Having a baby will solve everything

That is really sad, she thinks children is the answer to her problems. Wow,she sounds young and immature to me. Most people know having children is a responsibility and a lot of work! They make small problems into bigger problems, financially speaking I mean. Things will not get better by having this child. I feel bad once she has her child, she will find out real quick its not as easy as she thinks it is...

I really pity people in these kind of situations, and sadly there are many people like this out there! Having a baby calls for a lot of responsibility and ssacrifice, and you need to be quite mature and willing to do your best to be an excellent mum / dad. Every baby deserve to have a safe and stable environment, where the mum and dad can support him from a monetary point of view, and obviously with real love and care. In this case I hope for the best of this unborn baby, but I really think that things may turn out badly if the couple has onlyy been together for 3 months, and they are still young and there is not a stable job. It is so sad.

Oh my goodness. She is relying on a child to accomplish happiness? That is not going to happen. She is going to have to take care of the baby, attend to it's every need, have money for the just in case in life, and be able to support herself and her baby if the man ever does leave, which could very well happen. Three months is not long enough to have a stable relationship. It is still in the lovey dovey stages of everything.

Not "could"... It will turn ugly. They will start fighting, because money is tight. Now, instead of it just being the two of them at each other's throats about money, there will be a helpless infant caught in the cross-fire. The situation is one that is likely to lead to the child being neglected or even abused. The area in which you grew up seems not to breed very many girls with ambition. You mention girl-after-girl who seems to not have any desire to do anything other than be with some guy who lacks money, ambition and education. Sounds a lot like where I grew up...

that is right,.a baby is not a toy or accessory, u have to be able to provide for it shelter, clothes, food, education, attention, guidance..it is hard and not easy being a mother or parent if u are financially unstable. even if u just have one kid..nowadays it is hard. sometimes, we think that babies look so cute and adorable but it is truly a big responsibility taking care of them,.

Dont know what would be the age of this girl, still i guess, she must be very immature and unaware of the responsibility one have to carry for a kid. This is perhaps the basic problems with teens and particularly teens who are not under proper parenting. Its sad to hear such types of things in this modern era, when you are to fight more than half of your life for bread and butter only. Lets pray for her good future at least.

It was like having kids is like a doll which is NO! It has a lot of responsibilities. Much better she could have been a nanny or her job should be baby sitting if she just like kids. I can't imagine her life like that. I mean others are working too hard by the time that they already have their baby or even got pregnant.

You say she is pregnant, very good; there is nothing wrong in having a baby, every women needs her own, but who will support the baby, does she do some job? Thanks for sharing lol.

Ah, the "Babies Make Everything Better" trope, does not work that way in real life. I feel sorry for her, because most of the time, not all the time, but most of the time the guy's take off because they don't want to take responsibility. Since they're not married there's no guarantee he'll stay around and support her. She's going to have to start looking for a job because unless this guy makes enough money to support them this isn't going to work out. If she thinks she's going to get attention because she has a kid, she's been watching too much MTV.

911Ricki Very sad..she is in for a rude awakening.She will feel differently during the early morning feedings, but by then she will be stuck...so it will be even a harder life. Some people seem to need to take the most difficult way to grow up..I wish her well, but feel badly for her immaturity. Perhaps her rough road will help some other immature person learn a lesson...

You never know the guy might be good for her. Not everyone starts at a good spot and of course soon she will see a baby doesn't bring you joy. Yes a baby can bring joy but not the way she thinks it will. It won't fix things or make it better. A child is a forever thing and some times that is the one thing that makes a person change everything when the realize how much they love that child if they really love that child. I got pregnant after a few months of being with my husband yes 3 months in to the marriage but we have been together a total of six months and he had a sucky job. People that it was bad for us to have a baby but it turn out of the best we make things better for our daughter it's not a 100% better but it's the best it can be with what we got.

I don't like how this is going. There are women who have this dream. I can't understand it though. Maybe they have strong maternal instincts. Maybe they have not thought up another dream. I can't judge them. However, it is not practical. Looks like she's in a rush to have a baby with someone she did not even date long. Maybe she's trying to live a fantasy. But reality is harsh and life is not easy especially when you don't have a permanent job and a secure home. I wonder why some people just make it more complicated for themselves.

She's delusional. And I don't like her reasoning for wanting a kid, to get so much attention. Someone shouldn't based his or her happiness on whether another person can bring that happiness; most especially not from a baby. She's got all the wrong reasons for wanting a baby at this point. I sure hope that she gets to her senses and finally learn that it takes more than that to have a baby.

At times people with little believe that babbies brings them comfort. If she is your friend you need to be there for her in whatever possible. Be it financially, physically or emotionally. Be happy with her and try seeing the good that she sees in her pregnancy. Stand there with her and don't let her down. She is going to be depending on you

If her only goal in life is to have kids then what exactly is it that she is going to offer her child once she does have one? She really said that SHE would get more attention after having a kid. Like that is a reason? WOW!!

Wow that is so sad and feel really bad for the unborn baby I really do. Things will not get better for her its just going to get worse. If anything I hope that her and her boyfriend try and find decent jobs to support their baby and they are going to need to do a lot of growing up otherwise this baby is going to grow up in a broken home. Wow!!!! 3 months only together and they are already having a baby together. Although I am not shocked, because my friend she was with a guy for a month and they had a baby together. Did it work out? No it didn't. And now she is raising two kids alone and with no help from the guy, because he is choosing not to be apart of the children's life and also choosing not to pay child support. I really hope this doesn't happen to your friend. Because I will not feel sorry for your friend, but I will feel sorry for that poor baby. I don't understand why people just don't wait until they get to know someone more and have been with someone for awhile and plus know for sure that this person is the one for them as well as make sure that they're finances are under control before they decide to have a baby. I also don't understand why so many girls out there think that having a baby will fix every problem that they are having in the relationship. One things for sure, the baby is not going to help fix their financial problem, that's for sure. If anything its going to add more bills on top of what they are already paying. I think its time for boyfriend to find a steady job and start working, because there is going to be so many expenses for him to pay. Once again, poor baby for it does not know what it is being born into. I really hope and I have some hope maybe a little bit that these two will get their act together, at least for their babies sake.

Exactly! I mean, the relationship has just started. Do they really know each other that much? A lot of things can happen. I hope that things turn out better for both of them in the coming days before she gives birth.

No you're wrong.She surely has one goal now;that is to have kids. But she definitely doesn't understand what it takes to raise kids.Very bad decision in that kind of situation.

Having a baby may solve a few things and it might solve everything as well. If you have faith, nothing seems impossible to some extent. I am happy that despite all that your friend has been through she has a positive view when it comes to her baby. The fact, that she chose to keep her baby instead of getting rid of it, proves that she a sensible person. I a sure that with time, her boyfriend will find a permanent job and when the baby is strong she will be able to look for a good job as well. Her goals will come along, may be not fast but slowly she will get there. :)

She must be very disappointed. She and her baby would face a situation where they will be very unhappy. A baby need affection. She need to get a job to finance her baby and herself.