Jealousy / myLot

India

January 19, 2013 1:14am CST

During my training days at company, there was an incident which left me annoyed. We were playing a game called "Truth & Dare". For one of the girl, the question was "Who do you like most in our batch?". And to my surprise, the girl named me. You all must be thinking that it was good. But the problem was that my girlfriend was also in the same batch. As soon as the girl named me, I saw my girl friend's face turning red. She quite hated that girl afterwards. But to my disgust, she was angry with me more than that girl. She remarked that I was paying heed to that girl that's why she liked me. I didn't had any feelings for that girl. But the thing which confused me was why my girlfriend was angry with me. Also, why is it so that girls have a high jealous quotient? You all would agree with me on this point. Generally we see girls comparing themselves with others & then getting jealous for things they don't have. But they forget that everybody has his/her positives or strong points. Nobody can be perfect. You can only try to improve. But jealousy ruins the friendship. I was just friends with that girl. But after this incident, I was forced not to talk with that girl. I call it the "Jealous Factor" :-(

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6 responses

vernaC

@vernaC (1491)

• Romania

19 Jan 13

I got jealous of an old message from an ex-gf of my husband. I was not mad of the girl, I was not mad with my husband but I felt being fooled. I know it's an old message it should be erased but he did not so every possible nightmare a wife can imagine was in my head that time. But as moment goes by, my logic comes back to me. So as for your relationship and your gf, I'd say it's normal. When you feel all of a sudden you're being fooled you get mad. It's just not cool if your gf stays mad about this issue.

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Jenny1015

@jenny1015 (13366)

• Philippines

19 Jan 13

For one, it is easier for your girlfriend to make an argument with you than confront the girl. Your girlfriend is aware that the other girl likes you but your girlfriend isn't that much aware of what the real 'score' is. She is most probably afraid to ask her. She might think that she'd look stupid if she does that. Your girlfriend just loves you so much and is afraid to lose you, that's just it. So for your peace of mind and also for a better relationship, stay away from those girls who seem to like you.

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Rogelio

@rog0322 (2829)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Jan 13

Hi, Be careful, love is never jealous according to an age-old wisdom. It is logical enough, a person whose only motive in a relationship is to satisfy one's needs ends up insecure and always in a state of being doubtful, one's position is feared that it may be lost to another. Although it may be misinterpreted as "love" it is really a possessiveness that grows stifling as time goes by. You should re-evaluate her position in relation to yours and to your co-workers. It is not really a good working environment, awkward and tiring. The ideal situation should be that the girl, being confident in her relationship with you, should be happy that someone else finds you attractive and that she is not really blind in her choice. You may be right to be elusive but think of the backroom talks about you, people smiling behind your back and making all sort of derogatory remarks and actions on your manhood without your knowledge.

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miyazaki12

@miyazaki12 (429)

• Philippines

19 Jan 13

Hi! Jealousy is not particular to gender. It's an issue that individual has to face himself. I know a lot of boys and I've seen a lot of them get jealous over little stuff. Although they wouldn't really tell, it shows in their actions. Anyways... jealousy is just normal. If I were you're girlfriend, I would probably feel the same. The thing is, that girl blurted out her feelings for you in a group. It would have been okay if she had just hidden her feelings. If she can't help though and she doesn't want any regrets (that is if she only wants to express her feelings without asking for anything in return), it would be better if she spoken with you in person and perhaps explained. In this case, the damage has already been done. If I were here, I would apologize to your girlfriend. Your girlfriend doesn't have to fuss over it for a long time though. If I were her, a whole day or perhaps two days would be the longest. I believe that trust should always be in a relationship.

@caopaopao (12395)

• China

19 Jan 13

Hi, I read your post carefully. I can understand what has happened. But to tell you the truth, if I were your girl friend, maybe I will do the same. Maybe you can't understand this, but it happened. I feel it's that girl's fault, she knows the relationship between you and your girlfriend, she still named you as the person she liked most,especially when your girlfriend is among the batch, why did she do that? Does she really like you much or just want your girlfriend feel embarassed? She really should not do that. Don't blame your girlfriend, she did it because she loves you, she cares you much. She must hate that girl but she can't do anything to her, it means she is a good girl and she doesn't want to hurt her. It doesn't mean she doesn't hate that girl. Sometimes man and woman think things in different ways, well, If I were you, I will be nicer to my girlfriend as she really puts me in her mind, so try to understand her in woman's way.

. My English is poor so I don't know whether you can understand what I think, sorry about that.

sunshinesophie

@sunshinesophie (794)

• China

19 Jan 13

The photo you chose is really interesting. Well,your girlfriend is really green.Obvious she is being jealous.Though she may know there is nothing between you and your workmate, she became angry because that girl dares to express her love to you of so many eyes.And meanwhile,it is because she cares you too much and she is afraid of losing you.So just let it be as you work together.And try not to avoid the contact with that girl. But the better way is to have a talk with your girlfriend.Even though you explain it clearly to her and now you can make a compromise to listen to what she said,you will be annoyed when she keeps making trouble.So communication is a must. I hope everything works out for you.