How do you Express your Love and Affection?
@valorieesquilona (442)
Philippines
January 27, 2013 8:34am CST
I do not feel his affection for me and I doubt if he really loves me. He's not like somebody else's boyfriend who would tell the whole world that he's in love with you; he is not the type who would make a poem or compose a song just to tell you how much he loves you and he is not the guy who would tell you that he would die for you if you want him to. He is a bad boy, I think others would say. He is bitter sweet. He gets jealous but he doesn't want to let it show. He says bad words when he is mad. But he respects me and accepts me for who I really am.
I do not know how I am going to let him feel that I really love and cherish him because he is miles away from me. i think words, smiles and laughs aren't enough. I want him to know that I am faithful to him--that I am being good here and I think about him if I have a time, LOL.. I wish distance didn't exist. I wish there was a secret tunnel from my house to his house so we could see each other everyday HAHHAAHAH.. I wish I could ride a bus from here to Cairo.
14 responses
@jodylee (946)
• United States
27 Jan 13
Perhaps you could send notes to him that are handwritten to receive in the mail. When my husband and I were still dating I would buy anniversary cards (like 50th, etc.) and I would write in the cards about how I can't wait to really spend the 50th anniversary together. Distance is difficult. Good luck!
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
distance is really difficult but we're still trying, at least. thanks for your response and oh, advance happy 5oth anniversary to you and to your husband! best wishes!
@jodylee (946)
• United States
30 Jan 13
Do you have plans to live closer at some point in time? I hope it all works out well for you and the distance, it can be difficult to build trust when you are far apart.
Thanks for the 50th :) too funny! We are working on #9 now and can't imagine how cool of a relationship we will have at 50!!
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Hi there! I would like to just tell you about my thoughts on him, Well you said he says bad words when he is mad, I hope that the bad words are not directed at you? If this is the case and he curses or says bad words to you, then this only meant that he does not respect you.
You even said you are not so sure if he loves you? It can be such a burden when you worry about something like this especially that both of you are far from each other. Long distance relationships are hard just as it is, then there would be doubts if one's love is enough. Maybe you would know and you can tell throught his actions and words when you communicate just how much he loves you, and decide from there.
For most people who are far away from each other, they have to just be consistently in communication with each other. Open communication always helps ease the distance between you both. Goodluck and i hope you have a nice day! =)
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
hello, the bad words are not for me and he never said curses to me =) because if he does, I will never think twice of leaving him. thanks for this one, have a good day!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I am sure that without any efforts at all, you are able to relay your true feelings to him. Your sweet, caring voice when you speak with him, those lovely , caring messages you send him--I am sure he knows.
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I hope he really knows. And I hope we'll be together in the right time if God allows us. Anyway, i believe that everything is possible when we have faith.
@Mintlin (322)
• China
28 Jan 13
my husband isn't a romatic guy as well,he seldom express his affection to me,it's only happend when i say : i love you much and he will reply : i love you much too.
i asked him why he doesn't like express love to me and he said he loves me much but he chooses to express this by action,prepare a nice dinner to me,take care of me when i'm sick,hlep me to do household chores and so on. I think this is enough for me ,no need any words.
but my way is different,i say i love you to my husband everyday,i cook decilious food,buy nice clothes,look after my husband carefully,every detail, to make him feel like prince.
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
you are so sweet Mintlin. I am sure your husband is so lucky to have a wife as sweet and romantic as you.
@toxic_lifestyle (1213)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I express my love by saying to him that he's the most important person in my life! :)
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
28 Jan 13
Some people have a strange way of showing their affection towards you. Not all men are born to be romantic. Few of them like poems and would tel everyone that they love you. Every women wants a man that would do great things to prove that they love you. If he gets jealous and pretend not to be, it is a sign that he really loves you in the end. Tell him how you truly feel, that is the only way you can feel at ease with yourself. Long distance relationship is hard, but if you are meant to be you will eventually be together. Have faith and try to learn how to earn his trust as well.
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
that's the key to a successful relationship, i guess, trust. =) thanks, friend! well said.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
27 Jan 13
Just say what you feel in simple way and be in touch with him always.
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
that's what I am doing =).. i hope he believes that I am faithful though sometimes it's hard to be..haha just kidding
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
28 Jan 13
From your description,you really love your boyfriend very much,and apparently your boyfriend is not a romantic person,doesn't know how to show his love,and yes there are so many this kind of boys especially whose major is IT or mechanic or other science and technology.
But I think firstly you have a try and test him whether he love you or not,or you can teach him how to be a romantic person.
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
everyday for us is a test, haha. but maybe someday I will have the chance to teach him how to be romantic as you said. hmm, you have a good idea. You gave me an idea =) thanks!
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 13
You can make good use of skype or yahoo to video chat anytime, and distance is not a problem :)
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
yeah, it may not be a problem but it's really hard but thanks to technology anyway, distance now is less complicated.
@misjoseph (162)
•
28 Jan 13
well different people have different ways so just excuse him and love and be there for him if he truely love you and keeping being faithful have a nice day
@jirojoyman (458)
• Indonesia
27 Jan 13
hmmmm...,actually i am not kind of a romantic guy, and i am not a cleaver man-spoken about love. so i use song to express my love and my affection. because when i sing a song i feel so confidence. and i am also a singer and songwriter. so this is my way to express my love and my affection to her
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
your expression of love to your significant other is so sweet. keep up! I am sure she will always be happy listening to you singing a song for her.
@binaybbsr1 (375)
• India
27 Jan 13
Many may not agree on me, but I feel at least now a days, love is directly proportional to distance. But again, considering your basic question, let me tell on expression of love. It has mainly two types of expressed way. First one, if you dont have much responsibility on your partner's living, image etc. your love expression will be full of romantic gossips, physical touch and even endless praises. But if you are liable to his/her image, money etc. then your expression will be possessive and all your action will try to protect your partner from expected wrong persons. All the anger and arguments will be related to protect you from surrounding. As a whole love is very conservative in nature.
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
hooo..i am having a sudden epistaxis (nose bleeding). hahaha, LOL your response is so philosophical but yeah, you are right. thank you!
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
WOW! WHAT A CRAZY IDEA! A CRAZY BUT BRILLIANT IDEA, hahahaha. well, it's not the right time to marry, though. We are too young.
@donatello123 (326)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
The best way to have a strong relationship is to always be there for each other. Do not fail to send him instant messages or call him every now and then even just to say hi. These things will remind him that you really care for him. Different people have different ways to show their love for another person. He may not be the type of guy who will always say that he loves you but I'm pretty sure He has his own ways of showing it to you. When he is jealous, that is a sign that he loves you. I think if you want him to be an affectionate guy, start being affectionate to him. Maybe in that way, he'll adopt your attitude.
