Is adult problem attributed to infancy experience?
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
China
February 1, 2013 9:23pm CST
I've heard that our characteristics, behavior, preference of things and of partners, are partly influenced by what we experienced during infancy and childhood.
For example, if a girl doesn't receive enough love from her father, she might prefer a partner that is older than her, so he can love and care for her as a father. That's what she prefers.
And for me, I think I'm not so independent as I should have been, since I'm under too much care from my parents. I also have only a few hobbies, that means, I cannot play fun and enjoy myself to the full, although I want to. That's sad.
Do you have any of those mentioned problem? Please share with me.
Happy mylotting!
3 responses
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
2 Feb 13
I think it can have some what of an impact. While I do take full responsibility for my decisions, I do believe that maybe if my parents had treated us like human beings instead of prisoners and allowed us some life experience maybe things would have chosen differently I did make a lot of stupid, naive mistakes, but it was mistakes that can only be expected when you've had no freedom in your whole life.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
2 Feb 13
Yes, I understand. And since we cannot change the way parents treated us, we can change how we treat our next generation:) Give them more freedom to play, and speak out their opinions, make their own decisions... these things will really make a difference.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Feb 13
I think maybe some things and some people are like that. My father never loved on me, never kissed, hugged me or told me he loved me. My husband is only a few years older than I am, nothing like a father figure since we are really close in age so I don't think that one is true at all...
I do think my parents had a part in my low self esteem problems though since they never told me I was doing a good job or that I was good at anything. They constantly compared me to my siblings and never praised me. So, I have low self esteem and never really think I am good at anything. With that, I agree that my parents had something to do with it.
@Sarahliuliwen (300)
• China
2 Feb 13
Sadly the self esteem thing is true on me, too. And that feeling is so deeply rooted that I cannot remove it or forget it for long, even if my friends often tell me how good I am.
@Ashu1970 (63)
• India
2 Feb 13
Yes, our infancy and childhood experiences have a great impact on our behaviour as an adult. We pick up certain habits, learn from our surroundings, society and family and these things invariably become part and parcel of our day to day life. Thus many of the problems we face as an adult have roots in our upbringing, surroundings and family. I am very short tempered and I know that lands me in trouble most of the times. I can link this to the fact that my Dad is also same and I grew up observing my Dad loosing his control very quickly.
