Really Scared to get Married

First of all,why you are lying only on your presumptions?You are going to be married.How and why do you think your husband woould not understand you and would leave you unheard?I would like to tell you,and perhaps you will agree with me,that marriage is not a one way traffic.You would have to give something to get something.If he does not understand you,then you should try to understand him.Or,if you don't understand him,he should try to understand you.Mutual understanding is all that matters in a marriage.Love him,try to understand him,stay by him,and you will get the same things beack from him.Don't panic.Don't be scared.Give your husband what you want to get from him.

i know I don't have the right to comment on marriage and on being married because i have never experienced being a wife or being engaged to someone, but because of some people's experience on marrying just like you, i think i am now discouraged to marry someday, haha. i know i will meet someone who will ask for my hand to marry him in the future but i think, i am scared to marry too. everyday, i hear stories of how married life could be fun and exciting but disappointing and frustrating too, because i have friends who used to be married before and my parents have separated as well. But whatever your decision will be, i hope you will not regret anything and i hope you become happy and contented in your life whether you decide to marry or to be single for the rest of your life.

I feel you should try to be in perspective yourself and be in control with yourself and your life. This is a free society and I am sure no one can force you into anything. No matter what your parents may want you to do, I am sure there's always a way to meet them half way with your aspirations and plans for yourself to as much as theirs to yours. We will need to work for our things and life, so rather than considering the endings we should spend more time and efforts on what we want to do and aspire to be.

Are you financially able to "explore the world", as you put it. If so,go for it. The guy your parents are pressing you to marry deserves better than a reluctant bride.

Getting married is a dream for some of the people, living with a guy who really love is a good thing and is always a life protecting. It is not that big thing that all should get married, some people like to be alone and as you said they want to explore the whole world. It is so nice of that in the young age, but when you get older u need some one to be caring. Think and make your decision.

I think that kind of feeling comes to everyone at one point of our lives. It is just a stage and once you have found your true dream and passion, you will begin to embrace life with all its challenges.

The first question is if you love the guy that your parents are urging you to marry? Maybe you don't really love him? Because if you truly love that guy I don't find any reason why you would think of all those negative things. Maybe you don't really love him so you are so disturbed about the thought of marriage and many things related to it. If you don't then don't marry him. Wait for the right guy and for sure when the right guy comes you will the be the happiest woman when he proposed marriage to you.

marriage happen to complement each other. I am not regret being married by my husband, because I feel that I had chosen the right man. I fell like my life is complete now, because I have a lovely husband and a nice daughter.

I don't know if what you are going throw is cold feet or not. The first question to yourself is do you love the guy? That should be the only things that you need to know weather or not to marry him or not. Its normal to feel that things will change because yes marriage does change things but it doesn't stop you from being you and if he really loves you he will always find away to understand you just like you will always find a way to understand him and to support each other in what you want and the dreams you both want to do weather it's together or not. If you feel in your heart he isn't the one and that he is going to pull you don't then he might not be the one. I will tell you I love being married it does have ups and downs for sure be we are always here for each other.

Marriage isn't for everyone, it must not be seen as a means to an end either. It must be entered into by both parties who are sure of what they're doing or what they're getting themselves into. You can sit down and talk to your parents about your fears and feelings. A married themselves they should be able to provide some insights and some glimpse on married life. I think itis also high time that they understand that pressuring you isn't going to help you any.

me too, when I was younger I don't like to get marrried, oh yes that was after a failed relationship... then I move on with my life. Now I want to get married but I am almost past due. ahahaha i don't think no one will marry an old woman like me.. even my BF hahahah bad man.

if its not wedding jitters then you need to revaluate your feelings for your man.maybe the love you felt for him has reduced or stoped or else you have discovered something new keeping you from committing.i think the best thing for you to do,is take your time and listen to your own heart,dont rush to make other people happy this is your life,share with your man your fears and see if you will feel more ready if you still cant come to terms with the marriage idea something is not right.

Sis,are you out of your mind.Getting married is good and bad too.After marriage you need to take care of your child and everything.Why don't you marry a man who you loves and understand each other truly,so that you can live a happy life. Long live and very happy married life in advance.

From your words I guess it might not be the time for you to decide. Why not let all other botherings leave you alone and really calm down and plan for your future? I think you are ambitious and have higher expectations for yourself, which is very promising. Can you strike a balance between marriage and dreams? I mean, do you really need to leave home to pursue your dream? If you really do, I suggest that you should take a leap of faith.

If you don't want to get married, then don't get married. Don't let someone force you into doing someting that you do not want to do. I got married because it was right for my husband and I, not because my parents pushed me into it. It's ultimately your life, and not their.s

Tell your parents about your feelings. I am sure they will understand you. Marriage is a life time commitment and should not be taken for granted for the sake of our parents. I am also a parent myself and I won't compromise my children's future especially when it comes to lifetime commitment.

If that man is a choice of your parents and not your own, I don't see why you have to marry him. Although I don't know the customs in your country and I mean no disrespect, I only believe that you have to get married when you are ready, not when someone tells you to. If you love this man truly and you believe that afte you get married, you will be able to live your dreams together with him, that's fine. But if you don't believe you will, I think you should put your wishes and dreams first, without trying to please someone else.

Exactly the same feeling I have every time a boyfriend would ask me to get married. But good thing there were something that will happen to save me from marrying. I am now single again. but is eager to get married although there is still fear thinking about the future with my future husband. Anyone who will ask me must make me feel secured that he will be around, near me, support me, love me and will never leave me. I have enjoyed my life fully so I guess if someone makes me feel all that then I will get married. You are still young, so I guess there's a reason why you feel that way.

Then do not rush to be get married. Follow your heart. Live into your dreams and fulfill them. Me? I am not that afraid into marriage but like you I still want to explore more and find my self, what I can do and how far I can go.

I will pray for you, hopefully you get the courage to stand up for yourself and that your parents would be able to consider and respect your decision. Getting married is a big step, it should only be done on one right reason and that only reason is love. If you don't want to get married, no one should force you, it's is your life not theirs.