Does Your Family Know About Your Friends Here?

@KrauseHome (36447)
United States
January 19, 2013 4:08pm CST
I know many of us here have families. Maybe we are married with kids, have significant others, or maybe are still living at home. We are always having to find time between our families, and our job, and life to be here. Many times it means juggling around some things or getting up early to be here, or even coming here at night. But does your family know what is going on here, or is this a Secret world? Do they ever read some of the discussions and help you try and respond back in here? Do they care about what you post here, or your friends here. Do you ever share and talk about some of the people here, or just things in general? As many of you know, I am married. There are many times I have shared things with my husband someone has said, or when their is a Prayer need will tell him so we can both Pray. I feel that it is important to keep him in the loop. What is funny is if I am not online in here posting sometimes on my days off, etc. he will ask if something is wrong with myLot. So for me I have let this site become a Great extended family. What about you? ~~TINA~~
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
20 Jan 13
THere are several I talkto my daughter about and one or 2 even call me on the phone just to talk and daughter knows about that special one that calls me from England early in the mornings . BUt she nevr erads anything here an there might be sometimes she does an input on a post if I read it to her as I think itis important but most ly I just respond with out her knowing when
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
9 Feb 13
Maybe she feels she is busy with her own life, and does not really have the time or since she is not interested in being a member here, why should she care about people you are communicating with online that you do not even know?
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Yes, there are a few here I am friends with also on Facebook, and a couple I have talked on the phone with. I actually think it is interesting sometimes when my husband even will ask, so how is everyone doing today, meaning all my friends here in myLot.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
7 Feb 13
daughter used to but seems like she dont much any more I guess I stopped telling her posts I have responded to on mylot. just weird now I am wondering what has changed
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
20 Jan 13
Nope... I live alone and do my own thing for the most part. The kids know that I "do things" online and they know about some of the things I write, but I don't know if I've even told them about myLot. I did tell my sister, but she wasn't interested. Suits me. I don't have to worry about saying something that would offend someone!
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Exactly. MyLot is my own.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Well, that is why I would be afraid of allowing some of the people I work with a chance to know about this site, and read and respond back to some of these discussions here, as it would often only create more issues than what are already there, and the only family member who knows about this site and share things with is my husband as most of the other ones would never care.
@May2k8 (18389)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 13
they know me at here and they do not know who's my friends. They never asked even pay attention to what I write here, because I was the one saying the truth without hiding the fact and the reality that exists within me.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
9 Feb 13
Yes, that is the truth. There are times I can feel I can post here my thoughts and experiences and share things and not have to really wonder what others close to me might think. And a lot of times, what I share in here I would not want most of my coworkers to ever read for sure.
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
20 Jan 13
It is not a secret of my involvement here at mylot, my husband sometimes comes up and look over my shoulder to see what im typing about. or like you if i need help trying to express my self with something i ask for some help.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Yes, I feel it is good to share your myLot world with your spouse if they are interested, and even get some Good feedback on things from them as well. I find it quite interesting because when I share a situation I tend to refer to someone here just so he can relate and often times know what I am praying about many times as well.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
I have no friends or family that knows something about online community outside facebook. Sometimes, they can't understand what I do online. I am convincing a friend and my sister to be in here. We share the same passion for reading and writing. That friend, May and I even used to exchange journals and diaries just a few years ago. We exchange journals because we like it the way that someone will respond to what we thought. So much myLot, right? But they just can't understand online earning sites. I even told them that they don't think of the earning if that will distract them. Am still on the process convincing them. I sometime share to my husband about myLot community but he isn't much on computers for him to join. So it is just me here. I am free to tell my rants on life that I can't share in the real world. I consider myLot as my friend and all of you guys here ofcourse. Happy Lottings and I wish you well Tina.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Yes, it is interesting here how one can come here and share and talk about things just like you would talk with a friend and get so many ideas. It is a good place to tell your rants as well as make new friends.
@MaylaJay (349)
20 Jan 13
I don't consider this a secret world, but I don't really talk about it. I mentioned a discussion site a couple times, but I mostly just do my own thing. No one usually asks what I'm doing either. It just doesn't come up.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Well, there are a lot of times I have mentioned this site to a friend and they are like that is nice, but I am not into things like that, or it would not benefit me. So personally I think it varies with each person.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
19 Jan 13
no way! my lot is my secrete world. i come here to rant when ever the people in my life drive me crazy. i love them, but the are not perfect (neither am i). sometimes it's good to have a place you can come to and talk to people who are perfect strangers and have nothing to do with your real life. sometimes people on mylot can be more understanding and more objective. i don't even let anyone in my house or my family know the site exist.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
25 Jan 13
Interesting thoughts here. Yes, there are many times I come here to discuss something going on in my life just to get a second opinion and thought than just between my husband and I, and other times just to vent about something that might be going on in my life as well.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
19 Jan 13
Yes but they're not interested. This is my world and they do their own thing. Like you I see some here as extended family. Some I have even met for real!
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
29 Jan 13
That would be cool to meet some here. I know if I could afford it there are quite a few here I would love to meet. Maybe someday.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
19 Jan 13
My fiancee know about here , whenever he is close by I would show him discussion . My fiance dont care what I post are who I talk to as long as I enjoy doing it . I tell my fiance about everything , I sometimes describe people here like i know them and he will remember them based on discussion they have post . I like that he listen and remember what we talk about . I dont tell my friends about here though , I talk to them on facebook is enough .
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
29 Jan 13
Yes, it is so true that a lot of my close personal friends have no idea about this site and would probably not be interested in this site and would not be interested in it.
@MandaLee (3764)
• United States
19 Jan 13
Hi Tina, My family knows about mylot. I miss mylot when I'm too busy to post. How are you? I am praying for you each day.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
25 Jan 13
Well, I feel it is important to continue to let my husband know what is being discussed here, and what we are talking about as this is just part of my extended family for sure.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
20 Jan 13
I often tell my mother and friends about discussions that are started here, or some of the responses. One of my friends suggested that I join here, so she knows all about it anyway. Now she has a full time job, so doesn't get on here as much as before.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
5 Feb 13
Yes, there are a lot of times I enjoy sharing about things people are going thru and posting here and some of the wonderful things and advice I get here from time to time. Personally I feel we are just one extended family, so why not share things that are going on around us?
• United States
19 Jan 13
You all are my extended family also. You know how I feel about you, Tina. I care deeply for you and a few others on mylot. I do share things with my family when I am troubled about the person. I get all involved with them. My family thinks its stupid cuz it's just online and 'not real.' I said it is real and these are real people behind their screen names.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
29 Jan 13
That is so true my friend and one of these days god willing I am going to find a way so we can actually meet.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
19 Jan 13
Yes, MyLot is part of my family, all my friends and family know about it. None of them have the desire to come here though. But I always bring something up, whether it's guess what's on MyLot together, or getting their opinion on something. I spend most of my off time, here as I have goals to reach. Once I get my seasonal job back up and running I wont be here as much.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
1 Feb 13
Well, yes, there are times I am more active here than others, but my husband is always like how are you doing on myLot, and sometimes even asking me why I am not in here posting. It is just a Great place to always be as I have time to be here.
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
19 Jan 13
My family and my husband know about mylot and what's it about. I talk to them about it, share some stories and funny stuff, basically some good conversation topics. But they trust me and they do not actually check me out about the comments or posts that I write. And even if they did, I have nothing to hide. Most of the time, everything that I have shared on here are also known in my real life.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
5 Feb 13
Well, my husband knows about all the things I share on here, and most of the time these are things we talk about even before I post here. I think unless your family does not want to be involved, it is important to share with them your life things you might be doing while online. Especially since there are so many who try to hide behind the internet these days.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
20 Jan 13
My husband knows that I post to friends, but not necessarily on what sites. He thinks that I do nothing but sit at the computer all day. He also knows that I post to some that gives support for my son.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
19 Mar 13
You mean he don't know that you are earning extra money in here that can help with things, or you never share that? Personally just because my husband knows I post here, most times he knows little of what is really going on here unless I choose to share something.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Well, it is true some people will never get it. Now that I have my tablet and wifi at home, a lot of times I can be here in the living room like I am now, have the TV on, and also be in here posting. Gives it a good balance I think.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
19 Mar 13
He does know but says that I cannot make enough to pay for my time that I spend. So, I sit at the computer while he sits and watches shows on tv that I think is boring. I don't get it, but ok.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
29 Mar 13
My wife is familiar with myLot and myLot friends. She do sometimes help me in myLot discussion by replying to various discussions and login in my ID when I am not using the computer. I think it is good to have family know about the online friends and computer.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
12 Apr 13
Personality, I feel it is important to keep a spouse especially knowing what you're doing here and get them involved if they want, just so you all have something you can relate with.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
20 Jan 13
Oh, I've mentioned it to my family, but my household knows anyway - my roomie was here, but someone attacked her off line and she left, besides, she's got a full time job that pays her to think so coming here and thinking isn't much fun.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
22 Feb 13
Wow!! I am so glad that when people have tried to attack me and tell me I was wasting my time for the low pay being here, and why would I want to share stuff with others I will never meet. I was like thinking wow.. Many times these are the same ones that would air their dirty laundry on Facebook and never think twice about it. But maybe eventually something can happen to make her come back.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
5 Mar 13
Well, sometimes, I think one of the reasons I keep coming here especially when time is limited to give me more tie to relax and talk about things just to release a little bit of tension.
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
23 Feb 13
I doubt it, like I said, she gets the big bucks to think on her job, she just wants to cruise and do her political junk and not think too much.
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@celticeagle (168420)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Jan 13
My daughter knows but my granddaughter and grandson don't. I talk about this 'discussion group' in my counseling session also. Whatever works I think. Best to be honest about where you spend your time or people start getting suspicious. hehe
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
21 Mar 13
Well, I find it is interesting. There are people that ask me if I am still posting in my Blog site I earn money from, and if I am still enjoying being here, but they are never interested in anything further.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Very true!!! And some of these are the same type of people who never stop to think when airing their dirty laundry on Facebook. So you never know what people consider when doing something sometimes.
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@celticeagle (168420)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Mar 13
Ya, people don't take it seriously. They usually want instant money and conversing with other doesn't sound profitable.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
My husband doesn'tknow much about the virtual world. And he is not interested about it that much. So I share stories about Mylot to my SIL. I have encouraged her to join but writing isn't really her thing. She'd rather read her ebooks. But she listens to my stories.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
11 Feb 13
My husband is not a typed otherwise he would probably try this site out. But I do share stories from time to time and discuss things. I think it is interesting sharing the online world together.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
22 Feb 13
Well, many times there will be people that only think we are sitting here just wasting our time online, and why do we want to be here. They think this site is just like any other Blog so why are we here? My husband luckily is not one of them, and I would rather be in here posting then wasting my time on Facebook. I get a lot more satisfaction with this as well.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
I've tried telling my husband about it but he is such a narrow-minded person that he thinks I am just wasting my time online. He doesn't know that I do earn from spending time here and other sites, though.
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
21 Jan 13
Yes my family is well aware of my online Social statis, matter of fact my closest family also sign up for sights when I do so we can stay up to date on everything together.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
21 Mar 13
Well, my husband has actually said that if he could type better he might consider wanting to sign up here, but probably more help me out here from time to time.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
26 Mar 13
Well, with working full time and trying to get my online/offline business going more there are a lot of times its hard to be here, but I am here when I can
@Pegasus72 (1898)
22 Mar 13
My husband is signed up here but I don't think he has written anything between working and other obligations he doesn't have as much time to do these sorts of things.
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