My son and his new step mother.......

I think that is horrible. Did he tell your ex? I think he should not have to call her mom. You are his mother. He only has one. If I were you I would call your ex and tell him that she should listen to his son. That he has a mother and he should not be calling her mom. That would get me boiling. My kids hate my ex's boy friend. They will never call him dad. and if they are ever forced to I will be there fighting. It will be a cold day in hell for any child of mine to call another man dad. And you should be real mad. I can imagine.

yes, it's wrong. She's not his mother. I can understand not wanting to be called by her first name, and maybe she could come up with something else, but you are his mom, and if he wants to call her that, it's his choice, and shouldn't be forced on him.

I totally agree with you and your poor son. He shouldn't have to call her mom and I think that should all depend on the child. He shouldn't be required to call her mom. I actually don't even let my step sons call me mom. Nope, that's fine with me, and then I correct them when they did I'm like no you don't have to call me mom, cause I'm not your mom, but I'm your step mom. I agree though that step children shouldn't be required to call their step parents mom or dad. And shame on her for requiring him to call her that.

I agree there is no reason for him to call her Patty. But I also agree he should not call her mom since she is not and you are. What he should call her both, but I also think your ex husband, should talk about and agree about.

Couldn't agree with you more Maria. The title of "Mom" comes with love, respect and admiration. No one will ever replace you as his "Mother" as you gave birth to him, and for Patty to expect him to call her Mom is to much, to fast and to soon. He's 14 years old and he should make up his own mind what he would like to refer to her as irregardless if it's her house or not, and seems like his Dad would have something to say about that one.

ur son need to be used to the changes but the step mom shouldn't tell him to call her mom right away. My son just address his step mom as "tita" or auntie, that should be good enough. You are the only mom. Try to reach out to the woman and discuss it. help your son accept the woman now that they must get to know each other since they are living together.

Over time relationships can change and these days divorce is common. So you ex-husband dated a lady for one year and then married her at Las Vegas a few Saturdays ago. Your son should call the lady Patty and you mom. It is wrong of her to think she can be called mom when she is new to the family. I feel sorry for your 14 year old son and he is acting sensibly not agreeing to call her mom. I dated a man that had a son. His son called me by my first name. I knew he already had a mom. My son called my ex-boyfriend by his first name. I hope your ex-husband's new wife won't continue to be so challenging towards your 14 year old son. Good luck to him and you.

It might be worth spending the money on a phone call for a little heart-to-heart with the ex--make it clear that the "lady" he married should be happy that your son is nice enough to call her by her first name and not by what she actually is... It's good that you are moving to the U.S. in a few months and will then have your son with you. I think that your ex has now successfully chosen the perfect way to ruin his relationship with your son--by marrying something like that.

That is so wrong of her. I would if I were you have a talk with your ex and tell him this is not going to happen. I'm his mom and no one will be taking my place. The audacity of her to think a kid after fourteen year of being with his mom is going to call someone else mom especially after calling her "Patty" for a year is ridulous. I feel so bad for your son to be put into such a perdicament at his age.

Its really hard on the part of your son. As now he is grown up. He can not see a mother in another woman, when you are still alive. He would prefer to live alone than with that lady. Why don't you call him to your place and keep him with you.

That really sounds wrong to me too, just because some woman married my farther does not mean she has the right to ask to be called mom. He already has a mom and she is still alive, what the hell was this woman thinking, if I were your 14 year old son I would have slapped her consequences be damned.

Yeah that is wrong. You should talk with your son and and ex husband about that. He is fourteen years old and he shouldn't have to call her anything. It would be different if he was younger and wanted to call her that. But he's a teenager and she shouldn't make him feel like he has to call her anything but her name. Yes she is living with in that home and married to his father but she is not his mother. And she is starting out on the wrong foot by doing that.

It is, she is his step mom, and if it came upon him calling her mom then so be it. But she can't force it. Everyone I know who has a step parents they call them by their names, such as Patty. Unless they were raised by brth from this stepparents.

Of course that's very wrong, forcing someone to do something especially that is a very sensitive thing in your child's life. I can imagine how hard it is for your son.

oh no Maria she is so wrong to do that as he can only have one real mom and hes old enough to know that. The poor kid, she is going at things all wrong. she is a step mo m and he knows that.she is treating him like a little kid and he's a teenager with a teen an; angst.I think were I him I would be upset too..She has to find a way to meet half way with him as she cannot ask him to give yop as real mom at all.I agree she has to do things differently .She is not his mom and never will be.Bu t if she is smart she will tr e at him as a teen and let him chose something to call her instead.I just do not think forcing him to do that is going to build any kind of relationship bwtween him and his stepmom.

I don't think that is proper and the lady has no right to tell your son such a thing. She can ask for a something nice like auntie but not mommy. Wish you could talk with your ex and let him know about it.

If it is possible, please your son live together with you till he is able to determine what's right or wrong. Although we are angry , never show our anger in front of our children be patient

That is really unfair of her to do to your son. I feel so bad for him! He must be feeling he is in a hard place right now. I would never make a child call me mom, especially if they already have a mother! The distance doesn't matter, your still his mother and this lady should not be telling him to call her mom instead. So wrong. I really hope you can fix this problem because I think she crossed a line that should not have been crossed!

Wow,that is such a complicated problem,and in my opinion,call the new step mother "mom" or not is not a important thing,and the point is whether the step mother treat your son well.

I guess, that step mother of your son is being rude. Maybe she don't know how to deal with kids. She must be good to your son first before she will tell him to call her "mom".