When can people stop bullying others ?
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
Philippines
February 2, 2013 1:26am CST
My friend was an employee of a multinational company. She was doing good, a company car was issued to her. Late last year 2012 there was offer by the Company to any employee who wishes to retire and a good sum of money is at stake. She has a project on her mind and lot of money is needed to finance the project. She availed the offer and go on with his project. She was successful but later on she decided to look for a job again and he landed on and IT company with a much higher salary from the former. Along the line many co-employees envy her, for she got a much higher salary compared to them, who was been long working with the company. She was then the target of issues hard to take. The sad things is that all issues thrown to her is all manufactured. She felt very bad and with no way to go she then resigned and now she is jobless and nearly suffered a nervous breakdown, good that her family and friends really was on her side and supported her all the way and she has now fully recovered.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
2 Feb 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Oh my god, that sounds really bad and disappointing and i know what she must have gone through during such phases. i am glad to hear that she has fully recovered and i would like to say her that no matter how envious her colleagues are she should always enjoy her life for she is not born to please them.
What say?
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@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
Thank God she recovered already. Some people are really full of envy. The object of envy is really affected. She must be strong and hold on to God. Envy is a work of Satan. Many are really bullies and they will not get away with God. I have a step sister who bully me always and I just lift her to God. Surely, God will punish those who are bullies.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
She should have been stronger in dealing with the situation. She was doing well and her success does not have anything to do with the other people who may be bullying her. Those people are just envious of what she has. She shouldn't have minded them.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Feb 13
People will never start bullying. Adults do and children do. It's a habit of the humans not to like those who are different. No matter what the difference is. Being different is a threat!
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
2 Feb 13
This what they call crab mentality.
Some people would do anything to pull a person down especially if they can see that this person is doing good when it comes to career.
Just thankful that she is doing fine. Hopefully, she could still find a new job.
Have a nice day!
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
2 Feb 13
this is a very bad story and so hateful. arggh!!! how can these people can do such. well she should have not have resigned it is just she proved them right anyway.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
this is going to be hard for her... it can only be her decision though if she would stay in the company. sometimes we cannot really avoid these people who would envy you because you obviously is better than them. but your friend is capable so maybe she can just try to see if she can find another job. bullying will not stop when she herself won't show them that they should not push her around.
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
It's tough that she attracted that kind of attention beause of her high salary. Employees should not really gossip about how much another employee is getting because it is confidential matter. I know the feeling of being talked about the way she had experienced though the envy part wasn't really that apparent with my former colleagues. I am glad she got over that issue and recovered. It was not a good environment for her.
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@babyanna (1216)
• China
3 Feb 13
Man, I'm glad that she's fully recovered. People say don't punish yourself with other people's stupidity. But sometimes it's really hard. Sometimes I wish the world could be a much simpler place, where people feel happy about other people's achievements. But that's just so hard, isn't it?
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
3 Feb 13
Bad people will get their own karma. Good people will notice your friend's capability. I hope she would keep doing good and won't be afraid to try again. She will find these envious people every where she goes, moreover when she keeps doing great. But let these envious people stand behind her because that's where they should: behind her. I hope she won't be afraid to find a job again. God bless her.
@else22 (4317)
• India
3 Feb 13
That's really a sad story.The good news is that she has recovered now.The problem is that whereever she gets employed,she is likely to come across such envious people.It is for her to make herself strong enough to face such colleagues.After all she would have to work,and envious people are rampant.Although it isnot easy,but she needs to make herself strong and fearless otherwise she would be a sitting duck for bullies.
@nyssa102 (748)
• United States
2 Feb 13
Marilyn Monroe said it best, when she remarked that 'success makes so many people hate you'. What happened to your friend was called 'mobbing'. Do a websearch for these terms: "Community mobbing" "Firefighters and Gang Stalking" "workplace mobbing" "siren harassment", do a search for all four of these, and you will find many answers to your question. There are now many anti-bullying sites on the web.
There are sick people that always have the need to bully, or 'tattle'. They are obsessed with rules and authority. These are often used to get people to gang up on other people, often innocent people. Your friend, was innocent, the only crime being her being that she is an intelligent and amazing person.
You are good to have written this, I will send positive energy your friends way.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
3 Feb 13
This is a hard matter to eliminate since we all are bullied by some ways, and some bullies aren’t even aware that they are doing some bad things over people because it is innate in their character.
The best way that one should eliminate such trait is that the bullied person should fight back; this is the only way that such will be eliminated in some society and culture.
You should always fight back and know your rights, you should always put a notion that such people are feeding on your fears and they will always keep on bullying you if you don’t take actions on their bad character. Be brave, and face them without fear.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
2 Feb 13
It is hard when you are driven from your job because of other peoples's envy. And I bet the Company lost out on her services. I wonder if she told her employer and he dismissed her charges. That would cause anyone to quit.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
3 Feb 13
I believe that people will bully others to make them feel superior. Some people need to feel power above someone weaker to make themselves feel stronger. I feel that anyone can stop bully another person at any time. It is a matter of choice. If we could all stop bullying each other we could get along so much better in society.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
2 Feb 13
There will always be people like that who find happiness in making others feel terrible. And I think bullies will stop bullying if they started growing up. But most bullies are not really that tough that once somebody stepped up for themselves and showed those bullies that they're nothing but overgrown kids, then that should show them. 
@andrewbarclave (485)
• Ireland
2 Feb 13
At the end of the day the best way to help with bullying is to be there for the person who is being bullied. That's my opinion anyway
