why it is so hard to forget the first love.?? :(

8 years ago i fell in love with someone and we were engaged and when he left me the way he did i thought it was the end of the world. i couldnt move on and everything that i did reminded me of him. i dated many people after that but i left them because it just wasnt the same. i even trieed to compare them to him. i am sure he will remember you and the memories that is something that most people always remember and i know he is your first love and so was mine but i want you to know that it does get better with time. i thought i would never find someone like him. well now i am married and i have 2 wounderful kids. things happen for a reason and sometimes it is hard to find the reason behind things but i am sure one day you will find the man that is perfect for you and will be there for you no matter what and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. i hope things work out for you :)

It is hard at first but in the end you will be able to get over it. It took 4 years to get over mine as well. The more you try to get close to him, the more it is going to be hard for you to get over him. Just cut all ties with him and find ways to entertain yourself rather than sitting alone in your little corner and thinking of the memories you had with him. You cannot force someone to love you if they do no want to love you.

I think that a first love hits us he hardest.It can be hard to forget that kind of love.When we reach back into our memories later in life, a first love often comes to mind first.

whoa....,i prefer you listen to the song "love hurt". in my opininon don't waste your time in a vain, to think of someone who is not thinkin' about you. i think you have a pretty face. you can make any boys out there interested to you. don't waste your time friends...,

ahw. that seems to be so hard for you, like you still care about him while he doesn't have any feelings for you anymore. Well, that really hurts but you just have to accept the fact that he's now gone. I know it's easy to say "move on", cos it's the hardest one especially when memories are keep flashing you by. Why don't you make yourself busy. Go out shopping or make yourself stressed-free. Time will come that you can get over him. Pray always, that's the best thing you can do. :) Goodluck to your moving on process, I'm sure sooner or later you'll be okay. :)

Ok see i know its terrible for now but life moves on if u lovee something set it free if it doesn't come back than it was never yours to begin with but dont give up always remain hopeful i did and it turned out amazingly well :)

Start another relationship soon and you will be free soon . Do not dwell in the past but think forward.

It's just so hard to forget someone who you loved so much and for so long. Well, at least the two of you got to be together as a couple. Mine is somehow I think an "unrequited love". I had loved my best friend for so long before. It's nice that I am moving on because I have a lot of friends that make me smile and laugh every day.

4 years is quite a long time! But I do understand, I guess that's how great your love is for him. But not responding on you is a crystal clear proof that there is no hope anymore for a second chance. It's obvious that you are still in hopes and holding on. You;ve got to move on and open your heart to someone else. You will not be able to love anyone else and forget him if you wouldn't let anyone love you or at least give attention to other guys. I do wish you'll give others a chance to love you.

4 years? that's a long time for one not to move on... I also had an ex-relationship 17years ago... But we already moved on (of course oh my 17 years?? )... we both have our own lives after our relationship ended. err... actually we didn't had any closure, it just faded away because of distance. But even though I am already married, I am still interested to know how he is doing now. I saw him in the facebook but unfortunately his account is not active anymore. I couldn't see anything that makes me think he is already married. But I see a beautiful kid which I presume is his daughter. Well, I just hope he is happy as I am now. I hope you can find somebody else better, or the one you deserve so you can already move on. I will not say so that you can already forget because I know that is difficult to do. But at least to move on and accept that he is not part of your life anymore.

Hi ramayuen, First love is really hard to forget. Sometimes, even if you don't have any proof that you'll still be together again, you will still keep on waiting that it will happen sooner or later. What makes it hard for us to forget is the fact that it is our FIRST. It was the first time that you loved and be loved by a person, the first time that experience some wonderful things everyday, the first time to make/exchange words of promises and love, first time to have a mutual plans for the future with a person. Lots of first time happens with our first love. However, though we are products of our past, we should and we must never be a prisoner of it. One day, you still hope that you'll be together but he never thinks that way. I know it is hard to move on especially when you have not seen someone to love again, someone who will be there to love you back. As of now, you better divert your attention on something else. You can be busy doing something so that you won't remember him that often. Try to enjoy the company of others like your family and friends. Through these, you can slowly move on. But remember, it won't happen overnight.