"cos I am whatever you say I am..."

what you do just going on, dont give up when you fall down....,just believe and trust into anything you love, they can judge everything about us, but one that they can't is to sop us from something we love.

Yeah we're all different, and no one understand your pain. This is what I usually thought. People will always think about themselves, and this is the fact they are looking from their own perspective rather than from other people's shoes. However even though I can advice you for not to worry about other people's judgemental saying, you could take their critiques (even though no matter harsh or unkind it is) to make yourself better, not to be better like other people but to be better you, the higher self of you.

I agree lol. There are so many types of persons, some are really difficult to understand, more so with them who wore a mask

You are right dear. We should live our life our way and should do what we like but without hurting others basic interest and life. We have every right to live our way but others have also their right and independance for their lives.

Yeah it is important for us to be who we are. Even when others like family members may try and change us. We have to be true to our feelings and do what we know is right. In the end we can't please everyone so we should strive to be happy with who we are. There is nothing wrong with improving ourselves and bettering our life but it has to our choice.

Yes you are right,and I am really appreciate your phrase"Be yourself no matter what other people would say or think about you."That is so right definitely,and it is very important especially for a girl,and I want to introduce a movie to you,and that is"he is just not that into you."I think you will learn something from it after you watch it.

Well, I think that it works both ways. Many people want others to accept and respect them but they do not give others the same level of respect and acceptance that they feel others should bestow upon them. You, for instance, speak of others as "spoiled rotten brats" and say that if "they are being hurt if you say what they need to hear not what they want to hear, do not be upset and do not feel so bad because at the end of the day, you will learn that what you did was a big help to them" yet you complain when others do the same thing to you. Perhaps the people that you are complaining about are doing exactly what you have suggested, but you do not like it due to the fact that you are on the receiving end rather than the giving end. I know that there are things about myself that I could improve upon. Do I like it when others point out these "flaws"? Of course I do not like it, especially if they do it in a mean or nasty manner. Does it make their points any less valid, especially in their eyes? No, of course it doesn't. Does it mean that I am going to change? Well, that is up to me and whether I like myself "as is" and can live with my imperfections or whether I feel a strong desire to change them - I think that is about as true to yourself as you can get, which to me is what really matters as how can others truly accept you if you cannot accept yourself.

People are hard to understand because we are different and we mostly only understand those who are the same as we are. No matter if we say/claim we do understand, we simply can't because of all the differences (character, way we are raised, culture differences, education differences, gender, life experiences). We all are different which is, according to me, a good thing. I also think it's good not Always to want to understand, to ask why or what or when. Accept the way it is, respect and your life will surely improve and you will have way less stress.

people understand the things but just dnt get that all these things are not different from other....... just they need to get that dont interfere in other things.....

hmmmm maybe it is just self concept don't you think so? sometimes we feel that people look us down or sometimes people make remarks that we thought against us, but realizing noo they don't mean that way. It was just we pre conceived thought about ourselves. It is quite to point fingers to people... because without knowing it we are pointing more towards ourselves. so ... it is just a matter of self concept. If we think who we are, no matter what other do against us we can still stand and not be rattled and shook... because we know ourselves better than they know us.

Wow, love you for that, be what you are what a strong woman. Nice to hear, do what is comfortable to you as long as you are within the limit of a civilized world.

I am with you in this matter.People are very complex to understand many times.Their expectations differ according to thier needs.I have learnt to not get upset and do what i think is right