Avoiding Someone....To Feel Guilty or Not???????
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
Philippines
January 24, 2013 11:03am CST
hi mylotters,
I was at the mall today with my sister and nephew as we are walking I saw someone I know actually I've been avoiding to spend time with her years ago cause I am annoyed in fact I made a discussion about her before. The reasons are she is kinda obsess with India and Indian stuffs that will be fine with me but what I hate about it is she is actually stealing all the things I knew and brag that it was her idea etc. and it comes to the point that she really told me that why I don't have time with her but she always saw my pictures on facebook hanging out with my friends and family.
She is actually a friend of a friend of mine we met a couple of times then she want my company which is flattering but I don't find healthy being with her.So when I saw her at the mall today before she see me I went inside a boutique shop and wait her to pass by my sister asked me why and I told her the story.
I don't know if I should feel guilty about it but I think what I did is right instead saying Hi to her which I really don't mean.
hope everyone is doing great
happy mylotting
9 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Well, I can't blame her for wanting your company.
Who doesn't want to befriended with an Indian princess anyway 
I ask for my sonan papdi - did you call madam now?
I ask for my sonan papdi - did you call madam now?
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
hi jai,
Hahaha!and everyone loves a Maharati Queen
uuhhmm.....what's the number again?
love yah
uuhhmm.....what's the number again?
love yah
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@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
If she is stealing and then, bragging about it. You want to avoid her. If you know she is stealing and she is caught, you could get into trouble with the police as well. You don't want that. Since she is not really your friend, you have the right to say hello or not. So, if she doesn't meet with your values, you can decide NOT to be her friend.
If I were you, I would avoid her.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
I strongly agree with you, i just didn't have the words to describe it. this is indeed trouble some, who would have thought giving ideas would be so dangerous. I don't think she will change herself simply because she doesn't agree on the stealing part she's doing, most likely she might even repeat it again. that's not so good to hear.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
hi Zoe,
If I told her like this like that about India and Indian she will tell it to her friends and acted that she really knows about it she is also a kind of demanding one.
thanks for the response
happy mylotting
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
Hello Bhabycatch, You did a good job, rather than making a conversation tht might end up ugly and something that you don't want to, avoid them. better off not being able to talk to her probably it would really ruin your day. hey, it's alright if you don't feel comfortable with that person, that's how you feel you can't lie to your heart.
have a nice day.
have a nice day.@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
hi LK,
yeah!I think what I did was just right
thanks for the response
happy mylotting
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
25 Jan 13
That is your choice so you must not feel guilty for it. Better to stay away from the person that you are not already comfortable especially if the friendship is not healthy anymore. By the way I can relate with you. I am avoiding other friend in which I've intended to do so and not so guilty for it because that is my choice. Different story but too long to state it, just like yours I am already pissed off. She even asked my for my cellphone number but I've given the wrong digit on the last part. Good thing we don't have communication now but honestly I don't want to see my former friend as she was like a bossy to me.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
hi metatronik,
After reading all the comment here I know I made the right decision
thanks for the response
happy mylotting
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
I'd probably do the same as you did. I mean, why make myself to friendly with her if I really don't feel like it.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
hi jenny,
Yup you are right
thanks for the response
happy mylotting
@olivia2013lovelife (65)
• China
25 Jan 13
dear, when you ask the question to us, i know you are very kind to others. The girl has her own shortcomings and if friendship can not be built between you, then do not care about this and do not let these things influnce your mood, you are very kind, so wish you happy all the time.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
hi olivia,
Thank you!I should not be guilty about it want I did was right
thanks for the response
happy mylotting
@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 13
I don't think that you should be guilty. If you were to say hi to this friend, she will only irk you so to avoid such a situation, it's just best to avoid this friend. But one day, you need to confront her with your problem regarding her behavior otherwise she'll never change.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
hi Umi,
I don't think she will change if ever I will tell her
thanks for the response
happy mylotting
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
24 Jan 13
You should do what's better for your soul balance. If you feel uneasy in her company, you can avoid her, don't feel quilty. Does she know actually why you don't like to be with her? maybe if you tell her, she can change a bit. But I know, I once avoided my uncle and his wife in a perfumerie, because I really don't like them, and all we do when we meet is exhanging forced smiles... so... I say you don't have to feel guilty about it.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
hi doroffee,
Actually I don't have the guts to confront her cause I don't want to hurt her even I don't like to be her friend still I am not that mean well old habit is hard to die.
thanks for the response
happy mylotting
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
24 Jan 13
Her habits are wrong, and I think avoiding is actually a good idea. Besides, she isn't that close of a friend to you anyway and I think it might sound a bit off if you try to talk to her about it. That isn't the case if she happens to be a close friend of yours. Anyway, for me avoiding someone is far off better than pretending to be all sweet and nice to her when in fact I can't fake it. I would look awkward and uncomfortable and that might even makes everything worse.,
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
hi Raine,
that is my thoughts too.....I rather avoid you than to fake my feelings every time I see that person.
thanks for the response
happy mylotting
