How to convince my friend to start looking for job?

The fact your friend is spending her parents money is not of your business. This is something between her and her parents. But you can refuse to give her money since this is your. Since your friend is jobless and the change is veyr small she will pay you back I would refuse it to her and tell her to find a job and maker her own money. A friend has to respect your NO. BTW a friend like that wouldn't be my friend at all. I don't like lazy and abusive people.

Wow, talk about irresponsible. LOL. But yeah, I couldn't blame you for ignoring her. Keep in mind though that before, she was kind to all of you and gave you things. She is, no doubt, generous, however, careless she is with money. She is also very lazy. If she wants easy life, maybe she should marry a rich person. Ahaha, though I bet she will be dumped after this person realize how she spends her money. I feel sorry for her though. You tried to help her. Just show her some good income opportunities. the rest is up to her, if she won't help herself then nobody will. Don't spoil her by letting her stay in. She might think that everything is fine and will rely on people to take care of her again.

the work force is not an easy thing to decide to just go to once you have not been in it. it means you will be giving yourself up to some one else each day of your life just to survive. your friend may be forced to go to the labor force, but she will do it on her own time. i understand you not wanting to give her any money. her friends can't take care of her forever. i am just saying that working is not an easy thing at all. if you work, you know how hard it is.

If you offered her a job, what more can you do? When she realizes the seriousness of her situation, she'll do something about it.

You have done your part. Let her learn her own lesson. If she have no one to turn to and she starve, that would be the time that she will think of looking for a job. Have a nice day!

You friend doesn't want to work, you said you offer her a job, she not interested, as long as she, has money to spend and party, and go to the movies, with she will never get a job, you and your friends are doing, the right thing by not, giving her any more money, she was careless with the inheritance, that she had and it's best, for you and your friends to stop helping her, maybe this will teach her, to get a job when she see that, you are not going to give, her any more money.

This is probably why your friend is living a very carefree life! She has got some money that was given to her freely and she did not worked hard for the money hence, she does not appreciate the value of the money. I think what you can do is first talk to her, and tell her your concerns for the kind of life she is living. Make her feel you are her friend and wants her to be responsible that you appreciate what she gave you in the past and has also done your share lending her money. But she needs to gather her activities and know for sure what she wants to happen to her life. If she continues to spend for the money she does not have, i think that would only mean she will bee in a debt soon because she has no work... and though you are there for her and some of her other true friends would be there to help too, she needs to have a stable income so she can continue her lifestyle. Maybe since you offered her a job already, and she seemed not interested at the time, after talking with her, ask her again if she would be willing to try and apply for the job and if it is the same work as yours, at least both of you would be together. I think she just needs to feel that spending your own money is better and is guilt free... of course you have to be careful not to offend her when you try to talk to her, as she might get it the wrong way and would cost you both your friendship as misunderstanding may arise (her not getting your concern and not understanding the sincere intentions you have).

You have done your part and it is now your friend to take action. You cannot convince someone to get a job it is not really in their mind. The changes and motivation should come from her and not to anyone else. As a friend, you can only be there to give advise but the decision will always depends on her. She might not realize the importance of having a job now but sooner or later, she will definitely realize that things are not permanent.

a pleasant day to you randomarts09, as i have read your post, i do somehow feel pity to your friend. its like she was having the whole world before when she got her inheritance but due to a lot of spending and maybe misuse of her funds, she ended up borrowing up. honestly what you are doing is the best thing to do now though she was not cooperating. maybe she is not yet ready to face the world since she knows within herself that what she did is not the proper things to do. anyway, even i didn't know you personally, i can just sense from here that you are a good person, and believing your other friends do also care for her. perhaps, just continue offering her a help and with the job, just continue to open that with her. and if you could also offer her your guidance on how to to deal with the job, then it would be a great step for her to rise again. anyway, i just hope and wish you success to uplift her to the best that you can. even i didn't know you, again, i will say, i believed you have a good heart indeed.

She needs to sit down with a guidance counselor who can help her. Since she does not have parents anymore, she needs advise from people who she could listen to. You as her friend can suggest to her to see a guidance counselor for proper counseling so she will be able to repair her life.

I think, you need to give her a big blow on her head so she'd wake up from her fantasy of having a good life without having to do anything. I mean, I feel that you are a good friend to her, and she needs to know that you are sincere in helping her in anyway. But unless she makes the move, there's nothing much you can do for her.

That sounds sad. Since all her friends have already avoided her, it is now a measure of what kind of friend you are. You should stick by her, but not patronising her as to feed her. You are not her mother. Just talk her out...plainly and squarely. If need be, jot her up to face reality. Someone has got to wake her up, so why not let that be you if you care for her.

Then I think you should not loan money to her any more and let her to understand the real life,people need to work for life,that is the simple concept in our society and she must know that,though she will feel hard and upset at first but she will move on and face the reality sooner or later.

Your, right you must teach her a lesson but I think you will succeed, well just try the problem of your friend is the basic foundation as child from her parents and it was beyond your reach. You just help if you have something to give and guide her if you wish let her participate on seminar of money making kit and expose her to hard labor friends or relative of yours. We just pray it can help her.