Moms meeting other Moms?
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
United States
January 22, 2013 11:47am CST
We have moved a lot, and even before, I did not have a lot of friends. I try to be as friendly as I can when out and about, I meet some new people here and there but then never see them again. At one time, I did not really care if I had friends or not, but now, it would be nice to at least know some people with kids my son could befriend. Where we had just lived, I tried to network with other moms, but we just would never get around to meeting up. People in my city that I met at parks and such seemed to be a bad crowd to hang around with, often speaking of stealing from other friends and such. I am quite introverted, and socially awkward. Things I have tried in the past have not went so well. How do people meet people? Specifically, how do stay at home moms meet other moms?
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
22 Jan 13
I don't yet have children. However, if I did have them, I would meet other mothers through our synagogue, story times at the library and, maybe, a home school group (if there is one that fits our family). Also, I plan for our children to be involved in clubs and activities--stuff like Girl Scouts and dance.
I don't know how old your son is. If he is young, you may want to start with a story group at your local library. Some areas also have formal play groups available for young children.
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@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
23 Jan 13
Story time at the library is a good way to meet other moms with young children. Also, if you volunteer to help with story time, that could be a good way to meet other moms. Or volunteer with your son's youth group.
I was a Brownie leader and meet many wonderful mothers who were also volunteering with Girl Scouts. So, having your son join a youth group and then, volunteering with that youth group or story time, etc. is a good way to meet good quality people.
All the best to you.
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I forgot about the library! We tried before, but I think he was just too young, not even two. Was more interested in trying to get the attention of the other kids who were listening to the stories. The library here seems a lot more large than where we were from, and hopefully it is open more frequently than the three days our other one was open a week.
@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
23 Jan 13
I have had this same issue. I lost all my friends after I got pregnant in college and moved out of town. They were all still in their party stage and I obviously wasn't. Since then I moved to a new proving and never met any friends in a year and a half. Now I moved again to a new province. Seems the older I get too it's harder to make friends. Everyone seems to have their old friends and is not interested in finding new ones. I work alone most of the time two, we only have staff in the summer so I was lucky this past summer to have 3 girls working with me that I got along with and they sometimes come over now to visit. Which is nice cause I'm now alone at work all day and I was their boss so it's nice that I was able to befriend my staff and still be professional at work. I do hope to make other friends but just don't know where to start.
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@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
24 Jan 13
We have had people we talk to online and such, people we have known for awhile, and then we made friends when we worked together with others, but now that I don't work with my husband, and we move often, we don't meet too many people and the few people I meet, I am not sure how to proceed. It sounds corny to say "Want to be friends?" People say to go out to stores or join clubs and such, but like you mentioned, a lot of people seem to not be too interested in befriending new people, they already have a group of friends, and are not really looking for more. As I get older, it is a lot more hard to find people. Especially since I am not into religion or partying, which seems to be the easiest way people meet.
@Raven7317 (691)
• United States
22 Jan 13
Try mommy & me classes! Attend the PTA meetings and/or events at school...
It does take a while to break into the tight-knit groups of school moms, but once you get one, you find it easier to get more... Or if your child is older, invite his friend and mother over for lunch, or for a trip to the zoo... Also, you could search your town for Mom Groups... you could go hang out at the food court at the mall because alot of times there are indoor play areas there...
Best of luck!
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@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
24 Jan 13
He turns three in a few weeks, not in school yet. My sister met a lot of other parents when her kids started school, so I have been looking forward to that, PTA and such.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
I would usually meet moms in school while waiting for my son. Or meet them during PTA meetings.
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
24 Jan 13
That is how some people I know have done it. When my son is a little older I will be doing that most likely.
@prashsweet15 (91)
• India
23 Jan 13
Actually it is the other way round ,your kids must be having friends in their class who will invite them for birthdays you can interact with their parents .Here we have parents - teacher meetings once a month so you get to know most of the parents . It is always good to have friends who have kids the same age asyour kids .you can start by saying hey I am so and so,s mom......
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
24 Jan 13
What do you do when they are young though? I have only one child, and he is almost three.
@DiamondLV (59)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 13
Maybe you can try join mom club in your son school. or wait your son in his school then i think there should be have another mom in the school to waiting his son. Or join mom community online but choose your city only. then maybe someday tou can meet up with them. Just relax and enjoy you life, don't force yourself must having friend. Just be by your self, I think someday you will have you friend another mom. or you can invite you son friend and his family to your house like christmas party, or new year party.
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
24 Jan 13
My son is not school age yet, but I look forward to him meeting some other kids when that day comes. I have tried to meet others online, but nothing has come of it. I think mostly, I would just like my son to have other people at his birthday for once. Living away from family makes it where it is just us. I have always had interests that were strange or boring to others, so I am used to people not being too interested in me, I have just always wondered about all the mom's I have seen together, kids playing along side. Are they people they have known all along?
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
22 Jan 13
Hiya UI.,
Met a lot of friends in the Supermarket regardless of whether my children were smaller or not.
Made friends with People in the queue and the actual Cashiers themselves.
That kind of making Friends grows arms and legs and you end up knowing an awful lot of people even if you might feel like that social wise none of us has any special way to make friends you just get talking for something its usually about them not having enough girls on the Cashier Desks and all that sort of thing.
Just lately I have noticed that there are not many children with their Moms when they go shopping this has been going on now for quite a while but I donĀ“t know why it is as I always used to meet up with the same ones.xxx
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I don't see many people shopping with kids, and the ones I do encounter seem to be too busy for conversation. Where we used to live, I would see the same cashiers and such and we would have brisk conversations, but it never turns to friendship. Perhaps I just never stay in the same area long enough.
@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 13
I'm a stay at home mom and I'm always busy with my children. I don't think I need other people other than my own children. And my children do make friends with children of their own age at school so they're not totally friendless. I value my privacy and so I don't make friends outside of the people I know well from way back when. And I'm very happy the way things are.
@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
24 Jan 13
We are a very private couple, and was fine with not having many friends for years. It is not so much that I need other people, I guess with my son so young it would just be nice for him to have kids to play with. He is not school age yet, and everytime we move, it seems the area is just full of childless people. I just don't want him to grow up to be socially awkward as I have always been. It would also be nice to have others come to one of his birthdays. Not living by any family makes these special occasions lonely in some ways. It is just the three of us.