My son will move in when my dad now......

Unbelievable that, that was his response. Give me a break. He needs to put himself in his son's shoes and see how he would like it. I'm glad he will not have to put up with calling her mom since he has one already. Living with his grandpa will probably be a better thing then living with a female who is not being nice to him. I bet she is happy he won't be living with them and who knows maybe that was her plan in the first place. Not to be nosey I don't understand why he is not with you, his mom?

Some words have a lot of meaning and power. Mom is one of those words. Your ex is foolish for not putting his foot down and taking his son's side on this one. so if he wanted to call her dumb btch...would that be ok? I mean, it's just "words" after all. She sounds very demanding and controlling.. I can't even imagine expecting a kid that is not mine to call me mom. Some of my daughters friends call me Mama sid but that is entirely different. It is good that he will be living with your dad. You said in the other discussion that you are moving to the US soon. I bet your son can't wait.

I'm glad that your son is moving in with your father. As I said before, your ex has found the perfect way to ruin his relationship with his son. He has now chosen some pushy creature over his own son. Your son is old enough to see clearly where he stands with his father. It is unfortunate that your ex is being such an idiot about things, because it sounds like your son is a great kid, and your ex should count himself lucky to have been blessed with such a polite and well-mannered son.

you are 100% right your son should only call you mom you are his only mother , your ex is the one that needs to grow up because i garentee that if it was the other way around and your man wated your son to call him dad your ex would have a fit , mom is a special word and ou are his only mother you are the only one who should be called mom stand your ground and have your son do the same

I understood your sufferings and hardship. I also understand the mind of your teen aged son. He loves you and he does not like to lose your place for his step mother. Step mother can ask him to call her mom. Probably if your son address her as mom, the she may love him as like as her son. Actually it is not possible. A step mother cannot be a mother. I lost my mother, When I was 6. I was grown up with my father, step mother and siblings. I used to call my step mother as Little mom. I know the real pain of living with step mother. Have a nice day.

Does your ex have custody of your son? Is the move because his step-mother insists on being called "mom"? Were you the one who requested the move, or did your son? I agree that the word "mom" is something special. When another woman wants a woman's child to call her that, to me, it says she's trying to fully replace the woman who gave birth to that child. If you still have a relationship with your son, you are the only one he needs to call "mom". I never called my stepmother "mom" - I called her "Anne" - that was her name. I called my step-grandmother "Lil" because that was her name. I had a mother and a grandmother! I have stepsons - adult ones - in their early forties. They call me "Jeanne" - my name. The step grandchildren call me "Jeanne". They have a grandmother from their dad's side who is alive and well. It's not the name that defines a relationship always, anyway. My step grandkids and I get along great. Basically, they treat me as they would treat a grandmother anyway. And someday, when the children my husband and I have together - who are both in their twenties - have kids - they will be able to call me "grandmom" - just as my own kids call me "mom".

I agree with you....she's not his Mom and doesn't have to call her that. YOU are the MOm and always will be. I think you have to earn being a Mom by taking care of the child as an infant and raising him to be a man.

Does your dad live in the USA or in Mexico? So glad your son will move with your dad though to get away from it.

I have someone here who calls her mom-in-law Aunt. I do not approve. We all address Moms-in-law as Mom, although I am told out there in the US they are addressed by their first name. Some respect I say My nephew who is settled in the US is doing that and none of us approve of it. But his Mom-in-law apparently likes it! An Indian Mon-in-law liking it. Never heard of such a thing! You are right. Mom is not just a word

He is better off. Let him movie in with your father. You're right, mom is not just a word, it is very special. And like I said before, you are his mother and he only has one. And may I add a great one at that.

Hi I agree with you. So sad to hear this. "Mom is not just a word" he is mistaken. I don't think any one should say that mom is just a word. We just cannot go and call mom everyone. It has got special affection and attachment with it.

I don't blame him, the fact your ex is allowing this, and picking this woman over his son, just shows the idiot he is. I hope he is much happier with your Dad, does your Dad live far from your ex?.

Hi friend, you are right, there is a lot of difference between step mom and real mum. Surely the word Mom is having its own importance. Hope your son is fine with his father and step mum.

Yes, even i disagree with yr ex. The word "mom" is very special. I cant conceive so can't become a mother so u can understand how much it hurts me. Mom is caring, living, supporting ........... No relation can beat the mom and children relationship.

I agree with you. Good for your son for taking a stand on the matter. The step mom should not try to get him to call her mom and your ex should not support it. Didn't I read a discussion from you that you were moving back to the US and that your dad was moving to Mexico? So I assume that when(if) that happens your son would life with you.

I know how you feel. And I think that your ex could have been more sensitive. It is okay that his wife now would stand as your son's second mom, but I think that the only person who deserves to be called a mom is the real mother of the child.

I think it is terrible that your ex chose to agree with his new wife instead of his own son. He acts like he should be calling her mom when he already has a mother. I totally disagree with your ex here. Your son does not need to be calling someone else mom if he does not feel comfortable doing so. I for one am glad that he is moving with your dad...

I think your son moving in with your father is the right for the time being. I do think you ex has made a mistake in backing his new wife and that is where the problem comes from. He has just married this woman and maybe he does not want to upset his new bride... I hope for all concerned that this matter is resolved and some compromise is found before your Son's father regrets it

Why he will say mom to that lady when he have already a mom, that's immaturity shown by that lady. But your ex should have given some respect to his son instead of taking her side as these are the things which his son will keep in mind when he will grow up. Anyways I hope that boy will found some good environment this time.

Maria I am so sorry to hear this! Your poor son. When you posted about him being upset when his stepmom said she was to be called mom, I really didn't expect something like this to happen. I guess we assume people are good people and that they want the best for the people they care about. It seems, though, that the people your son's stepmom cares about, is herself. What I find most shocking though, is that your ex has let this become a big deal, that he's taken his new wife's side instead of explaining to his son and his wife that it's up to the son what name he uses because she's only his mom if HE thinks and feels she is, not because she wants to be (and why does she want to be? She's treated him like this, it shows she's NOT a mom to him). They are being completely cruel, and as harsh as it may sound, I suspect your son may be happier with somebody else. Is he close to his grandad? I really hope so and I hope he manages to handle all of this well. To be honest I'm not sure how any teenager would emotionally deal with being thrown out of his home for something so stupid and irrelevant. I'm sure it was already a tough time with him, having a new stepmom. Again, that poor boy. I hope he's still talking to you and telling you how he feels, I'm sure your support will really help him through this.