Can you accept to live with your husband's parents?

Well, I am not married however if I am in such hypothetical situation, I would probably stay cool on the moment although it’s kind of bit awkward to live with your Husband’s parents rather than living in a different space, it’s quite a good way also to know them more better. It’s common in traditional family’s to live in an extended family wherein one is living in one place despite that they are settling down. However, if such situation is set, and the Mother-in-law is quite a dictator, well that won’t be a good way to start in living with them. I rather confront my partner and ask to settle in a different home if such terrible environment would happen. But if you get along with them, and have no worries on their interests and you agree with their dislikes, then it’s a good way living with them.

Hi Every country has their traditions . Why all should be like Americans? (no offence meant)They have their way of living similarly other countries too. If there is is any problem you discuss with your in laws and husband. I like my own country style of living and i don't like to follow any other country for that. Problem don't get solved if we start living like other country people . It only gets solved when we start discussing it with our family members .

I can understand it. We live with my parents. Even though, sometimes I am not satisfied how my parents treat my son. I think somewhat they spoil him a little. And it is especially wrong that they blame me if I am serious to my son when he does something wrong. I think children need to be told how to do when they do something wrong. Perhaps my attitude is not good, but at least he shall learn that mommy doesn't like him when he does so. There can be some other conflicts especially in the education. Since my husband and I have to work in day time. So I hope my parents can ask my son to do the homework when he's home. But every time I need to push him when I am home. And the result makes everybody unhappy. I don't know what's wrong.

I'm Hungarian, and it seems like I'm going to live with his mom. She seems nice, but she has this control freak thing going on, as well, just in a smaller scale. I'm a bit nervous what would happen if I actually moved in...

The day of big family has passed,I don't think you should tolerate all of this,anyway,your son's education should be guided by his parents,not grandparents.Try to talk with your husband about it,make sure he know the importance of this issue.In fact,in my opinion,if you can afford a house,I suggest you move out with your husband.

I am a chinese,too.And I also hate living with my in-laws even though I am not living with them now,I can imagine how terrible it is.And I suppose wifes seldom want to live with their in-laws.

It doesn't matter you are Chinese or American, if you have a controlling mother -in -law living in the same house, then you need to have a deep talk with your hubby and try to find a solution to it, let your hubby handle the issue in his way and reach an agreement between you and your husband's mother, if the problem fail to go away after the lengthy talk and agreement, you may want to move out and live separately from her before the situtation is getting unbearable and driving you into insanity. Don't worry about Americans living with their parents or not after married, take care of your own problem by having a talk with the party involve and your husband, the worst case scenario can come out from this is not living under the same roof with your husband's mother, and not follow the same old culture like many other married Chinese women, nothing wrong at all on your part since you can't bear it anymore from living with a control freak.

Hiya Jessie, Like many of us I had to live with his parents and had this problem too but not too bad either. I used to go out for long walks with my son and eventually we decided to emigrate and try for better luck in another country. Living with family can be veyr difficult I know well everyone knows that but some more than others can be very problematic to say the least.xxx

Guess that's the bad thing of living your in-laws' house. It happens to all, regardless of your nationality I think. I believe that marriage means new life, new family. So now that you're still living under the same roof with your in-laws, you will somehow consider their suggestions in every way not unless you live separately. You can respect culture without sacrificing your family's future--just saying:)