She is really taking advantage of things...
By CosmoOwl12
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
United States
January 22, 2013 8:02pm CST
I live in a very small town. There are 100 - 150 people who live here and we're all out in the country (15 - 20 mins to the nearest store). So when something major happens here, everybody knows about it. Well, one of our neighbors who has lived here probably her whole life (she's almost 30 now) was living with my Aunt. My Aunt turned her garage into an apartment. It was a really nice apartment, brand new carpet / flooring, wallpaper / paint... everything. So this neighbor (her name is Jessica) lived in my Aunt's apartment for a few years with no problems or complaints. She could come and go as she pleased, she could have pets and friends over and she also had her daughter living there. Her daughter is now 3 years old. They were only charged $350 a month which included utilities and she could use my Aunt's internet for free.
Anyway, Jessica tried killing herself for the third time so her family put her in a mental institution. She was only there for 3 days (one weekend) and then she was back at home. My Aunt had asked her about paying rent on time and Jessica became very irrate, yelling at my Aunt and cussing her out. She said she had no plans to ever pay that month's rent because she had missed a few days of work. My Aunt told her that as long as she paid her rent, she could stay but if she wasn't going to pay rent she would have to move out.
So... Jessica never paid the rent and told my Aunt she was moving out. She moved into a house down the street that her mother owns. Her family lived there for years while she was in elementary school and high school then they moved into another house. So this house has been standing there empty for I don't know how long. It was practically run-down because the family didn't do any upkeep on it other than mowing the grass. Jessica and her daughter moved in there knowing that the house was full of mold and really wasn't fit to live in. Not long after they moved in (within 5 months or less), their house caught on fire due to what she says was a faulty dryer. They weren't home when it happened and it was in the middle of the night. What was their dryer doing on in the middle of the night when they weren't home??
Now, the family has created a Facebook page and a website asking people to donate anything and everything to this girl and her daughter! She has a very good paying job (she works at Blue Cross with my Aunt) and she goes out to the bar almost every weekend. She rarely has her daughter. I went to check out the website and she is asking for everything you could possibly imagine that someone would need for a home. Keep in mind, the house is still standing. Only one room of the house was completely affected by the fire and from the outside, you can't tell there was ever a fire at all. She wants everything brand new on top of that! Someone is even paying for them to stay in a hotel until their house is remodeled but no one will give the name of who is paying for the hotel. Yet they've mentioned names of everyone who has donated other things or made cash donations. And a local company is going to remodel the whole entire house for free yet the family is still asking people to donate building materials when the company supplies everything for them.
I just think this family is taking advantage of everyone. I can understand they may need some help with the remodeling and bigger things, but they are even asking for cooking spices and food. The woman has a full-time job! It just irks me because I've known these people for several years and I know how they are.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Jan 13
it does sound as if they are raking the system. I have left my dryer running and left my home to run to the store but certainly not in the middle of the night. Id stay out of it if I were you. She does sound like a person that just does take advantage but since she has moved onward from your aunt...she is not your problem..actually never was. Just be grateful that she moved on. I would probably tell (warn) people that I know not to donate to her cause but beyond that...it isn't your problem. If you can see these things then hopefully others can too. I just would not get that involved.
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@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I'm definitely staying out of it but my aunt and a friend of mine are telling me what they've been saying on their Facebook pages. I'm not friends with any of them because all they do is cause drama. I also went to their website when I first heard about it and it's absolutely ridiculous. I'm not sure if I can post the link here but you can message me if you'd like to see it.
I've been telling people how coniving they are and how they're just using people. When I was two years old we had a house fire. I was at home with my grandpa and my mom was at work. It was caused by some faulty wiring within the house (not sure of all the details). But a neighbor man came and knocked on our windows to let us know the house was on fire. I'm not sure why it didn't trigger the smoke alarms. Anyway, our house burnt completely to the ground and there was nothing left to salvage. The fire department was able to get a few things out of the house before it got too out of control. We never asked ANYBODY for help at all. People did offer though and we stayed with some family friends until we found another place. A local gas station even put out a donation can for monetary donations and my mom took it down because she was working and my grandpa was receiving social security so we really didn't need any financial help. It just ticks me off that people like Jessica and her family are taking advantage of the kindness of others when there are people out there who really are less fortunate.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
I think that they are asking too much. Considering that she has work and is capable of buying new things for the house, I don't think her family should be asking everybody to help her. It will only encourage her to be "oh so convenient" with all the help she gets.
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@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
24 Jan 13
Not only that, but this woman is divorced. Her husband left her and filed for divorce because she was constantly cheating on him. He has a very good job himself and even he is refusing to help her because he knows how much of a liar she is. He is helping their daughter though. Especially since he has her the majority of the time anyway and he also pays his child support. So she's not hard up for money at all.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
23 Jan 13
they are probably just asking for all they can so that they don't have to spend any money when they get paid. i guess i can understand that. lol.
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I understand it too, but I don't think it's right. It's also not fair to the people who are helping them who don't know the real situation. They have people out of state that they don't know helping them all because they gave some far-fetched sob story.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
23 Jan 13
Well, I would not donate to them. I would just tell them that I donate to my favorite charity and that is all I can manage.
I remember attending a women's meeting. We are all there to support each other. At one of the meetings, a woman came for the first time. At this meeting, we each took our turns introducing ourselves to this new woman. Then, she introduced herself to us, telling us her 'sob' story about how poor she is and how her husband doesn't have a very good job, etc. etc.
Then, she picked up a basket that was sitting on one of the side tables and handed it to the woman next to her. She asked if everyone in the room could put in an offering for her. We were just shocked that she would ask on her own behalf. Some of the women put in a couple of dollars into the basket. I refused to put in anything in the basket. I knew that she really wasn't as poor as she said she was and I also knew that there were other women in that meeting who were struggling financially as well. I didn't feel bad for not donating because 1) I didn't think that what she did was appropriate 2) She really wasn't as poor as she said she was.
Some people do indeed take advantage of others. It is a good thing that Jessica moved out of your aunts' house.
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I'm definitely not going to donate anything to them. Jessica's mother was complaining on her Facebook saying our community should be down there helping to clean up the fire damage! I don't see how it's our responsibility to clean up after irresponsible people.
And that is just crazy what that lady did at your meeting! It reminds me of what my boyfriend's ex girlfriend did. We are both a member of a program called Bridges that helps new and single mothers. Once a month we meet with our groups (her and I are in different groups) and spend time with other moms and their babies. Well, my boyfriend's ex (Amber is her name) went to her meeting and told them that she couldn't afford Thanksgiving dinner that year so the program donated a food basket to her and also had a local church donate a second basket. This girl has two jobs, she gets child support, her boyfriend works and they live in a house that is owned by her mother so they don't pay rent. So I know what you mean about what she did was inappropriate.
@galactic_gurl2007 (84)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
Ive also encountered with kind of people but not like this .this one you told is very demanding and yes taking advantage to all the people and she is not contented of what she have in her life. she want everything brand new to her in easy way. but most people like that will not last all things of what she had now. i know god was just trying her best.infact she only 1 baby. also she has a work. there are such human behavior like that.not contented ..and ended up back of what she was before or else god will fanish her till she learn whats the meaning of CONTENTED.