking of herself. That doesn't make her a very good friend. A real friend would support your decision. Even if she is not your son's Godmother, she can still pray for your son. And support your son. But she didn't do that, so why does she want to be a Godmother? It is a responsibility.
No one has to be mad. Just let her go. And focus on caring and loving your son.
Many Blessings to you.
@CarraC (69)
• Canada
19 Jan 13
Its like she showed no interest in my pregnancy or my son, but she didn't want me to give anyone else the role of being Godmother. She probably assumed that since she was my "bestfriend", she will automatically be Godmother. I gave it to someone who was there for me from my first day of pregnancy to the last. I think she deserved it. She proved herself
@xiaoyaozzl (41)
• China
18 Jan 13
Since she is your childhood best friend,you must know much about her.It's normal there are some quarrel between two best friend,cause you always together and probably have different opinions in one thing.
I think you should figure out why didn't she accompany you through the amazing journey.Maybe she had something bother her in that time.
One of the most important thing is the communication between two people.There almost no things can't be solved through the heart to heart communication.
Hope you and your friend will reconciliate soon!
@CarraC (69)
• Canada
19 Jan 13
We had om too many misunderstandings. I would ALWAYS be there for her. ALWAYS. But I can't say the same. I got to a point where I considered my self to be a better listener than her. I would seat and listen to her problems an entire day. She would barely realize that I needed a listening ear every now and then also
@xiaoyaozzl (41)
• China
22 Jan 13
She totally do not know how nice you are! Leave her aside,ignore her.Turn to the friend who cherish you.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I can see why you would be upset. Her pregnancy, you took interest in but her, she wouldn't return that interest. As a friend she should have and especially because experiencing it together and it is your first child she could have helped you. You don't need to feel bad about your choice. You didn't feel she was right as the godmother and that is your decision, not hers. A once shared friendship is nothing to hold over your head for that.
