Why Are People Rude?

I think some people are rude because they are unhappy with their lifes. i cant figure out any other reason for that...

I have wondered about this so offen. How did they become this way. Especially the people who cut you off while driving and you hunk the horn and then they preceed to give you the middle finger. They were in the wrong, are you kidding me! They could have caused an accident. It could be both a learned behavior or they watched their own parents act this way. People like this think they are above everyone else and they can get away with it. Until that one person puts them in their place and maybe they will learn from it or maybe they won't, I doubt it. I was brought up to respect and not to break social laws. I can't see cutting the line, taking one's parking space that you know they were waiting for. I can't see driving without signaling or letting someone pass in front of me because they got into the wrong lane. Hold the door for someone behind you, if a person has only one item on a long line let that person go ahead of you. It's not going to kill you. Just be courtesy and thoughtful of others and life will be so much better for everyone.

Rudeness is a total lack of self control. It is an ego problem that a person should have been taught to control in childhood. Children today are raised by babysitters, daycare and television not caring parents. Actually it has been true for so many generations that I am sure that most people have no idea how to raise a child since they too were raised by babysitters,daycare and television. Daycare is early school for most kids and is very socialist as is our school system. They are praised for everything they do even if it is not really correct. They are told "Johnny good job for trying"...What the hell is that? Instead they should be told to try to get it right next time. They get praised just for turning in a paper even if it is totally wrong...It teaches kids that they do not have to delay gratification...It should always be expected immediately. Here starts the insane ego mania...

I do think about it at times... And sometimes I feel some people are not trying to be rude. Like for example this is the way I think, if someone cuts you off while driving I always think to myself I hope their not rushing to the hospital right now and that is why their driving so fast and cutting people off. My mind just always goes that way. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt first every time...

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand what u wanted to convey through your discussion, i think we have people of varied natures around us, while some like to gel with people, some like to show attitude to others. It is our responsible to be judgemental in life and avoid people whom we are not comfortable mixing with. So u also avoid thinking about such people. What say?

Maybe because that is their normal behavior when growing up. Nobody other end to correct it and that is what they see with how the people around them act. So they grew up thinking that its okay t be rude to people. But there are those that still turned out to be that nasty when in fact their folks happen to be a bunch of decent, good couple. It could also be an outside influence during the stage in their lives when he are looking for someone to look up to and they happened to get associated with the wrong crowd. But whatever age someone is in,I don't think it will ever be too late for them to learn a lesson or two and grow up.

scoopzz If rudeness is disrespect I think a l ot of people never learned respect as their parents never respected them. They then did not respect their parents, If one does not learn respect from their parents they disrespect their parents then go on to disrespect others also. So rudeness begins at home when parents forget to respect their kids and teach them to respect others also.

Rude people are normal part of life. I don't know the exact reason too for their rudeness. I am not impressed with rude people because they only think of themselves inconsiderate, braggarts and selfish best describe them.

Welcome to mylot Scoopzz An interesting debate can be had here but it also can be both ways. Someone can be rude because they're experiencing something in their lives that is causing them to be that way but they can also have that inherent learned rudeness that has followed them. The deeper question for me is if that person realizes they are being rude or not. I often know when I am being rude and unless I am just in an extremely beguiled mood I will usually knock it off soon after I started. Mine is not a learned rudeness. I was taught to be polite and kind. Mine is usually when I've been hurt I tend to lash out. Well less now than I used to but you see my point.

My major is psychology,"enforcement" is the first term floated to my head when i see your topic. In perspective of Behaviorism,certain behavior will be recur if it is enforced and will disappear if it is punished,broadly speaking,enforcement is linked with gratification and punishment is linked with forfeit. as regards to social sitution,for instance,someone cut in front of you in line because they could get what they want faster,if they are not be reproached or punished,it's much likely to them to act the same way next time.

i think they are too selfish and ego for others even they are have high formal education. They only thing your theirselves only and make sure safe for them. I thought it's not about being childhood because they realised when they did this and this behavior is developed by their environment where they live and their growth up. Only thing they want the easy and dont care how to get it as long as can get it even it's not good habit like looking for parking space. Like in my placed if holiday coming then almost every mall will be fulled even in parking lot too so every person whose coming into the mall they will hard to find empty parking space and dont hope you can get good position like near the mall closest door, so you dont need to walk too far.

My brother must have missed the mark, because he is a very rude person, I have just stopped saying anything to him because, he has these problems with his girl friend and he act rude all the time I don't like being around him I will be glad when i move away from him

I think all of it. When someone grew in an environment practicing it then most likely, a child will also carry it into his paces of life. One line goes something like,"What the elders do, in the eyes of a child, it is right". If example, a certain child's parent practice like one, then there is higher possibility that he will do the same. Or, probably innocence towards something, when someone do not know that he is already being rude or disrespectful then he/she will always do it.

I think rudeness has something to do with the environment a person grow with. If a person was taught of proper behavior and conduct by their parents since childhood then one would be a respectful person and sensitive to feelings of others. On the other hand, if you grow with a family who shows disrespect and bad behaviour to each other then more likely you'll be the same type of person when you grow up. It takes proper education and discipline to be a fine citizen.