My Own Father!

Hi, Before I say anything, do you have any brother? Maybe your father was just seeking for a pal with common interests as his'. When you were still a girl did you ever hear him complaint of having you two girls as his children? If yes, then I would agree with you but if he was there when you needed a dad then I guess the matter is just a misunderstanding. I also felt that when my brother stopped talking to me and his eyes were like telling me to go back to my mom's tummy because he wants a younger brother and not me. But then it was just a lil misinterpretation afterall.

I Always favored my father too. But I guess it also was because at least he did spend some minutes with me which my mother never did (although looking back it was more he was doing his thing and I was allowed to be there or help him out). The older I got the more he did open my eyes with his behaviour, lies, cheating and trying to use me for his cheating as well. So our relationship did end. I can't stay liars and people who make false promises. I also can't stand men who abuse and manipulate women. I doubt my father ever loved one of his children, he did always liked his daughters more but only because they "adored" him more as a boy/son would do. Well one day that was over as well. What I think? I think men are selfish and they only care about daughters as long as they idealize him or adore him. And they like to show off if it comes to others/strangers. Just to show how great they are/what a great dad. Pity enough just for strangers not for their own kids. I see it around me everywhere.

hi echo I am like LMB as I hate to see any parent showing favoritism for one child over another. I cannot blame you for feeling angry with your dad.I wonder why he does that as does he think its macho to always favor males over females?. . My dad was a counrty doctor yet he had this thing about crippled people or people with any defect whether of mind or body.If He saw a crippled person walking towards him on our small town street he would quickly go across to the other side of the street.This in a doctor? I hated that really and I never was close to my father from then on.

My father is the same way and I can't really say that I necessarily hate him because when he's around he's a nice guy and fun to be with but the time we spend together has been little to none the past twenty one years. He is also a womanizer like your father, he left my mom after she found out she was pregnant with me and he left my sister's mom out of I don't know maybe boredom or something. He seems to get more joy out of dating as many ugly women and barflies as he possibly can rather then meaningful relationships and being with his kids. I was never really too offended growing up when we didn't spend that much time together. However around six years ago give or take he told me he was moving to West Virginia to be with my little sister and my step mom. This I was all for because it would give him a chance to at least be a solid parent with one of his children. However he ended up leaving my sister just like he left me and that's what really made me think about what kind of person he actually is. My sister is hurt by not having him around but I'm so used to it that it doesn't and hasn't bothered me. Pretty much the only thing he's taught me is how NOT to be a dad. It just motivates me to try and be the best father possible when I have kids of my own.

I think I really hate favoritism in any situation! In all situations favoring one child over another hurts and is very unfair. He might not think his nieces notice or care but I am sure they do. And I am sure they are hurt by it and so they should be... I have always swore I would NEVER favor any of my children because I know how that feels and I don't do it. I even ask other people if they see me favoring any of my kids and they tell me no, you can tell you love them all the same. It is true, I made sure not to ever do it. My younger sister was favored my entire life by my mother and my brother was strongly favored by my father. My older sister and I were always left out... It hurt us a LOT. It was very unfair. And it has actually carried into our adult lives with certain things going through that. It definitely affects kids, anyone that says it doesn't is lying! I don't blame you for being angry with your father, favoring and being sexist are not good qualities to have... Not at all.

I can understand how you feel.In China,this is a common phenomenon in quite a lot of less developed areas.They treat woman inferior to the man and think the man is more important than woman.But this view changes gradually owing to the one-child policy in China.I should be grateful that it never happen in my family.It is annoying when someone is against women.I also want to ask here,who brought him to this world? His great mother.A woman as well.So just ignore his ideas,after all,he is your father.Hope you are not affected by his behaviors.

I think its possible he isn't showing favoritism to this lady's sons because he is sexist. I think he may be showing interest in the boys because of the lady. which doesn't make him sexist, it makes him a normal male. I hope this isn't a scandalous suggestion, but even if he doesn't have ulterior motives, if a person is attracted to someone, they can be a little out of balance, at least for the time being. I hope he gets over it soon.

We all learn in life,no one is born perfect.Instead of hating him, ask him questions and get to the root of the problem.Explain him how favoritism affects kids and what is wrong with it.Tell him it hurts your feelings.Men don't understand what is wrong if you don't explain them.