My husband's betrayel.
By mandyc13
@mandyc13 (39)
United States
January 26, 2013 2:05pm CST
My husband and I are still legally married but we've been separated for awhile. We jumped into the relationship and then jumped into marriage. I should have got to know him better before even dating him but, it's too late now.
After we got married (which wasn't even 6 months after we met), he quit his job and wouldn't attempt to find a new one. I was working (still am working, actually) so I had to pay for my own wedding ring! We had some fly by night "wedding" and we said our vows at the courthouse. After a couple months of marriage and him still not working, he informs me that he has cancer. Later, I discovered that he was lying about the whole thing just because he didn't want to work.
Well, for the past few weeks we've been trying to work things out and yesterday and I decided that he's just a lost cause and he's not worth my trouble. A friend of mine told me that my husband has been talking to a friend of hers on Facebook and he asked this girl for her phone number and told her that he's single. Hmmm that's news to me. So the girl told him she heard that he was married and he said "I was married but not anymore". If he's going to lie, why not just say "I got a divorce"? The girl asked him why he's not married anymore but he hasn't answered her. Probably because I confronted him about it!
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
26 Jan 13
sorry to hear that.. I had a simialiar thing. Mine was a great guy for 5 years. Then started to rink, and not work. After dealing with that for 5 more years. I decided to leave him. Im glad I did. The good thing is, he gave me a great son who I love with all my heart.
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@mandyc13 (39)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Well I'm glad you got out of that situation. The guy I was dating before I got with my husband was my husband's best friend at the time. He was abusive and very controlling. That's how I met my husband, he was there to comfort me because he knew how his friend was and saw how he was treating me. But now my husband has changed and he's nothing but a liar. He's still not working and he started dating a girl right after we separated (I kicked him out of my house) and now he's living with her and trying to get girls on Facebook.
We don't have any children together but I have a 3 year old son from a previous relationship (he's another deadbeat). Since my husband and I were trying to work things out (or at least I was, I guess he just wanted to hook up) we started having "relations" again and I even let him stay with me a few nights. Well, now I think I might be pregnant and I really hope I'm not. I certainly don't need a kid with this guy. He's very irresponsible.
@MakingCents (743)
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26 Jan 13
Sounds like a very selfish person who's not worth one more second of your time. Either you're married or you aren't, there's no middle ground. And lying about cancer is the most disgusting thing I have EVER heard of. What about the people out there with cancer who are fighting every day.
@UmiNoor (4522)
• Malaysia
27 Jan 13
You did jump into the whole thing too soon, I must say and too bad it didn't work out. It's best to just get out of the whole relationship while you still have your dignity intact. Hopefully you'll find a better man the next time. Don't give up on love. There are many good guys out there for you.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Feb 13
I'm sorry knowing about your relationship with your husband. I think that you'd be better without him.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
26 Jan 13
I'm sorry to hear that your husband and you have been going through problems. And that when you try to give it another chance then this is what is happening. I hope that you will be able to take care of yourself and do what is best for you. He's not thinking about anybody but himself and that truly is sad. I hope that best for you with the decisions you will have to make.
@mandyc13 (39)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Thank you. I will do my best to take care of myself and my son (my husband is not his father). But I wish I would have realzed early on how he is. I guess love is blind. Also, he treated me great when we first got together but after a few months of marriage he completely changed. I don't understand why men do that.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1551)
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
your not just lucky, I think you need to file a divorce or if not annulment of marriage on grounds of dishonesty and incapacitated. Annulment is the best for the record of marriage will be erased. The earlier the better wherein you don't have siblings to add to your worries. I think you are not a martyr to go on with the relation on a person that you can't lain on in the future. You need a life time partner for security while he is looking for a playmates for him to be used anytime he wants.with total disregards of responsibilities to you as a wife.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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26 Jan 13
I am sorry to hear that you and your husband are having problems.I feel sorry for you that he has been trying to hook up with another person and that he was saying that he was no longer married.
I feel that some times things get to a point that putting up with things get to much and that is when people say enough is enough.
Glad you confronted him about the girl whos number he wanted, face book is a easy way for people to hook up with other people.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
Sorry to hear about this.
I can relate to this.
I was also betrayed many times and had forgiven my ex many times too.
Until one day I woke up from nightmare and found myself wondering why I am still living with someone who cheated me for _th times.
Now I am happy being single (again) and never regretted for kicking him out of my life.
Wish you make the best decision the soonest possible.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Jan 13
I'm sorry for what you have been through! That is horrible, I don't know why some people change after marriage...It makes no sense to me. I agree with you I think it's best to get to know someone well, before marriage. It's good to know what we are getting into, Lol.
I hope you are okay by yourself because he sounds like a loser (no offense). I am sure you can take care of yourself and your son without any help! 
And you will find someone better who will treat you right and respect you more! =)
And you will find someone better who will treat you right and respect you more! =)