Talking to my x-partner lately made me realize that she never really listens.
By taiwanlife
@taiwanlife (745)
Philippines
February 1, 2013 4:06pm CST
I was talking to my x on skype last week and saw how bad of a listener she was. I always got pissed off when we were still together when she deviates to a random topic all the time. We would be talking about what to eat for dinner for example then all of a sudden she would talk about some TV series. So in skype, I could see her finally defocusing because she already got what she wanted from me, from the conversation. If she thinks it is not necessary to continue then she just automatically switches her focus to some other subjects totally unrelated to the previous one.
So I showed her how uninterested I was on what she was talking about and started doing my own things on other websites. This lady is just amazing. If she is not the one being talked about then she is gone.:)
7 responses
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
1 Feb 13
and you still like her. I can sense that you still like her, even if she has this attitude don't you?
@taiwanlife (745)
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
yeah, i still do but i got to know her more and more from afar. we were together for a long time and was so hard to fathom why, when we had to separate. now i am getting to understand the reasons why. of course she had her own reasons as well as to why we got estranged. my own reasons are starting come out more and more clear. it's been years since the break up, crazy.this is helping me get over her.:)
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
2 Feb 13
but still talking to her? hmmmm... are you sure you are getting over her?
@taiwanlife (745)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
we have continued friends that is why we talk. we had gone past the aches of lovers' pain. we sometimes catch each other on social networks and would continue talking on skype. otherwise it is just like that, we both live in different countries and have our own lives now.
@SpicyTapioca (18)
• Singapore
3 Feb 13
There are bound to have such personality hanging around, but its just a matter of time they will start learning to listen. I met many people like that, even some of my friends does that as well.. I guess the only suggestion is either finding someone else.. or you can try to make them change.
@taiwanlife (745)
• Philippines
3 Feb 13
I guess it is hard to change a person. I tried changing her and her changing me in so many aspects but it just didn't work. Now that I am looking at it from afar, I realized we did try changing each other. I believe that one should change for a person he or she loves. Compromise, the better word for it. Then, thru time, little would one know that he or she is changing already.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Feb 13
Sounds like my ex, he was the same way. Now a days with problems with him and my son.. I know he never listened to me. Have a super saturday there...
@nishant86796 (236)
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2 Feb 13
I think man you had a attraction towards her but the behaviour you don't like.Don't mind man,but I think you are attracted by her outer looks but inner looks don't satisfy you means har nature you din't like.I can just say if she ever changes her attitude or you fre able to brimg some changes in her like you did then you can think to make her present otherwose never think of her because it will just irritates you.
@binaybbsr1 (375)
• India
2 Feb 13
its perhaps human nature to prove himself right, even with him/her he/she is not compatible. On the other hand, its impractical to satisfy everyone and its rather wise to ignore the person, with whom you had some dark period of life. If you x changes topics, its nothing wrong at least now, when you are not with her. I like your observation on her ... she is just amazing. Better to forget her and pray for your and if possible her better future. After all some of her nature had made you to be closer with her.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
2 Feb 13
Maybe she is not the kind of listener guy, and she needs to be noticed and cared about. It's part of a person's personality, so if you cannot accept it, just let it be and don't bother yourself anymore.
I think since there are talkers, there will always be listeners. She'll find her right person anyway, and of course you will, too!
Best wishes!
@taiwanlife (745)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
Thanks. This is a good angle to to consider for my next relationship, not that I am looking for one now.:)
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
And that is why you are no longer together. I think, based on your description, your ex is a selfish person who loves no one but herself.
