depressed no, tired of hearing depressed.

@GardenGerty (160663)

• United States

3 Feb 13

There is a difference between being bored and out of it, and having a brain chemistry issue. I also think that for some of us, who are not clinically depressed, but just bored with what we have, it is good to have people tell us to appreciate our lives. My first husband was depressed and on medication, so I do know the difference.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

3 Feb 13

oh dear moongypsy I should have elaborated more as I was not talking about the real mental health issues at all and I do know what you mean too. I meant these people who have everything and are just complaining because they are bored. I did not mean real mental illnesses at all. I am so aware of that and its my fault for not having considered that in my discussion here.Do forgive me as now looking at it I see its too glib. And I did not mean it that way. thanks Garden Gerty I should have been more elaborate and aware too and made the distinction so I would not hurt anyone here. I just got carried away by some complainers who really had nothing to complain about.Too I was thinking of the poor woman who is homeless and living in our alley behind my room in the building here where i reside.She has almost nothing save the sacks she has with her,

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

3 Feb 13

just to add I wi sh there were a way for m e to leaborate b ut I g uess j ust ex plain as I go.,

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WakeUpKitty

@WakeUpKitty (8694)

• Netherlands

3 Feb 13

Might be there are people over here just to complain instead of starting a good discussion or just there to get some relief of what is bothering them because they have nobody else to talk to. I personally don't care, but might be I read other discussions? But if it does comes to "depression" to my opinion way too much people use that word if it's not about a depression at all. Being depressed is not what you feel if you are just down once in a while, if you can't get what you want (for the moment), if you have had a bad or boring day. A real depressed person will seldom sit behind his/her laptop answering discussions but lock up him/herself feeling miserable, hiding, staying in bed and shut the outside world, incl. close friends, family out.

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@GardenGerty (160663)

• United States

3 Feb 13

I think that is very much the point. It is not real depression, but more of us all acting like spoiled brats. I have known real depressed people. We also get in a rut here and talk like we hate life instead of starting happy and interesting discussions for others to read. I know there are also people on here who are having mental and emotional problems and this is the only place where they get someone to listen to them. I have also known the withdrawn type of depressed people.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

3 Feb 13

hi wakeupoKitty and GardenGerty yes I do know there are p;ople who just need to be able to talk to us and I do understand. I am just saying that we all should take time out to e glad for what we have as its so easy to get down when You look at what you do not have. m yself I did not expect to end up here for four years when it was mom it will only be for a few months then we will get together in a two bedroom apt again. It did no t happen so I have to pu ll up my big girl panties and be happy here.,I hope I ha ve not angered an yone as I did not intend that at all.

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ajithlal

@ajithlal (14716)

• India

6 Feb 13

Every second of our life is precious and we have to make it better by having faith and love in our life. God always have better plan for us in our lives and we have to fill our lives with faith, hope, and love.

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@GardenGerty (160663)

• United States

3 Feb 13

I am probably one of the whiners today, except I do not do it on MyLot. I was just thinking how unmotivated and disappointed I am right now. You know, I bring it on myself, and at least half my problem is from procrastinating and another part of it is because I have not gotten enough sleep or personal time this week. If we can see our blessings we should choose to be grateful, but sometimes we had rather choose to wallow in self pity. I think I am going to go find a bite to eat and go outside and soak up some sunshine, because I can.

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@GardenGerty (160663)

• United States

4 Feb 13

Yeah, my earnings a lot of places dropped lately, usually on sites with glitches.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi gardengerty that could have been part of it for me too. also my typos had a field day. I totally messed up on LMB comments last night and had to almost rewrite my comment as I had so many bad typos.I think I was both getting too tired and also a bit teed off at my son for being so late coming to see me. But as he said he had his bike with him so had to take a bus with a bike rack , they all do not have them. So it made him late.Now really I should have just stopped when I started making such a mess as it was not my son's fault lol but when i get started on something I hate to quit. Also I forgot plain and simple to hit edit and hit post before I realized I had not corrected m

y post.

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

3 Feb 13

I have had the feel sorry for mes tos as I keep making typos and my earnings have dropped dreadfully b t I think if I just edit and then post I will start making the same money as before too. I tried to help the homeless woman but she chose to come back to the ally again. I just give up as I do not know how to further help yer, someone cane and took her and she was gone for two days but shes back again and slept out on that sofa. I cannot bring her up to my room as we are not allowed to let any one but ourselves sleep in our rooms,.part of t e rules., I felt sorry for her as I was h mneless when I cane here and Ik now how horrible it felt to me to

o.,

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ElicBxn

@ElicBxn (63594)

• United States

3 Feb 13

Hatley, love, depression isn't lack of some THING or THINGS, it is often a chemical imbalance in the brain. It doesn't matter how many good things a person has, if that imbalance is there, the person will be depressed. It maybe nearly impossible for that person to see anything good in their lives. And sometimes it takes losing those good things to make them realize they need help.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (92711)

• United States

3 Feb 13

Very, very true. And I almost pointed that out. But I think sometimes people do get depressed because they think things will make them happy. But oh so many people have the physical problem of depression.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi Elicbxn and Ambie pam yes I know that but sadly I wrote this in too much of a hurry, and left out the elements of real depression and mental illness. I did know that depression is a chemical imbalance. I was speaking of people who misuse the word depression just to mean they are bored by life in general. I should have mentioned I was not talking about real depression and real mental health issues and I did not do that which was unfair of me. yes I know that and for awhile when I first came here I was depressed but soon found I had to make myself happy as I had no choice,My son at that time was still looking for work and we had no home as we had been evicted. He is now working full time at half the wages he had before but as he said it is a job. for a 53 year old man with a lifetime of computer programming skills this is hard to bear but he does it. I feel for him as his mom. So we cannot share a two bedroom apt again maybe never as I am 86 so who knows. so I have to be happy its my choice.

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JenInTN

@JenInTN (27514)

• United States

6 Feb 13

I think that there are a lot of people that vent here. I try to always remember that there is someone out there that has it worse than me. I fuss about working all the time, but I know there are people out there without. I might have a cold today but there are people out there that can't take a medicine to be over their illness. Everyone has struggles and although they are not the same..they are still struggles. It is hard to hear them when we have a big heart...it effects us as if it were us. Hang in there MS Hatley.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

6 Feb 13

hi jenintn I hear so many right here on my hlot that if I had a lot of mon ey I would just give it to them just to know they would now be okay.So many families are really struggling and so sometimes i get testy when someone complains abut some little petty thing when they have a nice home, a good job, plenty of money and no r eal worries. As right here on our myhot are people really struggling just to feed their children keep a roof over their heads and raise their children, Joba are scarce and so many have been laid off so when someone complains about not having some luxury I want to ask them what they have and remind them to be grateful now as so many wish they had all those

things.

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vanny

@vandana7 (100282)

• India

3 Feb 13

I have moved out of depression ...and I do feel thankful to all mylotters who helped me when I was going through it. At times, just words like...I am there for you...do the trick. So the idea is to make the person survive a few more days or months or even years so that he or she hits a better patch of life by that time. It is hard to notice good things at such time ...but comforting by others does not go unnoticed. And it is that which makes a lot of difference. Thank you Hatley, for helping me through.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

3 Feb 13

hi vandy I am glad you made it through,. I was a little deoressed when I landed here as it was not where I wanted to be but I have pulled through and cried a few tears and laughed

some and started to be grateful for what I do have and its helped.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi thesids glad to see you and glad Vandy is feeling better too How are you? okay?

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theSids

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

4 Feb 13

#Vandana:

I have moved out of depression

Made my day for sure

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KrauseHome

@KrauseHome (36448)

• United States

6 Feb 13

Personally my friend in a lot of ways you are not far from the Truth in this one, and sometimes it does make you wonder what these people might really be Thankful for. Yes, we all go thru struggles and trials in our life, but if you have a job, and a roof over your head, and food then what is really so wrong? I have gone thru many things in my life, and could write a book of what I have been thru, and how I have overcome, and even with all the challenges right now with my leg, and the wound never wanting to heal completely, as well as the struggles of being Diabetic life is good. I have a nice home and a wonderful husband. When we are out there working with the homeless for our homeless ministry with our church, it makes me realize just how greatful we are.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

12 Feb 13

hi tina yuo sure have had it rough and still keep smiling and thats great. As I am a diabetic too I know some of wheat you are going through. I have to keep this special cream on hand when the stupid rash breaks out on my leg as if I let it go like before it can turn into cellulitis then I had real problems. It gets me that a little scratch that heals in two days for other people will take forever to heal on me.We both could probably write books

as we were made homeless and all that we went through but I really just want to forget that and try to be happy where I am now.

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Ainsley Jo Phillips

@AJ1952Chats (2332)

• Anderson, Indiana

4 Feb 13

Perhaps, it would be more accurate to say something like "I'm having a bit of the blues." or "I'm feeling a little down today." rather than depressed, since depression is a condition that lasts over a period of time instead of just the feeling of the moment. However, I'm glad that people feel free to come here to MyLot and vent. We all need to vent at times instead of sucking it up and holding it inside of us. Even so, it's good to think about our blessings--but NOT for the purpose of beating ourselves up for those blue moments we might also be experiencing. We own those feelings and need to be honest about them. Here's something going on right now that feels really good to me! It's a little after five in the late afternoon/early evening. Right around five, the sun suddenly popped out from under the clouds and is giving everything a special glow. Hey! I think I'm going to share this in its own discussion...

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@AJ1952Chats (2332)

• Anderson, Indiana

4 Feb 13

As promised, I've written this and am now sharing it here... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2745856.aspx

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Ainsley Jo Phillips

@AJ1952Chats (2332)

• Anderson, Indiana

6 Feb 13

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

6 Feb 13

hi Aj1952chats thanks yes I do really agree and its funny if we had others say to us what we say tso ourselves in re to beating ourselves up we would be furious with them. i went through that when we were evicted if only I had not done this but done that, or spent less and put more on the rent and on and on but now I am grateful for a warm room and a new comfy bed and friends here and on mylot and my son and my best friend.See what started this was seeing this young woman camping out in the alley under my window she is homeless and new at it and here I was in a comfortable room with a comfy new bed and heat and three meals a day.Safe from the elements. I love it that we all have mylot to vent and to ask for help and get help and to help others too. I was looking out at d usk and saw the most gorgeou s sunset and wondered why I had not been watching for mor e of them as it was just beautiful and made me know more than ever there is a God.

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ajithlal

@ajithlal (14716)

• India

6 Feb 13

I also used to get depressed sometimes in life. I have read some motivational books and other things and found some shortcuts to be happy. One is that we should never worry about the past and instead try to decorate the memories that we have and think about the good things we have. We cannot change the past and so we need not worry about it. We cannot predict future so we should not think or worry too much about and only plan for the future and think that future is going to be good and have good plans and visualization of the future. The best think do is to live at the present moment and enjoy the present whatever we are doing.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

12 Feb 13

hi ajithlal my husband used to say almost the same thing to me when I was being a worrywart.He said you cannot change past and you cannot do anything about tomorrow so today is all you have so be happy and be positive this day.I love your last sentence too as ti is so true.

Amber

@AmbiePam (92711)

• United States

3 Feb 13

You know what I'm tired of? People moaning about money troubles when they have previously talked about buying an Xbox, a Playstation, games for those, the newest TV, new clothes, the latest iphone or IPad...I'm like, really? Maybe if you didn't buy so many toys you'd have more money to pay your actual bills.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (92711)

• United States

4 Feb 13

And even worse Hatley, I'm sure you've seen it here on mylot. They buy all that stuff, and say they don't have enough money for food, so they go to the food pantry. They take the free food even though if they didn't buy all that stuff they would have money for food. And that food could be used for people who really need it because they absolutely do not have the money for it.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

and ambiepam here mylot are several families who really could use that food as the bread winner while working is barely making any wages and they are really struggling to feed their three children and need help desperately while others use food banks that should not have to

. not fair in my estimation.

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi ambie pam I had a visiting nurse several years back who came to check on me when I came back from rehab for a twisted knee and the first thing she said was did I have an xbox or an ipad or smart phone now if she knew Ii was here on social security and ssi why would she think I had the money to buy those things and if she had read my chart why would I have been evicted and homeless if I had money for all that stuff. I had the computer and monitor before my son lost his job and we got behind on the rent and were evicted and made homeless. people now days seem to think if they do not have all the newest electronic gadgets they are badly mistreated. I too hate to hear people moaning about lacking something electronic

when they spend their money on stuff then cannot pay their bills.

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comfort55

@comfort55 (1574)

• India

11 Feb 13

I agree with you Hatley because yesterday only I was reading that depression is a disease like flu or any other ailment which has to be cured after consulting a psychiatrist. If not treated properly it does take its toll but generally people, if at some point of time get bored, they call it depression. They don't realize that if they,God forbid, suffer from depression they will have hard time to get normal and that too after medication.Have a nice day!

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

12 Feb 13

hi comfort thats it. Real depression has to be treated by a doctor and they tell me its not fun to go through at all.so its not like someone whose just angry that they cannot afford right then to buy a new cellphone.They do not even realize that for some people getting a cell phone is not a worry but getting a home and food and a job is a worry.Thus I say if you have a good job, money in the bank,a nice home and food in the fridge then why are you so upset. wait and you will have money for something new but be grateful for what you do have.Some, people are homeless and out of work, and food and money.

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bounce58

@bounce58 (17387)

• Canada

6 Feb 13

That's right! Go tell 'em Hatley! Tell me too!

Sometimes we just loose perspective on things. And we dwell on things that drag us down, thereby painting a depressing picture of our lives. And then we go an complain about it online like here in myLot. But when we really look at it, there's far more people in worse situations than us.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

12 Feb 13

hibounce well I got to thinking myself as I was feeling down but then I met this little woman who came iinto my room looking for the elevator. She only had one leg and was in a wheelchair.We talked for a little while and she was cheerful then I showed her where the elevator was walker and all. I thought yu quit being down you have two good legs and if need be you could probably still use your quad cane. this lady is smiling and only has one leg. smile now darn it.so then I wrote this discussion .I did realize I was still better off

than many here.

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inertia4

@inertia4 (27960)

• United States

4 Feb 13

Being depressed has nothing to with having a job or not. It may add to it but it is not the cause. As a matter of fact, someone that is depressed that has a job could be at risk of losing it. Now, there are many reasons why people become depressed. One being extreme stress in their life, losing someone or being taken for a ride. Now I have my issues as I am sure most people do. But when you have children and a situation that looks bleak, well, depression seems to take control. Having money or a job will not fix that. I have an income and I am not happy so explain that one. True depression goes deeper then just the surface. Like any other condition, there are many levels of depression. Some are to the total extreme. So, don't think that anyone who has a good job and makes money is or should be happy. it don't work that way.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi in ertia I think I stated I was not talking about clinical depressionsw as I know already its caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. l wish there was some way to amend my discussion as I seem to have angered a lot of people I never meant to., I meant those who merely are unhappy because while they have all the necessities they cannot afford all the electronic goodies that are out there.all I was saying for people who are not clinically depressed we should all be grateful l for what wed do have and not be unhappy for what we cannot have. I never intended to belittle all the many many mylotters here who are struggling with clinical depression, I WILL SAY IT AGAIN i AM NOT TALKING ABOUT REAL CLINICAL DEPRESSION AT ALL NOR ABOUT REAL MENTALEAtLH ISSUES.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

6 Feb 13

thanks so much Lo ri that means the world to me as I never meant to hurt anyone.

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inertia4

@inertia4 (27960)

• United States

7 Feb 13

Hey Now!!! Why in the world would you apologize for this discussion? Isn't that what MyLot is all about? I mean, we start a discussion, we look for responses. This is your view point and thats fine. I was just pointing out the differences. Thats all. And being it is a discussion forum, thats what we do. We discuss it. It is not a matter of offending anyone. And to set the record clear, you offended no one. Don't worry. Lets enjoy this discussion.

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bjc66bjc

@bjc66bjc (6730)

• United States

3 Feb 13

Hi Hatley, I certainly do agree with you...A lot and I mean \a lot of people just don't realize that they are much better off that a lot of others...WE as people just have to be thankful\ for what we have and realized that even tho we feel we are having a hard time there are other who wished they were in our position.. We are all blessed in one way or another...

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi bjc yes thats it as I mig ht want to be in a two bedroom apt with ny adult son bujt it cannot happen as he is not making enough money to pay the obscene rent here., He had to have section 8 to get into a one bedroom for 30 percent of his wages which makes it just 400 dollars as opposed to 1000 a month here in Calif. I am happy now as i an grateful I am in a warm place with a comfy bed and three meals a day as opposed to living o n the street and in shelters.We are all blessed in some way

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suspenseful

@suspenseful (40193)

• Canada

4 Feb 13

Depression does not matter if you have wealth or not, you have health or not. It has to do with a chemical inbalance and one can get out of that by going out in the sun. Also sometimes people are depressed because something that they really want they cannot have and I am not referring to material. The reason that they are depressed is because that do not get what they need or what, people might assume that they did not want that item or condition anyway. for instance, look at the term for couples without children- child free, whereas childless would be a better description. The same with poor people, they are lazy when they did not have a chance. With wealthy, greedy whereas they may be opening a business and no one will apply for the job I get low grade depression even though my house paid for, but I am glad I have musical and writing ability, but I am not going to lie and say that I am so happy to make you feel good, No one can will themselves to be non depressed. There are things that we need and we do not get them. Will that make one depressed if the result of not getting what they want will give people the wrong impression? Of course it will.

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suspenseful

@suspenseful (40193)

• Canada

4 Feb 13

Well are you not talking about envy and covetousness? That is a different subject and besides it is not the material things but what they do not have in ability that they feel bad about? You cannot force a person to be grateful and say that you are better off then other people. Those other people may have what you wanted large family, a grandparent living nearby, a pleasant calm personality, wonderful cook and housekeeper - the things that would have meant that money did not matter in the long one. You say with a good personality and ability, material possessions do not matter as much. But material possessions do matter, if you are not given the gift of a wonderful personality, are a neat freak, and you can go out in the pouring rain and your hair falls neatly in place. . I do not think that anyone is depressed out of boredom. That means that unless it is a chemical inbalance, there is no reason to be depressed and you have to get over it. So what happens one does not talk about it and says one is fine and often those who are depressed because of not having what others have - aside from envy - often needed those things like perhaps to help someone and the opportunity went away.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi suspensful I really do not know how to respond as i have tried to make everyone know I am not talking about real depression or real mental illness.I am not trying to force anyone to do anything and you are taking this way too far. I cannot say more than I have already. sorry.This discussion was not meant to hurt anyone but maybe to help someone.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi suspenseful I am sorry I did not really mention or clearly anyway that I was not at all referring to real genuine depressions that I am told is usually caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and must be treated by their doctor, nor about people with mental health issues either. I was referring to those who just are down out of boredom or out of wishing for the luxuries they cannot afford. You are so right about how we will judge people and just assume we know as we do not know at all., I just do not do that. I believe in judge not lest ye be judged. I was merely talking about people who do not take a little while to realize that even if they are not wealthy they are much better off than a lot of other people who probably wish they had what the others have. Just that we all should be grateful for what

we do have.

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Artemeis

@artemeis (4194)

• China

5 Feb 13

People today are both reckless and restless. It is a fact. Sadly but true, a recent study conducted with thousands of female readers of glamour.com on the trials and tribulations they experience in their twenties has revealed that 72% said they regret at least one person they dated, while 77% wished they'd never had a one-night stand and 30% said they were ashamed to admit they'd slept with a stranger when drunk. Then, as they attempt to forge their careers, 45% thought they'd get their dream job in their twenties while 44% wish they had worked out what they wanted to do sooner. Finally on financials, 61% spend more than they earn and nearly half have no savings. Not forgetting, those freshmen who enters their first job with a huge debt on their shoulders. How could these people not be depressed? I really have to wonder.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

6 Feb 13

hi artemis yes in this electronic wonder age with so much really wonderful things on the market people are for some reason even more unhappy with all the stuff they thought they had to have. restless, easily bored, the instant generation who expects too much too fast and never seems happy either.I know that some suffer from real depression and its got to be handled by their doctors. B ut for the persons who are just unhappy perhaps because their funds did not quite reach for the newest of new things not because they are in any real trouble I often wonder why they do not stop and realize how much they have and be grateful for what they do have.'I know I have had to as I never really wanted to be in a place like this but circumstances drove us to put me here as my son and I had our world turned upside down and were made homeless. So I have seen enough of my own kind of trouble so am not unsympathetic to others who are also having money problems. so this was not aimed at people in real trouble but just a gentle reminder we all should be really grateful for what we have as so many right now have it so much worse off.

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saundyl

@saundyl (9783)

• Canada

6 Feb 13

I have noticed alot of people are unhappy where they are and with what they have. Its sad for them that they dwell on what they dont have rather than what they do. I am happy where i am. I love my job, I have a wonderful home with a wonderful man. Despite not being able to have kids of my own...i get to share two wonderful boys with him. I'm in a happy place.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

17 Mar 13

hi saundyl yes I know that feeling as we had two kids and wanted three b ut I had to have an emergency hysterectomy so that stopped that and sadly we lost our little girl when she was 8 to pneumonia so it really did hurt. but I have my one son who is my pride and joy today.I asm glad yuo do love those boys so.

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saundyl

@saundyl (9783)

• Canada

27 Mar 13

That would be so hard!

saundyl

@saundyl (9783)

• Canada

21 Feb 13

It made me very sad for ages after i found out i couldn't have any of my own. But I came to terms with that and the fact that there are other options. Including loving the boys i now get to share.

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jugsjugs

@jugsjugs (12967)

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3 Feb 13

I have only found out in the last few years that my mother takes pills for depression, even though each time we had the hospital I was the one who handed all her pills to them, I still have only discovered what they are all for. My brother suffers from depression as well as anxiety he is also on pills as well, to me he has nothing to be depressed about, but still he is on meds. I do not have depression, I like you have good days as well as bad day when it comes to health. Bored, is what I am, tired is another, but not depressed.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi jugsjugs you know I left out that real dpression is a medical condition and has to be t reated by doctorss and also mental illness inssues were not what I w as talking about. I just meant so many use the term that are not depressed but just bo red and are not realizing that compared to many others who have things much worse they do have things to be grateful for. you on the other hand have had your share of real medical problems yet you are upbeat and not moaning about problems and I know you do have them as d o I too.I have just got over the worst cold and am so glad it did not turn into bronchitis like it often does.,Last year I was sick for almost two f ull months ending up with bronchial pneumonia. I think my table mate S teve who sits across from me may have been passing his cold germs to me last year as he blew his nose on pieces of his napkin then laid them on the table not ten inches from where my plate was. He maintained he did not blow his nose b ut he did wipe it and he did toss the pieces on the tavle. my other table mate Jessi this week told him to stop doing that and he has stopped. wish i had done that last winter. People just do not think how colds are spread.

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

6 Feb 13

hi echo when I first came here it seemed like everything made me cry but my son got my monitor and comup ter out of storage and i got back on h ere. i was thrilled a all the discussions wondering where i was an if I was okay I assured everyone i w as in a safe retirement center and myh son had a part time job and I was reall y okay..So finally over the years I have adjusted to being here as long as my son comes to see me and my friend nelda keeps in tou ch I am just fine.

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@echoforever (5180)

• United States

4 Feb 13

Where as there are serious depressed people with a real mental depression and there are people who are just ungrateful and become upset over small things they don't have, I feel I'm in the middle. I don't have weeks upon weeks of depression usually I am always mentally normal feeling netiher happy nor sad or depressed.

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@allknowing (136369)

• India

4 Feb 13

There are those who can only 'see' what they do not have and with this attitude there is no hope that they will ever be happy. Probably those that you are referring to could be belonging to this category. Being able to know that it is not how much we have but what we make of what we have to be happy is a blessing and not all have that. I have it. Praise the Lord.

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@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi allknowing yes that is what I meant as there are always others much worse off than ourselves. I h ave had to learn to be grateful for what I had as I learned others are even worse off than my self and Ii am living in a warm comfortable room with a good new bed and three meals a day.I have longed to be back in a two bedroomn apt but right now thats out of the auestion so I decided to be happy now.here.rents are horribly high and most have to have two wage earners to afford a two bedroom apr and so I am no longer working at 86.

@Hatley (163776)

• Garden Grove, California

4 Feb 13

hi allknowing yes I have known e ole lioke that too. One woman I worked with a long time back had become a widow and her husband had left her a goodly s um of money but she insisted on buying the most expensive things instead of practically priced items and soon she was just about broke, She was moaning that she had to keep working just to keep her utilities and rent paid. Now she had all those expensive items of furniture and was nearly broke.she had a fit when we sugested she sell some of that stuff.

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@allknowing (136369)

• India

4 Feb 13

Each of us are placed in certain stations in life and for some if they did not have the latest model but a mere Chevrolet that would place them in the dumps!

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@changjiangzhibin89 (16763)

• China

4 Feb 13

There is no denying the fact that nowadays,there are a lot of people who still live in great misery for various reasons in this world,maybe including a portion of mylotters.To say they are depressed would be an understatement.However we can't rule out the possibility that what some talked about their blah life in their mylot discussions is all just a sentimental pose.

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