A man should marry a women or woman should marry man.

I understood what you are suggesting.. You have always read...that it is the man who proposes ...and asks the woman will you marry me...right? It is not the other way round... But out here, the situation is different ... It is women rather women's parents who offer their girl's hand in marriage and it is the boy who gets to refuse ..say yes or no. This is the reason dowries exist and bearing a female child is considered expensive from the day one.. Welcome to the real world Admin...this is full of shocks..:)

I'm confused, and not just by the title of your topic... I think it does not matter who married whom as long as they agree to marry each other and both to shoulder all responsibilities that come with marriage. As far as a child is concerned, I don't think neither a daughter or a son is more expensive than the other...

And there I thought the discussion was about different-gender vs. same-gender marriages. I guess, in other parts of the world, it still matters WHO asks someone to get married. In places where women are looked at more as equals with men, I guess sometimes it's even expected for a woman to ask her boyfriend. Who foots the bill for the wedding, though, is another matter - for some, it's shared; with others, it's mostly the man who pays.

I got confused myself with your post! But either way, it just means the same. The only difference is, there are certain cultures that the man should be offering a dowry, which make the marriage look very expensive even if the wedding has not taken place yet.

What? You are confusing me with your logic. When two people get married, they marry each other. The minister or priest asks "Do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife?" She says "I do." and then he says to the woman "Do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband." He says "I do." The proposal is when the man asks the woman to marry him... Will you marry me? She says yes or no. It doesn't matter if the girl asks the man if he will marry her. Sometimes the relationship isn't going anywhere because the man is too shy to ask. He may want her to give her body to him before marriage, and if she doesn't want to, she may ask him to get married before she is with him in that way. You may be from India or some other country? I don't know. Customs are different in different countries. But be sure, when two people get married they are both taking vows to each other to marry them and be faithful to each other.

Vice versa; both a man and a woman marries each other and I think it should be the attitude of all.

from my perspective, doesn't matter who asked who, they are marrying each other. What does it matter as long as the marriage is a success?

I am having a headache reading your title and the discussion, may be i will come back later with the answer that you need, for the time being, i have to figure out what's actually you want to tell us. It is fine for you to tie the knot with a woman if you are a man, or to marry a man if you are a woman. Either one is the same thing. Try to make it simple, if not, you not only will confuse everyone, you will also confuse yourself.

Admin1993 This is a very interesting perspective on marriage. I was not aware arranged marriages are still very common. Your questions make sense from the standpoint of an arranged marriage since the girl's parents seem to be responsible for a dowery. How widespread is this practice in India? Those who are not used to this will take exception to the idea of women being solely responsible for washing clothes, taking care of children and cooking. In many cultures these roles are shared though for the most part they do fall more on women than men. Thank you for sharing your viewpoint...

We in India have a male dominated society,but now the situation is changing fast.A few years back it was men who chose women of their choice and married them.Now it is not so.Now women have started deciding against marrying men who they don't like.In my opinion,it is a matter where both men and women should have a say.Both should be given the right to decide to marry the person they like.I would like to say,both men and women marry each other.