People Who Have Kids And Don't Want To Take Care Of Them

This is so sad. Those people who for some reason or another are not fit to be parents are the ones who can get pregnant easily; while those who can be really good parents and give their children a good future have problems conceiving. Pretty ironic, huh? I also know some people who use kids for hand outs and benefits so they wouldn't have to work harder, or not work at all.

I agree with your rant. I have someone that is like this and it annoys me too. She is always going out or going on vacation and leaving the kids behind. I think it is a terrible thing to do! I have 3 children, I had them because I want them. Funny thing I know. Some parents don't actually want their kids. I hear so many parents in the summer time saying they cannot wait for their kids to go back to school and I think to myself, why did you have kids if you cannot stand being around them?!? I don't understand this kind of behavior at all. A couple years ago I had a parent who I was babysitting for leave her kids at my door (I didn't even know she was bringing them so its a good thing I went outside when I did) and she left them at my house for TWO days! I tried calling her and calling her but she would not answer. When she finally got back, she said sorry I really needed a longer break from them!! I was shocked and so sad for the children. I was glad I was home to care for them! It's sad how often this happens...

I think tat people who become pregnant in this wiay are only out for the experience that happens to them. The child becomes lost as the parent has to take on more responsible and can not be showered with all of the attention.

it also happen n my place and this lazy parents should not even think of marrying or starting a family f they could not handle the parenting responsibility toward there children. while their are excuse situation where the couple need to work ans so they live with there mother n law to care for their children while they are away which makes the retirement of some older folks into becoming a mother again which are also wrong because the precious time where the grandmother should spent in their leisure hours are taken by raising of there grandchildren. parents who could not attend personally to there children need to hire a nanny to look after the welfare of their children. it s annoying to pawn your children even for a short time becomes annoying to those people who are also busy so if you need to say no then refuse as gently as possible.

they must be penalised for sure and this kind of behavior is intolerable and they must be disbanded for life and this is not the correct way to set a example for others to follow

I know that feeling. My sister in law is the same way. She has 4 kids and she leave them for her parents every day. Maybe 12 hours a day. as soon as they get home from school, she makes them come straight to her parents place. Sometimes I'm stuck watching her kids plus my thirteen month old son. I feel so sorry for the kids, that's why I baby sit for her. They lack love and attention, and although I have to give it to my son, I give her 4 kids some of my time, love and affection. It's so sad.

LOL! Speak!! I hear ya. I am not in love with kids, either, but I do love mine unconditionally. I know people who have kids, and at some point they are just waiting for the kids to get old enough to take care of themselves. When you are always with your kids, you're right, people strangely think that adding their kid to your pot will make no difference to you since you're already "stuck" with your own. But like you said, there's a difference between your kids and someone else's. A break is one thing, even though I hardly ever get one. But majority of the time, as a parent, you need to be present and active in your child's life.

Those people are the worse , and they are the ones that encourage others the most to have children , their favorite quote " children are a blessing" but yet they dont want to take care of them after they have them . Your family is not as bad as some I have see . They dont even have a job and they have children . No one never try and pawn off kids on my mom lol but I know she would not allow that to happen . I am far from ready to have children but some people never evaluate themselves before doing things that affect others .

I hope I do not insult you, but that sounds extremely irresponsible of your family members. Children are a gift, a joy, and something that not everyone can have. They are also a huge responsibility. While I know not every single one can be planned, it takes a lot to bring them into the world. Which is why I want to be in a better place financially and emotionally before I decide to have any. As much as I want them now, I know I'm not ready. I would never pawn my children off like that, just leaving them. My dad was a single father, and he never did that. He got help when needed. He did send me to grandma's, but only when he really needed a night off. And I understood. But I know where you are coming from, because my dad's girlfriend had that problem. Her daughter would just drop off her child and it would take forever to get ahold of her to come pick the girl up. Or she would leave her with this person or that person, basically to the point where the little girl wouldn't even have a bedroom to call her own. She was always over at someone else's house. I think it takes a great deal of sacrifice, compromise, and selflessness to be a parent. I've seen so many people in my life become shining examples. I agree with you. If one isn't ready, don't have kids. Especially just for attention, especially if it's on purpose for an ulterior reason. It's not fair to the child.