Do you enjoy being single?
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
China
January 20, 2013 11:42pm CST
I've loved once, and after that breakup I've been single for 3.5 years. During that time I had a crush on a guy and told him about my feelings, but it didn't work out. That's fine anyway:)
Point is, I kind of enjoy being single now, with only parents and friends on my mind.
No distraction, no heartbreak. But still, I kind of long for the one to come into my life.
Where is he? What does he look like? The myth of life makes everything promising and fascinating:) Do you enjoy being sigle?
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@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
well, i am not single because i am in an LDR but, i think that doesn't make a difference because i feel like i am single--weeks without talking to each other or even exchanging of messages. i guess being single is better because you wouldn't have headaches, heartaches etc. and you can do what you want to do without thinking that someone will be hurt or mad at you.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
21 Jan 13
Yeah, as a saying goes, single is simple, double is trouble:) But one cannot stay single forever, so I have to cherish this period and make the best of it.
I read that you are in LDR, I've had LDR, too. So I guess sometimes you might feel tired and disappointed that he cannot be nearby, but it's really a precious period and good chance for you to learn to be independent, and learn to manage your feelings and your relationship well. What do you say?
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@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
yeah, you are right sometimes i feel so jaded and taken for granted because we do not talk to much these past few days, maybe because of his job and his job also makes me doubt about his feelings for me but like what he told me, i have to trust him in order to keep our relationship working. and you are right also in saying that LDR makes me independent =)..
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
It's nice that we share agreements:) I think he's right, too. Trust, and your relationship gets stronger. Wish you two the greatest happiness.
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@5mahi05 (666)
• India
21 Jan 13
I am single yet and no one has knocked the door of my heart yet. I kind of like a guy and heard from friends that he has the same feeling too. So, as of n ow I am longing for the day when he will be coming to ask me out.
But then, as you said, still I am never into a relationship and I have never felt a need to enter into one as I am very close to my family and I enjoy most of my time with my family and i have the best bunch of people as friends in my life from my childhood. So, i never really thought about anything else really.
But then, in spite of me being ignorant of the other world other than my family and friends, somehow he made a way to my heart. So, may be I think it is time to drop the single status sooner and get into something serious in life.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
Wow it's exciting to see you and the guy having feelings for each other at the same time! Well well, just be yourself, be patient and hope for the best. lol.
Good luck darling:)
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@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
A pleasant day to you Sarahliuliwen,
Being single for me is a kind of blessing. As there are times, it is quite difficult to feel the enjoyment if you are still single. Especially at the age which is nearly to your second half of life. Hence they called it as single blessedness. If you are bless with this life, you will feel the blessings and not mind at all if you are alone facing the challenge of life. And one thing for sure, God will allow that you will meet someone that you will have to be your companion. He or she might not be your other half, but he or she might be your best companion. So whatever your status is, this is a blessing from God. Though you are single today, still you can be with your partner tomorrow.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
Thank you so much for sharing with me God's blessings. I can feel it. That's very comforting and gives me hope. God bless you,dear airasheila!
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@aminul842700 (861)
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
21 Jan 13
Yes, once I have enjoyed it. Now I am enjoying family life.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
That's great! Wish you a happy family life:)
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
21 Jan 13
I do, most of the time. Sometimes I get lonely and wish I wasnt single again. But for the most part... I enjoy being single again here.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
21 Jan 13
Hi,
Everything has too sides, the bad side and the good side. When I was single, I was free and I could do what I wanted to , like getting up late or stayed up late, , nobody knows, even though it's not good for my health. But when I get married and have a child, I can't do that, as I have to get up early to make breakfast for her and my husband. But at the same time I get happiness and love from the marriage.
SO everything has two sides. You are so young, you will meet your true love one day. It jsut needs time and chance.
Wish you a happy time every day!
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
Thank you! It's nice to see you in a happy marriage. You are blessed to have them. And yes I believe that my someone will come into my life one day. I hope I won't miss it:)
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
21 Jan 13
Up until six years ago, I was married, but On Christmas Eve of 2005, my husband told me we weren't compatible after 35 years. believe me, it was devastating to hear that, as I wasn't ready to be alone. Since then, i have come to accept it, and it really isn't all that bad anyway, as I have the freedom to come and go without anyone telling me that I can't. I have seen lots of couples split up after quite a few years, and I thought it would never happen to us, but it did, and now I have gone on, and we are still good friends, as we talk everyday. He spends the holidays with me and the family, and he does come to do things fr me at times, and that is good too. I won't lie and say I don't have feelings for him as I still do, but I know that there won't be anything more than friendship, and that is okay too. Life really isn't all that bad being single, at least for me it isn't anyway. Take care, and have a good day.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
Thank you Rosekiss. My sister's name is Rose ;)
As a 24 year-old, please allow me to say something about your experience.
I think it's a good thing for him to realize that, and it's good for you, too.
Your ex knows exactly what he wants, and had enough courage to make that decision.
It must be hard for him, too.
What's more, it's good to see you accept that with so much understanding and tolerance, and it's enlightening for me to see you two in contact and help each other from time to time. Thank you again, and wish you all the best.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Don't be sad or regret for the lost love.
Sometimes we must let go of the other for the right person to come along.
Be happy with your life , love moves in mysterious ways.
I am sure someone out there is meant for you.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
Thank you, I like your word "Love moves in mysterious ways" and yes, that's why life is so fascinating to me.
Best regards and happy mylotting;)
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@Newyorker06 (79)
• United States
21 Jan 13
I currently enjoy being single because I am at a point in my life where I don't really need any distractions. I also don't feel like dealing with the restrictions that come with a relationship. Having to worry about what the other person is doing, if the are being faithful because myself personally I don't have time for that kind of things. I am trusting of people worrying about things like that will cause people to age to early. When the person that I am supposed to be with come along then I will be ready but I am not rushing every anything, I am focusing on myself and bettering my life.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
It's great to have the time to fully concentrate on ourselves. THink how precious it is, cos several years later when you are married, that single period will be gone forever! As for relationship, there really are some distractions, restrictions and whatsoever, but there are comfort, care and happiness, too! So let's just take things as they are, and be happy every minute.
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@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
21 Jan 13
I'm now in a relationship, but I see the advantages of being single. You have control over your own time, you don't have to explain to the other one if you have an "I don't want to talk to anyone, because I feel grumpy" mood, you don't have to adapt to other people, you can do whatever and whenever you want...
But for all those still I wouldn't change my fiancé. He's perfect for me, and the feeling that he cares so much for me and loves me so deeply is unreplaceable.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
It's so sweet to see that you've met the right person. Wish you a happy relationship for ever!
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@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
21 Jan 13
Yes I do. But sometimes it gets a bit boring. Especially when you go out with friends and they bring their boyfriends along, it makes you feel like something stupid. Family also asks you a lot of questions and people thinks you are not straight as well.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
Well, it's a little bit annoying to have people questioning about your orientation:( But I don't think it's stupid to be with friends that have bfs or gfs. It's cool.
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@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Hello dear :)
Just like you I am single too, I have been into a relationship 2 years ago and got brokenhearted and didn't have another bf since then. It's not by chance that am single but my personal choice. Like you, I was able to look around and care for others around me. I realized i got hooked with my ex Haha :D I was able to be better at work, serve my parents & family better.
But again just like you, I don't wanna be single forever
Just wanna tell you, your someone would surely come when both of you are ready to meet each other ;) Have faith =) Cheers dear!
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
Cheers! It's nice to see you and I so much alike :)
My ex is handsome and sexy and I still feel something for him too! But I know for sure that we cannot be together again. I'm so looking forward to fainally having someone to be with me for the rest of my life.
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@olivetree27 (495)
• Greece
21 Jan 13
I love being single because I can focus on my career and my family. I wish I didn't really take time dating before. I love that my time is mine alone and I can do whatever I want. It's kind of annoying though whenever people are making comments about it as if it's their business. Comments like ''You should find a boyfriend!'' But the most important thing is that you're happy in whatever you're doing. It doesn't matter if other people make comments about you. It's better to be single than be in a relationship where you're miserable.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
I completely agree with you. I hope my next relationship will no longer be anyway miserable, and so do yours.
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Yes, I really enjoy being single these days. Even at 33 I am not even in a panic to look for someone. I made the decision to make myself better in all aspects. If I make an effort to make myself better I will attract the right partner.
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@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
22 Jan 13
Oh I doubt whether I could be that patient when I'm 33 :)
But anyway, you can do whatever you want with your life, so long as you feel it right.
And your someone will surely come to you. I wish you could be in your perfect status when you meet your love!:)
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@Archie0 (5652)
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21 Jan 13
LOL! i have been single since past 8.5 years. Quite long right? but trust me i enjoy being single completely i don't want to fall into the mess again. My parents are into getting me married sooner anytime now. But i keep praying to god i should never get married ever. I want to live my life the way i am living right now. Single and enjoying it fully.
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@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
21 Jan 13
I was once single for many years and enjoyed it to the fullest. Being single is so much better than jumping from one relationship to another. I'd say, enjoy yourself, do things you want, experience things for yourself to grow. In time when you meet the right person, you are then a mature woman who can handle things in your hand.
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@jirojoyman (458)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 13
why do we have a similar story, i also have single since 3 years ago...,but one thing i recommend is just be happy with our condition now and believe that someday we will meet our true love...so today is i am single and very happy.....,
@marmayogi26 (7)
• India
21 Jan 13
Its not posdible for everyone to be a single true or not every.one needs a pair to.live with being im married last I.missedmy single.life which.i enjoyed last 24 years but even happy.to be with my wife because its going to be permanent in life