Charging friends

@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
January 23, 2013 11:01pm CST
One of my closest friends is a mechanic, as I've mentioned in other discussions before. Well, yesterday I had him do a little bit of work on my car because it was making a sound that I didn't like at all. After it was said and done, he told me that I needed to pay him twenty dollars for the job. I had no problem with that at all, in fact, I had fifty dollars in my pocket to pay him and expected for him to ask for a little bit more than that. This prompted a discussion between the two of us where I basically told him that he should charge me the same way that he would charge a stranger because he is really cheating himself by not charging his friends as typical customers. I went further to tell him that because of the fact that he has taken care of me the way that he has, I would never complain if he needed a ride for his son for exchange (he gets his son every other weekend) every time that he had his son because I still feel like I wouldn't be paying him enough. So, if you are a business owner, do you charge your friends the same amount for your services as you would charge some stranger that walked in off of the street? If you have a friend that really does you favors like this, do you look for other ways that you can pay them back in a small way?
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jan 13
A friend gets a discount. A really good friend gets a really deep discount, cost of the parts maybe, or even free if they weren't to expensive.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
Oh, he definitely gives me a deep discount. He told me that had he been doing the same job for someone else, he would have charged them at least four times as much as he had charged me.
@yugocean (9963)
• India
24 Jan 13
A relative of mine owns a guest house, and never charge his friends or relatives if they have to visit his guest house, even food, tea, phone call are free for them. Not only this, he also give 50% discount to other friends/relatives of his friends and relatives. This is his heart is close to his friendship and relations.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
24 Jan 13
Wow, this is amazing! You must appreciate this relative of yours for how he loves you all!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
This relative of yours that you are talking about really is a generous person. I don't think that I would personally be able to do this simply because of the fact that I do need to make a living in some way, shape or form.
@yugocean (9963)
• India
26 Jan 13
Yes he is a generous person, and we must appreciate his love. He is able to do this because his business is good, and he is also donating to many charities and handicapped organisations. If I become rich, then it would be my duty to fill others heart with joy and love.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
I am into business too- (small time business) and I always charge my friends lower than my regular customers. It's because friends are different from other customers. My friends helped me in other ways that strangers don't and giving/charging them lower than the regular price/rate is my way of paying their kindness.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Feb 13
One of the things that I bet that your friends do for you by your giving them a discount is that they will pass their name onto other people and that is something that does help to grow your customer base.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
25 Jan 13
Some business do this ways to their special customer. daily customer. known customer and friends. But do you know they are hard business minded person and they knew how to keep or retain their customer
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
25 Jan 13
I like your friend frankness and really he is pure business minded person who treat and charge his customer and friends the same charges. And it is always good that he charge the same amount since the service he has provided to your car is the same that he would have provided to other customer.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Feb 13
No, he doesn't charge me the same that he would other customers. But, because of that, I try to do whatever I'm able to do to help him out when he needs something.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
24 Jan 13
I would be giving some privileges to my friends. This way they would remember to come to me for the service because not only that they can help me but because they can also get a little discount as compare if they would get the service of others. Have a nice day!
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jan 13
You tell them no, and you tell them why.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I know that he is going to charge me for everything and I understand and respect that. I would never be the kind of person that would take advantage of his generosity. In fact, the fact that he has helped us out as much as he has means that I am always giving his name to other people that may need similar work done.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
24 Jan 13
We should give privileges to friends and family, but what do we do when they start taking advantages and starts expecting huge discounts and/or free services all the time? What must we then do when the business is not doing so well anymore and they have an expectancy?
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
25 Jan 13
I think it is fair to charge friends. Possibly not the same as strangers because friends often help each other out. As long as it is a fair trade or fair exchange of work or help, then sometimes, you just know it will even out in the end. I do look for ways to pay back or to pay it forward, sometimes it is not possible to pay back that person but what that person appreciates is that you pass on the kindness to someone else. If we all lived this way, it would indeed be a better world.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Feb 13
Because of the discounts that he is willing to give to me, I do everything that I can for him. I'll give him a ride to pick up or drop off his son and there have been some times that I've put time on his phone for him as well.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jan 13
years back Dorannmwin We had a friend who did like that for our international harvester pickup and he never charged us like he did strangers so we often asked him to dinner and treated him as our special quest.He really got a charge out of that as he was single and probably a bit lonely too.Later he did get married and was a really happy man and was Still doing our car repairs for little money.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Feb 13
I believe that you really can tell a good friend when they are willing to do things like this for us without us asking for special discounts, etc.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
25 Jan 13
I do have a small business but I sell books on line. People have asked me to find books for the and I have done that for free it is not a big deal though. I have also had a couple of friends who thought they might have books that are worth money had me do some research for them. Again that is not a big deal and if they books had been worth something they probably would have had me sell them and then they would have probably given me some money. As it was their books were not that valuable. Now my good hearted husband on the other hand is a computer expert, he can program computers, and fix them, and set them up and do pretty much everything there is to do with computers. People are asking him for help all the time. He spent three weekends at his barbers house not only setting up his computer, but teaching him how to use it and, and then going back when the guy was having problems. He didn't even feed my husband when he was there all day. He mentioned a free hair cut but didn't insist when my husband refused. My husband should have taken it. He is also going to design a website for another friend something he does not have time to do, and he is not getting paid for that either. My neighbor calls my husband all the time with computer issues but we call him when we have broken things in the house so we have a nice exchange with him but my husband is always doing work for people for nothing and using his gas money to get there. Very often then don't offer to pay him or feed him or anything. I think the least these people could do is feed him when he is there. It kind of makes me mad how people take advantage of him, but my husband just takes it all in stride, that is the kind of guy he is. He is also not a guy with a lot of spare time. He often works 10 hour days so his time is precious.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Feb 13
My husband does some computer work as well and most of the work is things that he does for his friends and co-workers. He doesn't do the work for free, but he is a person that doesn't charge people a lot of money because he knows that most people are struggling right now like we are and they cannot afford high prices.
• United States
24 Jan 13
Of course, friends get discounts. Part of friendship is that you help each other out if you can. Often, friends help each other out far more than one's relatives would bother doing; a lot of families just aren't all that tight-knit--especially not in this (extremely) mobile society.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I know what you mean about friends helping out other friends far more than family helps other family members. We actually live very close to both mine and my husband's family and sometimes getting them to help us out is like pulling teeth.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
25 Jan 13
As a friend, I would definitely not gonna charge him like regular customer. Maybe that is the rule, and I would expect my friend would do me a favor in the future. As friend, usually I will give him/her a discount instead. If I charge him like a regular customer, he/she might not be happy with it, even though they sounds understandable. Sometimes, you knew a person so well, you won't want to take an advantage of it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Feb 13
That is true, but I also think that even if I was dealing with a friend, I would not sell myself short, I would at least charge enough to make it worth my time.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
24 Jan 13
it is quite infactual and they are kind of annoying and makes us them crazy when we ever do such sort of things to make them petrified
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I guess I have to say that I'm pretty confused about your response. If you would like to elaborate, that would be great.
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Jan 13
I had this one woman who thought by trying to become my "friend" she could get free babysitting services from me... Too bad for her I saw right through it and realized what she was doing. She told me one day that I should watch her kids for free because we are supposed to be friends. That was the last straw, I told her plain and simply I do NOT give away my services, I still have to pay my bills and this is a business, friend or not. So, there went the friendship but obviously she was not a friend anyway! But for a "true friend" I would not charge them as much as other customers. Like for example my neighbor across the street, they are true friends. They just gave us food this week for our house because they knew we didn't have any... Those are some good friends!! So there is NO way I would charge her the full amount if she needed me to watch her kiddos. =) For me, it depends who they are and what kind of person they are. If their just looking to get away with something free and "acting" like a friend they would not get a discount from me...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Feb 13
I used to babysit my two nieces and when I did that, I did charge my brother and sister-in-law $100 a week for full time care for two toddlers (less than half of what a daycare costs). I used the money that they paid me to buy food for the kids and also so that I could take them out and do things with them on a regular basis.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
24 Jan 13
I would not charge the same. I'm gonna help my friends anyway I can. Of course, if I worked under a boss, I would not cheat to an extent to lose my job in case it's found out, but if I could, and it wasn't really making me lose a lot of money. For example, my mom is friends with a taylor, and she only has to pay the material's price. But she pays it back in favors, like she writes her receipts, as she's a doctor. I wouldn't abuse and use people who help me and get stuff for me cheaper, I try to always pay it back somehow, help them in stuff.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
This particular friend of mine actually does his work independently, so he isn't going to lose his job over cutting deals for me. However, even when he was working in the tire shop, he would do simple things at the shop for free, like making sure tires were properly inflated and such.
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
You've been paying him back already by way of treating his family as yours. He was treating you as one of his own and worthy for the service he is doing, The true friendship is give and take. The best for you to do is to be there when he need your assistance, not of thinking whatever it is, that pop up in your mind. In reverse you are the one in problems to yourself. In friendship money is of less value the best is care and relationship as a friend.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Feb 13
Yes, that is actually one of the ways that I'm able to tell that the friendship between the two of us is a true friendship that really will be able to withstand the tests of time.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Jan 13
I think that if I were the one doing the service, I would also not charge my friend the same way as I would charge a stranger. I think those are the perks of friendship. Hopefully this friend of mine has earned this priveledge. And that he'd do the same if the tables were turned.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I know that I would do the exact same thing for him is the tables were turned. In fact, I do believe that is one of the reasons that I know that he and I really are true friends.
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
24 Jan 13
The owner of the shop is really your good friend. Unless a good and close friend, the business man will never compromise with remuneration or charge. Yes, I also go to my friends to get better items with reasonable cost. Have a very nice day.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
It is not only the fact that I know that he will charge me less than other people. The other reason that I let him do all of the work on my car is because of the fact that I know that I can really trust him.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
24 Jan 13
No I don't charge friends, I only charge for the expenses that will cost me. I used to fix my brother in law's laptop... and he was happy for me to fix the computers and laptops. I don't charged him in all the computers I fixed.. after a year, he bought another laptop, he then still asked me fix another laptop. I fixed.. after that, he gave the laptop. he was just thinking to give me the laptop but he did not tell me until i have fixed it. Maybe what he had in mind is that, if it will not be fixed then no lose hope for me for not getting the laptop. He made sure first that it is still functioning. Wheeeee heeeeee.. i called the laptop, Dino quite old and heavy. but still functioning until now. After a few years, I bought my new notebook now and my sister is using Dino. My new notebook, is named, Heepee... for it's an HP.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
My husband works on computers as well. He doesn't typically charge family members for his time. However, when it comes to the people that he works with, he does charge them a small amount. Just like with you, there have been times that people will give their old and unworking computers to my husband and he will make them work again and we will either keep them for ourselves or we will sell them.
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
24 Jan 13
Hi there. If it is my business and my sole income, I would charge a friend, but less than what I would charge other people. I believe that one should not just give away things for free all the time, because it may harm the friendship.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I actually have to say that I would kind of be upset if he was to charge me nothing although he did do that the first time that he did some work on my car. If I am paying at least a little something, then I know that he is actually doing the work to the best of his ability and not just doing something to have it "done."
@deiusz (193)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 13
You should thanks to him if he is not charge you as reguler price, but i know it's business, just assuming that you paid him with his child for ride with you. There are so many kind of person of businessman, and i think you should thanks to him because there are person whose charge their friend more than as reguler price or as reguler price but with low level quality part (if need chanced spart part). With this we knew who is really friend of our friend or just 'friend'.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
In this situation, I don't hesitate to say that Donnie is a true friend of mine. I know that he would do anything in his power to help me out when I needed it and I also know that I would do anything in my power to help him out when he needs the help.
• China
24 Jan 13
Hi there! It's strange to pay for my friend of his kindness ,instead I will give him a gife or something he wants for a long time or just have dinner together .And if I helped my best friend I would never charging from her ,and I will fell unset when she gives my payment .It's just we are freinds that I help you .
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I do think that it is up to friends to help you. However, if they are doing the same thing that they do to make a living, I do think that they should at least charge you a little bit for their time because if they weren't doing the work for you, they could be doing it for someone else that was paying them significantly more.