Why Love is banned after marrige !

Well, I don't understand why you need to love other person after marriage? You have wrote that, you will love your better half- then why look or wish to love another one? We can love our friends, our family and it's a different kind of love that we offer to our spouse- but still it is love.

I hope I am understanding this discussion correctly... My husband and I have been married for nine years and I love him now more than I ever have in the past. I love everything about him. He stands for things that I admire! He is such a good person and he still has all of the qualities I fell in love with him for... Maybe in some marriages there is no love after a while but in mine, our love is very strong!

My husband and I have been together over 20 years. I love him to this day. This doesn't mean I have on rose colored glasses. Things we find cute in the beginning can become major annoyances later on. Him staring at my backside is actually a bit embarrassing. Yes, I'm glad he is still interested but get a grip. Not a suggestion of placing hands on me, lol. I agree, wisdom is attractive. I love his personality. I love that he can make me laugh till I cry. I love that he is open minded. We do express our love for one another every day. It may be something as simple as words or a kiss. I may be a small gift, a thoughtful gesture, simply holding hands. We haven't lost our individuality, which is important, and we've grown together. We can enjoy time apart and our moments together equally. Sure, we've had disagreements. Some pretty nasty ones. But even in that we have learned and gotten closer. We are together 24/7 and haven't killed one another. We must be doing something right, lol. I think we go through stages, as with all relations in life. I know that for many, sadly, they don't know how to espress themselves or are uncomfortable with it. It isn't something they've experienced growing up. For others perhaps there have been bad relationships and showing any emotion is fearful. If you can be just as happy sitting quietly together as you are being "touchy feely", I think that's wonderful. One should be able to express their love to family, spouses/partners, and friends. I do.

My friend I am married for last 20 years and what you have mentioned such things never came to my mind You know I am meeting so many people (men) of some are are more healthy, intelligent etc then my hubby but I have never inclined towards them , as I knew I love my hubby same as he loves me. Keep in mind when you have the family it comes first to whom you love the most

Love isn't pretty. It's like the stinky entrails of an animal---it's the foundation--why 'the animal' (your marriage) is able to live--but it's not something you want to 'mount on the front-lawn' or 'show all your friends'. If your mansion has a firm foundation, you won't find it flying from the tallest tower!

hmm.. I used to wonder that a lot . After marriage, you just love the one you married. Is logic, normal. But no one says that you can't like, not love other people. If it stays to liking, not loving, it is ok . :)

When we get married, we have vowed that we will be true to our spouse and will only be loyal to him. It is possible to love another person even if one is already married, but this only happens when that person has fallen out of love with his/her spouse.

no, no, no... If you are married I feel you have no right to even think about another one like like. Just my opinion here...

Do you mean loving another person romantically after marriage? Hmmm... would you like your wife having a boyfriend while you are married? Would you allow your food to be tasted by other person while you are still eating it? ahhhh you mean, do we ever love the person we marry? Yes, that's why you got married, and that's the reason why you are together because you love each other? You share all almost all things (sometimes even tootbrush or towel) Means that you are one. so it is loving that makes the relationship lasting. happy valentines day

I knew a couple, after 30 years, were deciding whether or not they should stay together or divorce. They had some rocky moments in their marriage and weren't sure if staying together any more would be beneficial. They talked about as mature and wise adults. They decided they will not make a hasty decision and really think about what is the best decision for themselves and for the other spouse. After a long discussion and giving it a lot of thought, they both decided that they were best for each other. Then, they just fell in love with each other, on an even deeper level than when they had first fallen in love. Their daughter told me, she noticed they were like two love birds. She was thrilled to see her parents be so in love with each other. Not sure I fully understand your post or what you are trying to express but yes, with making mature and wise decisions, a couple could actually fall in love with each other all over again, and even on a deeper level that when they were young. Love can GROW and DEEPEN and yep, even in a marriage.

There are different kinds of love. love we feel for a husband or wife is just one part of love. We love our friends don't we? That is not for-bitten after marriage. We can keep as many friends as we like. But we should be careful not to cross the line.