Is it good for a husband to accept or tolerate the negative attitude of a wife?

It seems to be like the situation of my SIL and his husband. His husband is a really nice guy. Although he knows how cray his wife could be at times, he just lets her be. But well, there were times that they would fight, but that's just normal for husbands and wives, right. But I do feel how much he is controlling himself. He has no choice, I guess. And I would often tell my SIL to change a bit coz she got a very loving husband. He is working abroad just to send their twins to one of the most expensive schools in the country, he would buy the latest gadgets for his family.....he only deserves to be treated well, isn't it?

well, it depends upon the situation. if the reason of the wife of nagging because of the wrong doings of the husband then she really has the right to do it. coz i don't think the woman would nag just for nothing. but if that's the case then the husband should talk to her husband in a patient way so they can fix whatever is the problem.

First, you have to remember that there is no smooth relationship without ups and downs. The fact is, the husband was much aware of his partner's anger and nagging attitude before they got married , and since he chose to have a life with a nagging lady of his choice, I see no reason why he should no tolerate her. Love is such a special thing that no one can truly explain to the fullest. As an onlooker, you may not know the reason he loves her, or why she seems always angry with him. Only people sharing a relationship can tell their differences,their pains and tolerance. If you ask me, my answer would be he has a choice to make, and it depends on his love for her- love is blind remember.

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i think it is very tough for a husband when he always have to face the grunt of his wife. It would be difficult for him to decide what to do especially when he would be returning from his office. I think he needs to be firm and strong so that he can handle his wife properly otherwise should start dominating over him. What say?

It is not accept or tolerate.. maybe understand. Make things in a different light. Hmmm.. not a husband and wife thing. My niece is a newly wed, and we noticed that she's like a kid fighting to her husband, they were just like kids. Then one time she nagged me... what I did, I kissed her and tell "it is OK, just take it easy and relax" then she kept quiet and subsided. When her husband saw that.. he said "aha.. that's a good technique." he smiled and told me.. "that's what I am going to do" ... then we all laughed... Maybe I am her favorite aunt that's why she stopped.. but I guess a little caring thing counts a lot, instead of fighting back or nagging at her too.

well my dear i will give her more time,to comeback to her self and advice her and give her anything she wants.why be'cos marriage is all about patient and one day at time she will apologies to me.

Many times no matter what, there are women out there that are never satisfied with anything, and always nagging. They can never find anything nice to say, and always expect everyone to do everything for them. They are constantly complaining, and when married it makes me feel Sorry for the husband. Personally I cannot imagine a husband just sitting back and taking it, and I am sure it has caused many abusive moments or divorce. Personally when I have seen a woman like that I often wonder about the marriage and what it would take to save it. Probably time for some counseling, or medication for the wife, as well as a Physical exam and hope something somehow wakes her up to want to change this.

It sounds like the woman is fed up and angry with her wishy washy husband. She could be pushing his buttons to try and get some kind of strong reaction. Many women want their husband to be the dominant one but if he is not then there is immense frustration and dissatisfaction to contend with. Maybe the husband should take his wife away somewhere far from the stress of everyday life and talk to her about the things that make her angry or negative or unhappy. Communication is often the key.

I think its dumb to tolerate such an attitude, but he did choose to marry her after all. Some times what others see as a woman being naggy and btichy isn't. From a specific point of view it may seem like that, but really its just frustration at having to repeat things like the husband is a child. All he has to do is try and understand her better and oh I don't know but for example if she "nags" about something like okay what is something women don't like that some men do... I think one is leaving their dirty clothes in the floor. Okay don;t leave your dirty clothes in the floor! Simple really.

Hi, jadoixa~ I would say this man has a big heart. And he indeed loves her. I know I wouldn't be able to tolerate this. I'm kinda in a similar situation now, only that I'm the girlfriend. And the negative one is my bf. The smallest thing can make him ache. If they all come together, it would definitely make him go crazy. He lets it out when he sees or encounters something unpleasant. And the negative feelings just accumulate inside of me. And I'm so sick and tired of it now.

Totally not. If I am fed up, I will stay away for some time so she would realize her mistakes. If she doesn't reform, another option is to leave her.

If the full personality is nothing more than a negative one, why should he stay with me? I wouldn't expect a man to accept or tolerate that type of behavior from me. The fact that he is continuing to put up with her tells me he doesn't have much self esteem to respect himself first and foremost before respecting her. I would expect the same from the situation if it were reversed. A woman is not over a man and a man is not over a woman. They are equals.

Hi, My wife is not dominating wife. But if she is arrogant and always like to fight on small things and disturbs family life it would be very difficult for me tolerate the situations. I would warn him and give some time to improve herself. But is she would not then I would like to leave her. Because it is of no use to me and my children.In happy family there is a need of love and understanding and caring.

The family consist of not only husband and wife. The siblings are important part of the family. I like to say that relationship between husband and wife should be tolerable and healthy.Otherwise family environment will be at stake to ensure congenial atmosphere. I really feel sorry for the husband cited in your writing for his wife's nagging behavior.Love is important and for the sake of love, wife should be respectful to the husband.Love is divine and divine love desire peace. The said husband may go to the psychologist to discuss the matter. There must be reasons for her nagging behavior and a wise husband hammers it to the positive solution.

I am an impatient and negative think attitude minder . But I have a good and patient husband . So I love him very much . And he also love me very much.

There's 3 sides to every story. There's his side, her side and somewhere in the middle is the truth. She has to have a reason to 'nag' as you say. She wouldn't just be fussing to hear herself fuss. Maybe he isn't pulling his load in the marriage? Maybe everything is on her and she's tired of being taken for granted. He's probably not the paragon of virtue that you are implying here. He married her. He had to have wanted to be with her.

That is the mystery of love. However even how great one love can be, if the other party will not do her part, most likely that relationships might be ruined in time. Remember that marriage is composed of two sides in order to grow and to remain strong. If only one side is working, this will not last long. Most husband may not react as long as they still bear with the situation.

Well, I think as long as he can tolerate that bad attitude of his wife then there would no problem with them. He must talk with his wife in a low tone of voice and he should be the one who has the longest patience. He must be the one who will correct the bad attitude of his wife.

I must say, he seems like a very good man. But then everything has its breaking ts thus we shouldn't push it to the limit.they should talk to each other and meet half way to adapt themselves so they can be at better terms. However if it doesn't seem to bother the man too much, I guess it's okay, we have if fervent oreferences after all