Spoke to my son and dad for 2 hours last night......
By mariaperalta
@mariaperalta (19073)
Mexico
February 1, 2013 8:10am CST
Spoke to my son last night, and my dad.
My son is very upset over this deal with his dad and new step mom.
His dad told him 3 times, you leave my house you never come back.
I know my son, he wont go back.
Hes a quiet kid, buy has his ways.
Guess he got it from his mama.
My dad says my son wants to come back to Mexico now.
We need to talk him into staying in usa.
As Im moving there in july or aug.
Makes no sence to pay almost 1000.00 to fly her now.
Then start a school here for say 4 months.
my dad says to give Miguel a few days, he will realize its better to stay in las vegas.
Id love to have him here with me.. But I know its better there for him..
All this because a dad chose a woman over his own son.
Sad
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15 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Feb 13
Yeah I'm sorry to hear that your son is having all of this trouble because of his dad's choices. Your son could grow up having a very bad attitude toward his dad. And unfortunately his dad doesn't even realize all the problems he is causing with his son that will greatly affect their future. Yeah I hope that he will see that it doesn't make sense to spend all that money. I'm sure that he just feels depressed about all that is happening.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Feb 13
Im just glad we had other options, with my dad. I hope my son will stick it out a few more months there.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
1 Feb 13
This guy sounds like a real (*())_)&, no wonder you ditched him. I completely disagree of him picking a woman over his son. But he simple doesn't see that, he may even see his son trying to ruin his new life. I think it's best for your son to stay with your dad, does your son know you are moving?.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
1 Feb 13
It could very well changed him, but you haven't been with him, and seeing his behaviour, just on the phone. I could never imagine picking a souse over my child, but sadly some do this. I think maybe, he is better off with your Dad, and when you get there. Maybe, he will realize when his son is absent.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Feb 13
Problem is he lost him once for 2 years... he may have lost him this time forever. Miguel is that way...
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Feb 13
Ricki.... he was a great husband and dad for 5-6 years.... then like night and day he change. i was told after he quit drinking.. after I left him... He was a changed man.. I dont think he is...
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Feb 13
hi mariaperalta its wonderful you got to talk to your son and your father but i do hope your dad can talk your son into staying in las Vegas as you will be moving there this summer. You are right it would make no sense to spend all that money to fly him to Mexico then turn around a few months later and move again back to Las Vegas.
I am sure your dad is right that your son just needs a little time to settle down and he will see the wisdom to stay put a little longer
in Las Vegas.It really is sad the wa t tor ex talked to your son like that.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Feb 13
typos It really is sad the way your ex talked to your son like that.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Feb 13
I do as well. I want him to finish the school year there. Its over mid june.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
3 Feb 13
This is almost what is happening on my end with the evil ex. It seems that she would rather give up her own son instead of he boy friend. I know what you are going through. And I know how my son feels. Who knows, he might wind up coming to stay with me permanently. But I am trying to help him through this tough time. He is starting a new school this week. But if she wants to play that game I will play it to the hilt. It is amazing. It seems my ex and your ex should be together. They sound like the same kind of people. Well, I am sure he will stay with your father and you will be with him in time.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
4 Feb 13
the game was alot of fun, my son called me last night. We spoke over 2 hours. hes doing better now.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
3 Feb 13
well Steve, Id never think of marring if my son didnt agree. Blood is thicker than love. In my book. Have a great super bowl sunday there. Go 49ers......
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
1 Feb 13
Or because your son chose himself over his own father. Why did your son leave (both Why did he say & What was the actual situation)?
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 Feb 13
Well, obviously I agree with the son. But maybe because I'm only hearing his side of the story.
Did the new wife DO SOMETHING to earn the title 'Mom' (I know it can't be anywhere near what you did 
; but ... they call Catholic priests 'Father,' nuns 'sister' & 'mother')?
Does the DAD call the new wife "Mom"? I mean, chances are that's how the son first learned to call YOU 'mom'! 
; but ... they call Catholic priests 'Father,' nuns 'sister' & 'mother')?
Does the DAD call the new wife "Mom"? I mean, chances are that's how the son first learned to call YOU 'mom'! @mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Feb 13
My son left.. because his dad chose the wife over him. My son asked his dad to talk to the new wife.About making the kid call her mom. He refused. His dad told him If you dont like that, then maybe you should think of leaving. So he did. You think a dad should tell a son that? I dont...
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
3 Feb 13
did she earn something? In just 2 weeks time? Id think not....
@gamarays12 (85)
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
I absolutely know where youre coming from. When our Dad leave us for another woman, it really hurts so bad. Given that my brother is disabled and my Mom went home from abroad because of health problems, its hard for us to survive on our own with my dad's lumpsum pension. Its good that me and my sister is already working to support our family needs or else we dont know where to depend. My mom take my brother to school everyday though its really challenging. With this I realized that a mother's love is incomparable. Its always better for a mother to take care of her child because she always give more than 100% love and care.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Feb 13
I understand that as well.. my dad lived in the usa along time.. while we were here in mexico with my mom. Hope things get better for you there. Take care. Nice to meet you here Im maria...
@gamarays12 (85)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
no worries...keep praying and you'll do good okay...nice to meet you as well
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
2 Feb 13
So many times in life, there have been men and women who choose their new girlfriend, husband or wife over their kids, and many times never want anything to do with them again. Seen it happen many times even in my own life, where my real dad did this to me. When he remarried he never thought of his kids from his first marriage, and I have often wondered why. I guess personally it is a shame, and hope somehow your son can change his mind until you move there.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Feb 13
sure has, and that makes no since to me. My family has always come first and always will. Have a great weekend there.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
3 Feb 13
His dad made a bad choice... Im really surprised, I thought he had changed. I guess he hasnt. Go 49ers....
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
1 Feb 13
I, sadly, am not a parent but I just can't imagine treating a child that way. There is always a better way to handle such situations and your sons father should have tried everything he could to do that. But in the absence of that, is good that your father is there for him. I hope you can convince him to stay there until you are able to move there to help him.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Feb 13
I can timagine, choosing a non blood person over your own blood. very sad to me.. very sad.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
1 Feb 13
It's just for a few months. Then, he will have you there with him.
He's likely so busy with school and activities that the time should pass quickly. He just needs to be reminded of this.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
1 Feb 13
Yes, makes no sence to have him come here, and changed schools again. I hope I can talk him into staying there. Im the type of mom... I will let him choose.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
2 Feb 13
Yes, it is best that he stays in Las Vegas especially since you will be moving there in four or five months. It would not be worth it to waste so much money. I feel so bad for your son, that his father is treating him this way. Choosing another women over him. He will regret it one day when he really needs his son. When he is old and gray and maybe sick with no one to take care of him. My ex has seven kids from four different females and he only has a relationship with maybe three of the kids but they all live faraway. He is all alone and sick and I know regretting how he treated all of us. The moms and the kids.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Feb 13
I agree, problem is my son is so lost.. he doesnt know what he wants. I feel so bad for him. Have a great weekend there..
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
My heart is breaking for your son..No child has to feel the pain of rejection and the least it should be coming from a person/people they thought their source of strength and love. It is hard and will take time to heal and be understood or accept by your child, I must say he needs you and your family's support. And maybe make him understand slowly that not be accepted or have a father will make him a less person. You are there and your parents for him. Thats what is important.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Feb 13
I agree. especially after being away from his dad over 2 years. I wanted him close to his dad again. A 14 year old needs his dad.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Feb 13
I feel so bad for him! Makes me want to give him a hug and tell him everything will be okay.
I don't know your son or anything but most boys when their hurt at that age they hold a grudge forever. I hope that doesn't happen but he might never like your ex again for this. I wouldn't blame him either...
It's really sad that any man would choose a new wife over his own son, poor Miguel. I hope he gets happier soon and can let go of the pain his father caused eventually.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
3 Feb 13
thanks, hed like that. hes really upset over this. As he made the move to vegas to be with his dad after we left him 2 years ago. Very sad to choose a wife over your own blood.
@prabu6683 (113)
• India
2 Feb 13
It is very good to talk about your family problems with your family members. It helps some time each other corrects their mistakes. These kind of discussion you have to be very careful and should not mis leads any of your family members. If the discussion goes negative direction they immediately change their the topic. This approach really helps to resolve your problems.
Sometimes the family member are not in a mood to accept your words. This time you have to understand their problems and you have to advice in good mood. If you sharing all problems with your family members then it really helps to resolve the core issue.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Feb 13
I understand, the problem is im 3600 miles away, and have to have other family members help with these things. Have a great day there.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
Just try to give the best to your son. It may be difficult, but with your dad's help, everything will be fine.
