How many is too many?

Exactly LMB! It's aside from it being a personal preference, it's also dependent on one's financial capabilities in terms of providing a 'better' future for the kids. I wanted 3, but I guess I'm happy with 2.

Hey thank you for your response. I definitely agree that it is a personal preference. Once I had my first I use to say one is good enough for me but then my second was an unexpected pregnancy and I thought to myself 'well, now that I'm over one it doesn't matter how many more I'm blessed with at this point' lol. I understand about finances but if I was faced with an unexpected pregnancy again I would have to focus on the fact that children are a blessing, (there are women out there that can not get pregnant and would die for that chance) Just keep faith that everything would be ok and work 10 times harder to provide :)

Yeah if people cannot afford to have one child than they shouldn't. If you cannot provide for them, don't have them! I would love to have another child but I would never do that because I know we cannot afford it at all, I would not want to have a child I cannot provide for... Or take away from the children I already have...

Thanks for your response :) As many are saying it is true its a personal preference. My grandmother had 7 and did ok so I guess 4 is really good too. Thank you for sharing a bit of history as well. You have enlightened me a bit about Philippine Culture :) That leads to another question, What if all four children are all girls or all boys, does that signify anything or would you just try for another?

It's matter of personal choice my dear. This really depends on your financial stability as of the moment. :-)

That's true personal choice is where its at. I'm comfortable with my two boys for now... I want a girl and my finances are ok right now I will probably try for another in about 2 years but at that time again it will depend on my financial situation. Who knows the way this world works. Thanks again for the response

Thank you for your response... Yes I agree somewhat that money for school is very important, I have RESP's for my boys so hopefully within 18 yrs that will be enough to get them started or put them through. Unfortunately, my parents did not open an RESP for me so being one of those children I find that a paid education by your parents is a luxury to have, not mandatory. There are plenty of grants and scholarships available to apply for as well. Because your right in 20 years time its going to cost millions to go to school and I'm sure there are not that many parents out there that will be able to afford to send one kid let alone 3 or 4. I've never really understood why school is so expensive myself. I mean the world is in demand of plenty different occupations but you would never see a school accept students absolutely no charge. I actually seen a documentary on Burma and tons of kids are working because they can't afford to go to school (elementary) when it costs $5 US a year per child, this hurt my heart because our country's put billions into war and other unimportant things. This world is really all about money, it's sad, But as they say money makes the world go round.

I agree for the most part. I knew a girl who was quite wealthy and lost everything a family breakdown we could say. She had 3 children and had to go on assistance but I do get where your coming from, there are some people that are on it and abuse it and have more children just to bring in a bigger check. Those people I feel are the wrong ones.

Your situation is pretty similar to mine lol my boys are 16 months apart. I always say there are some serious times but in the end its all worth it. I mean I don't know what I would do without my kids, they've made me a better person. Children in general just find a way of lighting up ones day whether it be by the things they say or something they do or a simple kiss and hug. That one always gets me, I'll never forget this first time my little boy said I love you mommy. I find when my boys get sick they run completely off schedule and then it takes for ever to get them back on it.

Wow!!!! Kudos to you love :) It must take a lot of patience with 6. They often say being rich is not defined by how much money you have its defined by the love of family, friends etc. So I would agree with money not being a factor. In life things normally straighten themselves out..... and we never get more than we can handle as well.

Yes my two boys are good enough for me. It's whatever we are meant to have at the end of the day. I always wanted a girl so maybe one day in the future I will be blessed with that but I were to never have any more I would be happy as well. They say girls are harder to raise than boys anyway. They also say having boys is great because they will always protect you and you'll always be their #1. However the last part of that one may not be true lol