When did you decide to get married?
By xio shi
@simonelee (2715)
China
January 23, 2013 6:29pm CST
All eyes are on me right now, my friends and cousins who's age are closer to mine are already married and enjoying life as a mom and dad. Alright, My status is "single" and the word "marrying age" chasing me. I'm 30 and still undecided. I don't feel like marrying right now but my family expecting me to be with someone. As of now, I'm not ready and i can't picture my self to be a wife or taking care of a baby.
Anyway, when did you decide that you are ready to be with some for life? Any signs that your ready for marriage?
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15 responses
@jangga93 (39)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
well planning to get married is right after when everything is settled and you can able to provide the needs of having a family..... and the matter of age is on the range of 25-30, because if you get married on 30's i thinks its kinda late, and some says that it's difficult to bear a baby,..... but the wonderful thing about marriage is when you grow old together with your love ones.... :)
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@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
24 Jan 13
We got married when I was 27 and hubby was 35. We were together for 2 years then and we have put everything in order, feelings and emotions included, before we decided that we both want to pursue marriage. We didn't hurry it, we didn't force it. We just felt that it is the right thing to do and knowing what we will have to face, we still did it. Being ready to get married isn't about reaching a certain age. You will know within yourself if that is what you really want and you have no more uncertainties in embracing it.
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@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
2 Sep 15
I'm 27 and I got married 3 weeks ago. I think it all depends on how ready you are in your mind. Age must not be a determining factor. But do not confuse traditional wedding with marriage. Some people get wedded but don't get married. Some people get married but don't get wedded. I leave this food for thought for you to reflect upon.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
I got married while I was ob my ladt year in College. If I didn't get pregnant, I would have waited until I was done witb my specialization in Dentistry. I have to admit that it was not in my dreams to get married that soon but I felt that I owe the baby a lot, and by getting married is the only solution I had in mibd. Aside from that, I didnz.t want my parents to get worried about me. It has been 18 years now and witb 4 kids. Life isn't that good sometimes, but Ican't see myself beeing witb another man other thsn my husband.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Jan 13
I think it should when you are ready. If your not ready it will not work so people should stop pressuring you to marry or have a child. That is personal choice.
I did marry early at the age of 19, but that is what I wanted. I wanted to marry my husband the minute I found him, I knew he was the one for me. If that has not happened for you yet that's okay. It happens for everyone at different times!
I think you should enjoy your single life as long as you want to. It is YOUR choice, don't let anyone tell you any different!
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
25 Jan 13
Personally this is never someone else should be able to dictate and decide for you. So many times people that are rushed into something they are not wanting and ready for will often turn to disaster. When the time is right and the perfect person comes along you will know ans be ready then. I was 34 when I got married and I knew he was the man for me. And if you never have kids that is OK. Just do what makes ever makes you happy at the time.
@earncommunity (1183)
• India
30 Jan 13
well... it depends on person to person, its a personal choice as to when you should get married. but according to my personal opinion, man should get married before 30 and women before 25. I decided to get married when i really felt the need to have have some one as my sole mate.
@velocity_186 (879)
• India
24 Jan 13
I decided to get married when i choose my special someone. Someone i would like to stay forever and cannot live without. Being a love marriage circumstances were much different and we had to get married against parents will to.
But you can think about it, take you time, enjoy your bachelorhood and once you are sick of everything, take the most important decision of your life- to get married.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
29 Jan 13
For women here in india 30 is rather over age to marry, most get married at about 22, i got married in 1966 when i was 22 and my wife was just 16, things were different then, thanks for sharing your views
May I know at what age gals marry in your place
@mrscallands22 (2851)
• United States
25 Jan 13
Firstly, I am going to say don't rush yourself into marriage because your family is stressing you on it. That is absolutely the worst thing to do. Age does not define when you will find the one you feel is right for you.
Secondly, to answer your question, I got married when I was young (19) and dumb (inexperienced). 5 years later, we have moved on with our lives seeing other people, but still have yet to get a divorce. I really want one.. however marriage is easy to get into.. but hard as HECK to get out of.. naturally. The ONLY great and wonderful blessing that come from our union is my beautiful 4 year old princess. I am now 25.. and I am with the man I should've met years before anyone else.. I am happy. =)
@ivanmarginal (675)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 13
I decided to marry my wife when I saw her eyes. lol. such a cliche, but that's right. she has a wonderful eyes I really want my kids have them. when i see she loves me too, God, that's the time. our marriage is great. communication is the best thing between us.
@flapiz (23152)
• United Kingdom
25 Jan 13
I am not yet married but I have a similar question in mind. How old should I get married? My life plan is on the age of 27-30. I still need to pursue my career. Do not be pressured. Good things come to those who wait.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I actually got married when I was 24-years-old, much to the demise of many members of my family. You see, they thought that I should have gotten married a few years before I did because my daughter was born when I was 22-years-old, but I didn't want to rush to get married because I had a child that I wasn't really expecting to have.
I think that the decision as to when you would get married is something that doesn't have a set rule. The decision is actually up to you and what you think is the best in your life.