problem with my husband

yes, this is a domestic issue that could be solved subtly. Hmmm prioritizing friends over family this is a problem really. i don't know what to say about this matter. though I have a few questions which you may or may not answer? Does your husband wanted to have a baby? did you plan for the baby or was the baby by accident? Did you have long "honeymoon" stage? if not then it must be the lacking part of it... turning him to father instantly. I hope you don't mind these questions, you may just think about the the answers by yourself it is okay

Fighting over the baby is NOT a small problem. There are some serious issues that need to be dealt with. Your husband's priority needs to be with the baby not billiards.

Your husband is not listening to you. He's behaving in a childish manner and acting as if he were still a single man. He needs to take responsibility for his baby and learn how to be a husband and a father, and stop acting like a 17 year old boy. Someone else suggested counseling. I think this is an excellent idea. I think your husband will refuse to go and I think he won't want you to go either. The reason is because he knows that he's wrong and a counselor will point this out. You have a one-way marriage where you're doing all the stressful chores and he is leaving you home while he goes out to play. I don't think that when you really love someone you treat them like this. When a husband loves his wife he is concerned about her problems and well being. And when you love someone you don't make them cry all the time. Please see a counselor, at least for yourself. And none of this is a good environment for your baby. Babies can sense unhappiness and stress. They feel it. That's probably why the baby cries a lot. It's a very scary and insecure situation for the baby.

you both in the period of adjustment . There is no perfect relationship .and only your love to each other will make you stay and live together and learn to adjust to each other and not only to love him but to accept him on his negatives sides.It's hard nowadays to find a man whom we can say close to perfections. and your husband has that attitude which you don't like whom he think he become irresponsible.You should tell it straight to him that It's not always good for a married person to go out especially when you only go for playing billiard which is part of his hobbies than to play with his baby who is crying and don't want to be away from him. Now If he still ignore you and still follow his instinct. i don't know if it's ok with you but for me If I were in your situation since I am fearless.to stop tolerating him I will go out with my baby with him in the billiard. and if he asked why you follow it's because my baby is looking for him and since playing billiard doesn't supply your baby needs and only for his own pleasure.Then it must not be tolerate especially when no one help you to take care of your baby, because he need to do his obligation than to play billiard which is less important.

Couple should synergize one another. What I mean is to help each other. I suggest you talk to your husband about the matter. Both of you would really sacrifice for your baby. You have to take care of your baby and it's not that easy. If you are having a hard time and your husband cannot make it too, find someone who will help you. I took care of my son since birth and I was alone. My husband is away working. And it is really difficult for me. However, I did sustain for my son and thank God he is three years old already. Be patient and pray always for strength. Just a suggestion.

It is hard to tell if he is irresponsible or not,but I can be sure that he is still not mature enough. He pays more attention to paying than taking care of the baby. But try not to fight with him. It is not good for you. You will be sad after a fight but nothing else. Have a good talk with him as you can. If there is no any changes, consider moving out with the baby to your friend'home or your mother's home for days. He should realize the importance of you and the baby.

That is a cute baby from the look of the picture. I think you should quietly sit down and talk to your husband. Probably he needs some time to breath some fresh air, or other reasons. But I understand that you were frustrated too, whenever you need his help, he wasn't there. He should give you a full support wherever and whenever. Have you both talk it out is the best way to solve the problem on hand.

When next time you go out with your husband out. Just ask him to pick up the baby on the way and way back to home. Then he will realize how hard it is to look after the baby.

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your husband are having problems. My heart goes out to you. I can relate to your situation. My husband and I have had more than our share of problems like that. And I think we as wives become resentful towards our husbands because they do what they want when they want and we don't have help with our baby. When we thought that since we are married we would be having a baby as a team not as the woman doing literally everything. I know what that feels like. Your baby is adorable! If you ever need anyone to talk with just let me know because it is a very emotional thing to go through alone.

Seeing a marriage counsellor could be a good idea just to talk about the issues. I think taking care of the baby should be 50/50 for both of you so one person doesn't have to do all the work and resentment builds up. Keep telling him how you feel and that you might want counselling. Hope things get better for you!

he needs to understand caring for a baby is not easy.it can be very overwhelming for a mum especially if its your first,try and talk to him about your pain and let him help as much as possible

In a family the sharing of responsibilities is the most prior one. I think he also has to spend time with the baby and allow you to relax. I know how diificlut to take care of babies as i am going through the same phase- my kid 10 months old.I always tell my husband to take care of the kid for few hours.But finally the job of looking after the kid comes back to us

I think what you should do is not fight with each other, but calm down and have a real talk. Fighting will only get things worse. It won't solve problems. But I believe that he knows for sure that you need him to care for the baby with you. Maybe you can make some rules with him. Schedule his time, make clear when he can go out and play and when he should come home.

Hi,aravocal! I have to say your husband has not realized that he has married to you.He is not even responsible for his kid,What kind of father would he be?Fight is never gonna work out,on the contraray,it is even worse.Maybe a peace talk would help?I don't know if you talked to his family.You can give it a try, a mother and a father's suggestion sometimes helps.

Hi Aravocal, I would like to point out one thing very clearly, what you are going through is common with every relationship. Yes, it is common that we fight with our partner at some point. Having said that what is more important is that one of them should understand(in this case you) and just move ahead. If possible try to tell him calmly and tell him you love him a lot. He might not change at once but he will definitely understand and change over time. What I would like to tell you is don't be upset. I know it's difficult but have patience. When we are more patient you see changes happening slowly as per your wish. Regards, Devaiah

It sounds as if your husband is one of those types who believes that his part in parenting has only to do with two things: the fun part of fertilizing your egg and bringing home a paycheck. This shouldn't be where his responsibility ends. He needs to interact with his baby in at least some ways. Perhaps, you could start him off with some fun things like being the one to do at least one interactive thing per day with your baby. That could be a feeding, bath, diaper change, or something just fun like making her rubber ducky squeak while talking baby talk with her. In a week or two, step up at least one or two of those days to have two ways (at different times) to interact with your baby. I bet that, once they really bond, your husband will do lots of things for your baby on some days. But he should always be required to do at least one thing.

I love my husband very much . But sometimes we quarreled each other .

Solving that problem will be one of the proposals: 1 - an attempt by your husband in organizing priorities. 2 - hope to God to bless you with a second baby, and so preoccupied with each other

Hi friend, Thats not good from your husband's side. He need to understand stay back with you to help you rather than going to play billiard. Its his responsiblity too cause its his baby and he need to give her his quality time.