If Christians Don't Get Me Married Soon, Should I Become a Mass-Murderer?
@mythociate (21432)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
January 21, 2013 12:35pm CST
Tim Laitenen's article "Violence & the Single Factor" (http://www.crosswalkmail.com/ViewMessage.do?m=mbwptbwyp&r=ndytkfwqqjyt&s=mywbqscdbwbcpdktgvzmzcspyggpwnczqqk&a=view) suggests that many of the men who performed the recent violence peppering our media might've worked-through their frustrations more-peacefully if they had had the accountability that comes with a wife.
I am single, and--though I seem to be 'okay with it' (even to myself)--I (and anyone within 'range') might have some serious problems very soon ... problems that can be avoided by securing me in marriage.
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@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
21 Jan 13
It really doesn't sound like you're "okay with it" to me. You're always complaining about it.
I wonder, why do you feel it's the responsibility of the Christians in your life to get you married? It doesn't sound to me like you're really a Christian yourself, you just pretend to be one when you go to church in the hopes that they'll set you up. The Bible says we need to be "equally yoked" with our prospective partners. I think these Christians you know who haven't set you up can very well sense that you're not on the same belief page as they are, and you want to get married for all the wrong reasons (you want a woman to take care of you).
Getting married is not going to solve your problems, it will only drag an additional person into them. If you have serious problems, you have no business getting married. There's no guarantee that "securing you in marriage" is going to keep you from going off the deep end.
And threatening to become a mass murderer if someone doesn't match you up soon is the perfect way to get Christians to hide all their single women from you.
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
22 Jan 13
Thank you. I just wanted to be definite that I'm not one of those 'armchair theologians' who read something I like in the Bible and from that point believe the Bible REVOLVES AROUND that point---that I am instead sorta like that prince who became Buddha after he noticed the people outside the palace & went down and lived ascetic for a little while
(not that I'm THAT devotional; but rather 'I started-out living the easy life, that was STOLEN FROM ME, and I want it back!')
I guess the question I was getting-at in the start is really 'What's to keep me from becoming a mass-murderer?' I mean, I've been through enough 'therapy' to know there's no 'abundance' or 'profit' in mass-murder (the reason why G*d set the rainbow in the sky to remind us that She won't cause any 'worldwide flood'), but how can we know my subconscious won't take over and 'push the button' (getting past the Secret Service somehow 
)
I hear the police-sirens getting closer, so I'll hurry! 
This is probably something I don't want to discover/remind-myself---one of the reasons I can't 'turn mass-murderer' is because I lack 'the power to get the equipment' (literally, "money" 
). If I got 'full repayment' for the life stolen from me, chances are high that I'd use it to destroy the part of this population that I deem to be 'wasteful.'
)
I hear the police-sirens getting closer, so I'll hurry! This is probably something I don't want to discover/remind-myself---one of the reasons I can't 'turn mass-murderer' is because I lack 'the power to get the equipment' (literally, "money" ). If I got 'full repayment' for the life stolen from me, chances are high that I'd use it to destroy the part of this population that I deem to be 'wasteful.'1 person likes this
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
26 Jan 13
Whose call is it to say it is or is not my call?
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
21 Jan 13
Hmm.. that's an interesting perspective. I can't say that marriage brings happiness or makes people more responsible for that matter, sometimes it does just the opposite. A lot of people that get married today are not ready for marriage and all that it entails.. my ex-husband was one of those types..
I feel that a serial killer is going to be just that regardless of upbringing, financial situation or marriage because it's just something that is in them.. that has been in them for quite some time and they are finally reacting off of those inner impulses.
Who's to say that marriage won't drive someone crazy? Or divorcing and losing everything you have may push one over the edge. I guess that's what makes those types of people so crazy.. a sane person will never be able to figure out their motives.. because if we could easily figure that out.. we could see the signs in people earlier and possibly prevent things like that from happenening.
But, as I stated before.. interesting perspective ;)
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
22 Jan 13
Right, and my perspective could be a super-power for Good, or a super-power for Evil. You would think that Christians--praising their god as the one-&-only holy Good--would marry me into their family. But I guess they need the battle to rage 
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Okay, now i would have to disagree with this, maybe for the most part of it.
i am still single, and i do know a lot of single men as well. But never have i seen them having a tendency of being violent whatsoever.
I guess being married (for the guys especially in this discussion) will help them become more responsible, they might see that someone depends on them and they need to gather up their act and be a "MAN". Now I also know a lot of married men with KIDS, and they still are pretty much the same as they are.
So maybe the truth is that it may actually seem as though married men are more responsible, they are more accountable, but probably, they are just what we think we see, and it is less likely true. =P Wives may have had the chance of being able to conceal the true nature of their husbands, or that they just knew how to live with it. haha
So what i am saying is that a person whether married, or not can have their own frustrations. a person whether single or not can have a lot of tendencies - its all about environmental factors, how they were brought up, what their beliefs are, and so on. ;D thank you!!
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
22 Jan 13
Well I doubt that any girl would want have gone with those men who became mass murderers unless she was inclined that way herself. We had this married couple up here in Canada who were of that sort, Paul Bernard and his wife, so being married does not always stop violent behavior.
Sometimes people think that if they do not get a certain thing, be it a wife or natural children, that they will turn into a worse person that they are. They believe that either they will be child haters or evil murderers, but that may not happen. God knows what you have to fight against and will give you the ability to fight that or God may decide that you would never do what those murderers did. It also may that you have not found the right one yet and both of you will not need any introductions, you will be drawn to each other. And would not be better then hooking up with a girl who might make you unhappy?
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
22 Jan 13
Right.
But it would be wrong of me to get married 'in order to make myself happy.'
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
23 Jan 13
True if you really did not want to get married in the first place or you were content with being single. The thing is with marriage, you have to really not only fall in love with the other person, but to look over their faults and they yours. It is not about happiness. You can have that single or married. I think you are sort of worried about what if?
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
26 Jan 13
The instance wherein they "prevented me from getting married" was more like they 'did not use marriage as the solution to the problem I was causing' (getting too huggy & -creepy to one girl and then to another (and maybe to a couple others in between) whom I was interested in 'being taken care-of' by).
@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Jan 13
Hi Mythociate. That is funny if you are married or not the theory that someone will kill or not is silly. Heck I was married once to this man that tried to kill me several times. That's why I am no longer married to him too. I don't believe anyone can tell who or who will or will not kill one day. If you don't feel like you need help I wouldn't worry about what someone else said about being married or not married. Believe what you want to but trust in God to be your guide in this life.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
22 Jan 13
What goes on in the minds of other people is something no one can and will ever know, how much more for a murdering lunatic or a sane but vindictive minded individual. So, I cannot agree with this writer's perceptions that a single person is more likely to become a mass murderer or a murderer even.
Killers does not fall into any one specific category, I am sure the many arrested criminals around the world will attest to this fact. So, I don't think we should be mindful and take his bias prerogative to imply anything on all single men and women.
So, if Christians don't get you married soon, you should become a single Christian and maybe consider celibacy.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
22 Jan 13
There are some that are married and kill themselves, kill their mates, and kill their children. So marriage doesn't solve all the problems, only some, but it may create other problems.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
23 Jan 13
Yeah, but 'being single' is like being on a basketball-team that isn't part of any league---sure, they play; but they can't even enter the championship.
That would be a good reason to get married: to be eligible to enter for the title of best married-couple (they have Miss America & Miss Universe, why not 'Mr. AND Mrs. America' & '-Universe'?)
That would be a good reason, and because Gigi Chao is SIMPLY IRRESISTABLE!
@teotimoponcerosacena (1551)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
It may avoided or may augment your problems if you can't find the right guy. Being a mass murderer is insanity. They are people who lost the basic values of life, maybe coz of the environment where they grow up starting from the family background. I suggest you try to explore your field of interest and try to make a wholesome worth of yourselfe. Who knows ? you will the first one to invent a flying car that need no gas as fuel. Aquantumn accomplishment for humanity.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
22 Jan 13
But I'm worthless if my work doesn't fuel the future like children will. And children are 'dangerous free-radicals' if they're not pumped through a steady system based on-married parents, -good education (which is only partly 'schools') & -fruitful industry.
'Education' is a good place to start, because the education-system needs to respect the fact that 'school is only part of the education' more than it does now (many job-offers today requiring 'x years of school' in applicants' eligibility).
What's needed to complete the education is part-'application' & part-'purpose.' Not exactly 'to serve the purpose,' but more 'to know which purpose you are serving.'
To start that healing, I now need EVERY university to give me a doctoral degree---not in anything real, but something like a 'Doctorate of Liberal Arts' (or Conservative Arts ... I don't care 
). And not because I sat in any classes, but because Doctor is WHAT I AM.
So how do I go about convincing EVERY university that--for the betterment of humanity--they need to do thusly?
). And not because I sat in any classes, but because Doctor is WHAT I AM.
So how do I go about convincing EVERY university that--for the betterment of humanity--they need to do thusly?