Now He Does Not Want To Help Me

this is just too awful... why he became rude all of a sudden? or he is really rude. why do need to have a ride? No public transportation there? I just wonder. Here there is no public transportation so I am totally dependent to people around me to take me somewhere far. but if near I can use my motorbike.

Auch. I think it was really ugly from him.. I mean, if he told you that he will help you with that, he can`t change his mind. You should do the same..when he will need something from you, tell him that is not a problem, that you will help him, and all of the sudden, change your mind. He will definitely not like that, and then just tell him to remember the time he made you feel awkward. sweet revenge.

I might be wrong but maybe he was just being polite at the time when he offered you his hand. It's also possible that he thought you didn't need his help anymore so he set a schedule for something to do at that time. Were you able to ask him if he was doing something important at the time?

How long have you known this person? And what was his reason for not allowing you to ride with him?

What a pain, sorry to hear that. Maybe he really doesn't mean what he said, and he only said that to someone else so he would look like a really nice person, like someone that you can depend on. Obviously, helping someone is not really where his heart is. By the way, maybe you said something that upsets him? If you're sure that you didn't do anything, then his attitude is really the problem. Maybe you can find another ride, it would be much better than to sit the whole ride knowing that the person who take you isn't happy with you there anyway.

well, Maybe this guy have lost interest to you. Don't ask him again to give you a ride. Just avoid him ASAP. may be this will help get him interest back to you. But I think guy like this don't worth to us to become our boyfriend or something else. Because he very fast lost interest to someone and very fast have interest with someone. He is a type fall in love quickly but that love is short live, not stay long.

I like to know where I stand with someone, if they offer I will take their offer at face value, but if they are going to suddenly change their mind at the spur of the moment with no reason, then they ain't reliable, why offer in the first place if they are going to withdraw their offer? There is no need for nastiness either, I wouldn't get a ride with him again that's for sure! Manners and honesty cost nothing!

i feel so bad that happened to you. it must have been very awkward. maybe he was drunk when he offered to give you a ride the first time. you probably just called him up on his offer at a time he wasn't prepared to make good on it. it wasn't your fault. he should have just never offered.

Wow, did anything happen in between?

Hiya TL., If it was me I would take his word for it and just ignore him all I could. I would not be nasty to him just try to avoid him like the plague. Its always much better to know now what he is like or how he seems to be. Once I was promised a lift on a long journey and the person did not wait for me not even 5 minutes extra and I had to hitch hike over 500 miles back home. Our "friendship" was never the same again after that. He knew that I could have been late because of the problems in London itself.xxx

Hi lilly, who is this guy who offered you a ride anytime you need one? Is this person you friend? Maybe just now on that day when you needed a ride from him, he has something on and that's why he was unable to send you? Anyhow, i think it would be better if you can depend on yourself and to find your own transportation.

Some persons really doesn't show their true emotions like your friend. That is why when you asked him for a ride he said yes but deep inside of him he wants to say no and that's where the problem arises between the two persons. So a person should be very clear about what he or she really feels about the other person otherwise there will be misunderstanding. Its better to say a clear no to someone instead of half hearted yes.

I am not sure I get the complete picture.

yeah,its good to be our brothers keepers according to the holy book,but don't always expect free ride it is dangerous at times! lol...

Its good that you could understand from the very beginning that he is not interested in taking you with him. There can be many reasons, which are not related to you. So nothing to feel bad for him. Rather we should feel bad for the persons who never express their feelings and later tells other persons that they are unhappy. As this man has expressed his willingness for ride to other person, it seems he doesnt want to go against you in any manner. So cool and stay happy with that person. Its a part of life only.